I have two sister in laws that are pregnant at the same time as me. I’m worried if I don’t tell my girls names they’ll find them and use them. I’m not trying to be petty but I’ve spent years on names.
I don’t know the gender yet either.
Should I tell them my names now so they don’t take them?
Or
Take my chances and not tell them?
My sister in law and I are both getting ready to TTC at the same time. We have similar taste in names. We talked about it and agreed that we would both choose one boy name and one girl name that the other could not use. It did help relieve the anxiety for both of us I think.
Yes, that is a difficult situation (but how wonderful for the children to grow up together). I guess it depends on your relationship with your sister inlaws and your brothers, are you on good terms and will they honour a don’t take this name request? I’ve seen people break these agreements, so it’s all about trust. Seeing how you are all pregnant they might share your concern. You could just ask them about their names without disclosing yours, and say you are worried because you found the names you love.
It depends on the rarity of the name, I think. If you’re thinking about using [name_f]Sophia[/name_f], [name_f]Olivia[/name_f] or [name_f]Isabella[/name_f], I would let them know right away. If you’ve got something more rare in mind, you could probably take your chances.
Personally, I would be telling everyone and their mother what I was going to name my baby if I already was sure! Hell, I already am, but I’m also lucky because nobody I know has the same style as I do 
What’s the name you’re thinking of? If you don’t want it popping up on a google search, you can just type it with numbers and stuff.
I wouldn’t say anything, first one to have a baby is the name victor. That’s how the cookie crumbles.
I was kind of in a similar situation. As soon as we found out the gender we picked our baby’s name and announced to our family what we were naming our baby. I couldn’t bear the thought of picking the name while we were pregnant, and then finding out a few months later that I couldn’t use it.
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I ripped the bandaid and told them. They’re very lovely and won’t steal the names. It was my insecurity talking. We have different style of names as well. I’m in the very abnormal range, while they’re in a [name_u]Shiloh[/name_u]/[name_f]Ivy[/name_f] range. They handled it well! Thank you ladies for the pros and cons and the boost!
Thanks ladies!