For the past few months (probably 6+) I had decided on using the name [name_f]Sadie[/name_f] for my first name.
But every so often a wave of doubt rushes over me and I start to panic. My boyfriend ,some family and friends call me [name_f]Sadie[/name_f] so it makes me feel trapped by the decision.
But I can’t help the feeling that I’m wrong and there’s a different name that I’m ‘‘supposed’’ to have. What am I supposed to do? Go forward with using [name_f]Sadie[/name_f] because people know me by it now and legally change it. Or do I keep looking? I’m so confused at this point and feel like I’m losing my mind over this situation. Thanks for any help.
I think if you don’t feel like the name is right for you, then definitely keep looking! The people around you have to respect your decision if you decide that [name_f]Sadie[/name_f] isn’t ‘the one’. You shouldn’t have to feel like you must be named something just because others call you by it right now. You hold the power on you own name and what you’d like to be addressed as. Good luck!
I’d keep using [name_f]Sadie[/name_f] for now but put off legally changing it until you’re certain and continue looking. It may be the case that you decide later that it really does work for you and you were just having a moment of doubt. There is no harm in waiting.
I’m in a bit of a similar situation. I feel a little trapped by the name I chose for myself and I don’t know what the “right” name for me is.
Coming from my own feelings and experiences surrounding this, my advice is that your name is your own, and others should respect what you choose to name yourself, even if you don’t get it “right” the first time.
So I’d totally recommend looking through this site and thinking a lot about what you love most in a name. Popularity, sound, meaning, initials, etc. If you can narrow things down, I think that’ll help you.
But if you do love [name_f]Sadie[/name_f], you should go with it! I think it’s pretty natural to doubt yourself in this situation. I’ve doubted my name a lot. But is it really the name itself you’re doubting, or is it something else? I guess that’s the question I’d ask, because for me at least it’s the latter.
