I went in for my 12 week scan on Friday and found out our beautiful baby stopped growing at about 8 weeks. It came as a huge shock, everything had felt fine with the baby so even though I was nervous I had never expected anything like this
We feel like we should name the baby for closure. I feel like he/she needs an identity. They might have never joined our family âofficiallyâ but they deserve to have an identity, because our baby was a real person that meant a lot us even though we never got to meet.
Is this something that anyone has any experience with? I feel selfish but I dont want to use one of our favorite names because we could âsaveâ them for when we have another baby. But I feel harsh thinking that. My husband suggested [name_u]Remy[/name_u] because it could work for either gender but I feel like if we ever had a son in the future, we might like to consider that name. Iâm a bit conflicted.
Does anyone have any unisex names that could work? Maybe something with a nice meaning to suit our angel?
Iâm very sorry for your loss. When my husband and I first started dating we loss a pregnancy around six weeks. I found naming our baby helpful with closure. We also wrote a note full of everything we needed to say to our baby and attached it to a balloon and set it go.
I think you should pick a name that you know you wouldnât want to consider for a future child. [name_u]Remy[/name_u] is a wonderful name. Maybe you could use a name that is a GP?
Iâm so sorry for your loss. Naming you baby is a beautiful was to acknowledge their identity and give you a bond and closure. My family members who have had miscarriages have either picked a name that they loved but wouldnât generally use (something of a guilty pleasure name), or a name that had some sort of special meaning to them. I think itâs ok to not use a name that you would strongly consider using on a future child.
If I had to suggest a name, maybe [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u]? Itâs technically unisex, even if itâs used for girls more often, and it means âwished for childâ. Maybe looking for a name with a special meaning is a way to avoid using a name that you would consider in the future, but still give this child a thoughtful and special name.
So sorry for your loss.
I think [name_u]Sacha[/name_u] or [name_u]Rylee[/name_u] would suit for both genders
You could also use a more typically girl used unisex name like
[name_u]Addison[/name_u] or [name_f]Maddison[/name_f]
That is such a hard thing to go through. I hope naming your sweet little one brings some peace to you and your husband. Here are some unisex names that may be a good fit with a future [name_u]Remy[/name_u]:
I am very sorry for your loss. I really hope naming your child bring you some sense if closure, I know it did for me. I named my angel baby [name_f]October[/name_f] nn [name_u]Toby[/name_u] after a dream Iâd had in which I had a child I called [name_u]Toby[/name_u]. [name_f]October[/name_f] is not a name I would have used had she lived till birth, but it seemed fitting for the situation.
Other ideas I had considered:
Using her due date month flower/ stone
The month itself
GP word name ie [name_f]Mercy[/name_f], [name_f]Heavenly[/name_f], [name_f]Nirvana[/name_f],
[name_f]Honor[/name_f] name of a living relative/ honor name that I could otherwise not use on a living child
Names that symbolize or mean rebirth ie [name_m]Pheonix[/name_m], [name_f]Renee[/name_f], [name_u]Ember[/name_u]
I apologize I do not have a name to contribute, I just wanted to thank you for your courage and strength and to say sorry for the loss of your child. Best wishes.
I am so sorry for your loss. When I lost my baby, I just knew in my heart that it was a girl. Like no doubt at all. So I gave her a feminine name. If you donât have a feeling toward a specific gender, I like @thenameprincess suggestion of something relating to birth month/flower, etc.
We suffered a miscarriage last summer and I felt the same way. I wanted to name the baby but didnât want to use one of my favorite names. More importantly though, I didnât know the gender and most of my favorites donât work as unisex names. (In my opinion of course.) This made me want to use a word name as they are mostly gender neutral. After a long deliberation we decided on [name_m]Arrow[/name_m].
Iâm sorry for your loss and I wish you the best.
One name I thought of is [name_u]Eden[/name_u]; it is androgynous and he/she is truly now in the Garden of [name_u]Eden[/name_u].
Other options I can think of could be [name_u]Pax[/name_u] (âpeaceâ) or [name_f]Lux[/name_f] (âlightâ).
Good luck!