So I have a new problem. My husband is Vietnamese and has recently announced he wants the middle name of our baby to be a Vietnamese name after his father (if it’s a boy). His father’s name was Bon [name]Van[/name] [name]Nguyen[/name]. He says he doesn’t care if we use Bon or [name]Van[/name] but he really wants to use one or the other.
But, I don’t like those names at all. Normally it would be as simple as just saying no I don’t like them but his father passed away when he was 20 years old (I never met him) so I don’t want to look cold and heartless by refusing to use them.
We really like the names [name]Theodore[/name] and [name]Matthias[/name] for boys but I can’t decide if those middle names even go well with those two first names. [name]Theodore[/name] Bon and [name]Matthias[/name] [name]Van[/name]? Ugh, I really don’t think I like the way they sound. I tried explaining that their last name would be a Vietnamese name but he says that it is such a common last name that it isn’t really special.
But then I would feel trapped into using Vietnamese middle name for ALL our children. Why just single one out, you know? His mother’s first and last name are Gaio (pronounced yao) [name]Le[/name] (pronounced [name]Lee[/name]). So those would be our options for middle spots for a girl if we have one. We both love [name]Hermione[/name]. Obviously [name]Le[/name] won’t work with it but do you think Gaio would? [name]Hermione[/name] Gaio? Or [name]Calista[/name] [name]Le[/name]? UGH I AM DRIVING MYSELF CRAZY! I don’t like any of those middle names at all. Should I just put my foot down and tell him I don’t want to do it or should I just relent and let him honor his father by using his name in a middle spot?
What would you do if you were in my position? I don’t feel as trapped into using his mother’s name for a middle spot for the girls since his mother is still alive but I am really not familiar with Vietnamese names so if anyone can suggest something that goes with [name]Hermione[/name], [name]Calista[/name], or [name]Clea[/name] I would really appreciate it.
He thinks I am nuts about caring so much how the first name sounds with the middle name, he just doesn’t get it