I have a 2 year old who was born in [name_f]Italy[/name_f]. We lived above my in laws and in Italian tradition the first born son is an!ed after the paternal grandfather (the second is named after the maternal grandfather). It was important to my DH and his family so I reluctantly agreed. When my parents found out they had a fit and I gave my son my maiden as a second name to appease them. So I basically didn’t pick his name at all. It has always bothered me since while I love my father in law, I don’t love his name. Now that we moved to the states we have the added problem of people who can’t read or pronounce his name. I’m considering changing his middle name and calling him by it. This will still bother my parents but I’m thinking I can do the same if I have another son and name him after my father with a middle name I like. What would you guys do in my situation? I feel a bit stuck. Any help is appreciated. Thanks.
Is there a name you like? A couple of my relatives don’t like their given names - family names that do not translate well into English - so their nicknames are names they like. Before you go through the step of legally changing his name you could simply start calling him by a name you love. I feel for you because similar things have happened in my family when it comes to naming traditions.
Ya that’s a pretty tough situation
I’d say go ahead and change his middle his side can’t be upset because your not changing that part of his name just explain that it’s hard to pronounce where you moved 2 so he’ll be going by his middle at home, you said he has 2 middles do you plan on changing the middle with your maiden name cause that’s the only reason I can see your family being upset and even then explain that you don’t want him going by his first name and maybe your maiden name isn’t first name-nick name material you mentioned they where not happy that you named him after your father in law so they might be ok with the fact that he won’t be going by that does he have a nn or something that he’s used to going by or has he been going by this name
I would have to really dislike the name before I changed it. Then again, my husband
and I have a rule that we both have to like the name before we name our baby that,
so I don’t think I’ll have to go through any name changing. [name_f]Do[/name_f] you have a nickname
for him that you like? If not, I would change his middle name to something that I liked.
Forget about who doesn’t like it…he’s your child, and you have a right in the matter.
Tell your parents that you’ll name your next child after your side of the family. I
understand your situation totally…my sister had the almost exact same issue with our
mother and stepfather, and our dad and stepmother. Our mom was mad because my
sister was going to name her little boy [name_m]Henry[/name_m] after our dad ([name_m]Randall[/name_m] [name_m]Henry[/name_m]) instead of
[name_m]Jake[/name_m] after our stepdad ([name_m]Jake[/name_m] [name_u]Michael[/name_u]). So my sister named her little boy [name_m]Jake[/name_m] [name_m]Henry[/name_m], even though she’s always hated the name [name_m]Jake[/name_m]. Then they had a whole issue over what to call him, [name_m]Jake[/name_m] or [name_m]Henry[/name_m]. Finally my sister got tired of it, and when [name_m]Henry[/name_m] was
around one and a half, she went and changed his name to [name_m]Henry[/name_m] [name_m]Alistair[/name_m], which was one of the top names on her list when she was expecting. It all worked out in the end, and everyone is happy now, and my sister loves her little boy’s name.
Tough situation. [name_m]How[/name_m] does your husband feel about changing what your son goes by? If it were me, I would probably either find a nickname or Americanized version of his given name that I liked or give him a third middle name to avoid having to name a second child something I disliked to appease another parent.
But the little boy probably identifies with that name now. I would leave it.
He doesn’t really have a nickname to go by. His name is [name_m]Ciro[/name_m] (pronounced Cheero). I mostly call him baby, which he thinks is another name for him. He is bilingual so he’s used to multiple different names for stuff. I originally wanted to name him [name_m]Davide[/name_m]. So I’m thinking [name_m]Ciro[/name_m] [name_m]Davide[/name_m] N. Or possibly [name_m]Ciro[/name_m] [name_m]Davide[/name_m] W. N. [name_f]My[/name_f] DH and all his family will still call him [name_m]Ciro[/name_m] but those on the states can call him [name_m]Davide[/name_m]? Or [name_m]David[/name_m] if he wants when he’s older which is the best professionally.
As of right now when I say his name they think its chiddo like the chip. [name_u]Read[/name_u] its seero. His cousins can’t pronounce his name and call him cheerio. And every time it reminds me of how I didn’t get to name him and the problems he may have later as he gets older.
I think [name_m]Davide[/name_m] would only be slightly easier for most Americans to read properly upon first seeing it. Honestly, the poor kid seems confused enough about his name as it is. Renaming him [name_m]Davide[/name_m] so he can go by [name_m]David[/name_m] later in life just seems like adding another layer of confusion, especially if his father is calling him his original name and his mother starts calling him something totally new. You can call him whatever you like, but in school, [name_m]Ciro[/name_m] will probably be the name teachers call him by unless he corrects them. So either way, he’ll wind up correcting people all the time. If it was me, I would probably just stick with his birth name and name my second child something I was more enthusiastic about.
I know that it sucks that you didn’t get to choose a name you loved, but I think the name will grow to suit him and it’s a nice connection to his heritage and his Italian family.
[name_m]Just[/name_m] start by calling him a different name and when he turns 10 or so he can decide if he wants to change it or you could slide it into first and put 1 into 2 and 2 into 3 and he will have 4 names