We have been discussing names with our other two children and generally they dislike most of the names we like, they are 8 and 4, my question is would it sway you on choosing a name?
I didn’t think it would but it’s starting to bother me more and more, and now I am questioning if it’s because I am not really 100% on the names myself. I can’t help thinking there is something else out there!
Front runners are:
[name_f]Cassia[/name_f] [name_u]Rae[/name_u]
[name_f]Astrid[/name_f] [name_f]Pearl[/name_f]
Hmm. It depends on how strong their reactions are. If they’re going “[name_f]CASSIA[/name_f] OR [name_f]ASTRID[/name_f]? EWW NO [name_m]WAY[/name_m]” then maybe keep looking. If they’re more like, “I’d rather we named her (insert other name here)” or “meh, I don’t like [name_f]Cassia[/name_f] or [name_f]Astrid[/name_f]” then I’d say it’s a typical little kid thing. [name_m]Even[/name_m] if they really dislike your names, it’s not up to them to name their sister- but if it’s causing enough conflict to make you uncomfortable using either name, perhaps you could compromise by letting them choose a middle or a nickname? Maybe you could hand them a list of middles or nicknames and have them choose one off of that list. Nicknames might not necessarily be diminutives of the first name. I totally understand if you don’t want to share the information here, but if you’re comfortable with it, what are the sibling names? It might help to know more of what your style is.
I entered [name_f]Cassia[/name_f] and [name_f]Astrid[/name_f] into namehunter, and a quick search brings up [name_f]Cressida[/name_f] (which I thought of when I saw your names), [name_f]Freya[/name_f], [name_f]Ingrid[/name_f], [name_f]Sabina[/name_f], and [name_f]Gemma[/name_f].
[name_f]Astrid[/name_f] [name_f]Pearl[/name_f] is very pretty! I also like the idea of [name_f]Cressida[/name_f] [name_f]Pearl[/name_f].
Thank you, my son’s name is [name_u]Carter[/name_u] and my daughter is [name_u]Indigo[/name_u] ([name_f]Indi[/name_f]). We are in the UK and when we named [name_u]Carter[/name_u] it was not as heard of as in the US but is getting more popular here now. I would like to avoid this with any name we choose.
I would say my taste in girls names is more unusual than my boys, boys for me need to be given solid names whereas I feel I can be more fanciful with a girl’s name!
I love both of your choices, I would have trouble deciding between them. Although it’s sweet when siblings help pick a name, it’s not required. They will grow to love both the baby and the name once the baby arrives. If there is a specific reason they don’t like the name, for instance if they have a bad association with that name, then I would take that into account. But if they just don’t like it “because”, they may just need to get used to the name.
I adore your front runners! I don’t think it matters what your children think since they are so young, and will likely change preferences as they age. Also, once they have the connotation of a new sister with the name they won’t think anything of it. If it bothers you then that’s what should matter. I love the names and think they both go beautifully with your other children’s, but if you are not comfortable then keep looking.
I think it’s nice for siblings to have some input (picking a special middle, maybe, or choosing between two front-runners), but ultimately it’s your choice and I wouldn’t let the opinions of young children away you too much. As others have said, they can be fickle and arbitrary about opinions at this age, and they’d likely stop thinking about the name at all once it’s attached to a real baby.
Your choices are fabulous, by the way! If you’re torn between the two, perhaps you could ask your children to help make the final choice?
