[name]Hi[/name] berries!
I was just wondering about everyone’s beliefs in sibsets. [name]Do[/name] you think that for a good sibset they all have to be the same style or theme? [name]Do[/name] you think maybe all of one gender can have the same style while the other gender has a completely different style? I don’t know if that make sense but it does in my head haha…
For instance, me and my boyfriend just happened to realize all the little girl names we liked are very pretty, feminine, french names: [name]Colette[/name], [name]Elodie[/name], etc. but for boys we like strong, more american(?) names like [name]Jack[/name] and [name]Evan[/name]. So if we like the french names should our boys be just as french or should our girls get switched to more classic choices? See what I mean now… what are your thoughts in general?? [name]Do[/name] you guys have any “sibset rules” you go by?
Personally I don’t think sibsets generally have to match. I mean just pick names that both you and your partner mutually agree on.
On my mum’s side her and her sibling don’t have matching names [name]Patricia[/name], [name]Ruby[/name], [name]Guy[/name] & [name]Corinne[/name]. [name]Ruby[/name] is kind of the odd one out in comparison to her sisters. This cousin sibset on my dad’s side [name]Jasmin[/name], [name]Samuel[/name], [name]Shelby[/name] & [name]Sheridan[/name]…[name]Jasmin[/name] is the odd one out, all the rest have “s” names.
I am so mixed. Sometimes I really like to have names that have patterns in them. [name]Just[/name] today I made.
[name]Nova[/name] [name]Calliope[/name] and [name]Inez[/name] [name]Penelope[/name] and [name]Mavis[/name] [name]Evangeline[/name] and [name]Hazel[/name] [name]Rosamund[/name]
The pattern V,Z,V,Z
Now thats just for fun. Whats important to me is that I love every name. I love [name]Nova[/name], [name]Inez[/name], [name]Mavis[/name] and [name]Hazel[/name] so I guess in a way that is a practical sibset for me. I don’t really feel like the same style is super important. But I am weird and I like names to have the same feel if that makes sense.
Now I know people won’t say [name]Nova[/name], [name]Inez[/name], [name]Mavis[/name] and [name]Hazel[/name] are the same style. But to me they feel the same.
I also want them to sound good together and not be too close. The above mentioned names might be.
I agree with just having the need to love every single name in the set no matter if it fits or doesn’t. I think what happens is that children grow into names and siblings grow into a family so they just sound good together.
I was just wondering everyone else’s opinions cause it always seems like people are posting threads wondering if their names are okay together.
Sometimes I make patterns just for fun! Like rhyming middles or all nature name middles.
But my biggest idea with sibsets is that if all your kids have great, meaningful names don’t give one child a name that means something not so nice. Like my siblings are [name]Nicole[/name], [name]Daniel[/name], and [name]Stephen[/name]: victory of the people, he who judges (but he has a kick ass bible story!), and crown. While mine is [name]Emily[/name] and I’m rival… which I guess kinda fits cause i’m the typical “baby” cough favorite
I don’t think it matters. Matchy sets can be nice but so can mixed ones.
I love the names [name]Mira[/name] Sorvino picked for her kids: [name]Mattea[/name], [name]Johnny[/name], [name]Holden[/name], and [name]Lucia[/name]. The girls are Italian feminissima, the boys are all-American. But it’s kinda cool, cause the boys match dad [name]Chris[/name] and the girls match mom [name]Mira[/name].
I love it when I see a [name]Benjamin[/name] with an [name]Aria[/name], or a [name]Clementine[/name] with an [name]Io[/name]. It’s nice to be surprised.
Ooh. As someone with number 4 due soon we are struggling with finding a name. I do like things to matchy matchy but I am making it hard for myself.
We have [name]George[/name], [name]Ingrid[/name] & [name]Arthur[/name]. Firstly they are all royal names - a complete coincidence but why stop there… Only I can’t find any other royal names that tickle my fancy. The. They all have out doorsy meanings ( and we are outdoorsy people). [name]Farmer[/name]; natures beauty; bear. Nope. Still can’t find one that fits. Ho hum. Looks like ill have to break the mould this time.……
I think sibling names should compliment each other but don’t necessarily have to match. For example, [name]Jayden[/name] and [name]Josephine[/name] are a no in my book. But [name]Jayden[/name] and [name]Madison[/name] and [name]Josephine[/name] and [name]Benedict[/name] are fine by me.
They’re separate human beings so I don’t think their names need to match at all.
I think it’s fine to go with whatever “rules” appeal to you and your partner. Everyone I talk to seems to have different criteria for name choice… be it popularity ranking or country of origin.
For us, we like names that are familiar but not commonly used. We went with 2 syllable names for the first two kids. While I was thinking 2 or 3 syllables, we wound up with another 2 syllable for baby #3. We also like obvious nicknames that we like equally as well as the long version.
Our kiddos are Wesley/Wes, Dexter/Dex, Beatrix/Bea
Others I like that fit the pattern are Frederick/Fred, Sylvia/Sylvie, Leonard/Len, Juniper/June, Dorothy/Dot, Mavis/Mae… some even take it further with a short E sound and 1 syllable nn.
Not sure if we are finished having kids yet so I don’t know if we will continue these patterns exactly or not. A lot comes down to a name we can both agree on!
It’s funny too how you can plan things a certain way but in real life, the names don’t land exactly the way you think. I now know two other Wesley’s 3yo and under. So the name took an upswing in popularity several years after we picked it. Love his name and wouldn’t change it, but didn’t predict that. Also no one can pronouce Beatrix with two syllables. They all want to say Be-a-trix or worse Be-a-trice… Hasn’t anyone heard of Beatrix Potter?
[name]Love[/name] your name choices! I have always liked [name]Arthur[/name] but it clashes with our last name so I couldn’t use it. I considered [name]George[/name] and [name]Georgia[/name] each time. Good luck! I’m sure you’ll pick another great name. I too tend to overthink the name thing… but it is fun too.
I am no where near having kids, but here are my naming rules right now…
No matchy matchy names
Nothing that rhymes
No leaving one child’s name out of a pattern
No weirdly spelling one kid’s name and not the rest.
It’s so interesting to get everyone’s opinions! Personally, I don’t believe that there are really any names that would sound terrible together (with the exception of rhymes). Basically I think that children grow into their names and in the same way siblings grow into a family.
That’s why I can’t understand people’s stories of seeing their baby the minute after it’s born and realizing it didn’t “look” like an [name]Alexandra[/name] but more like a [name]Piper[/name]. I just don’t get it cause babies don’t look like any name when they come out, they just look like a baby. It’s not until they grow into their name that you can’t imagine calling them anything else.
My kids names are not a perfect sibset but I think it’s because we don’t pick children’s names as a set, but rather one at a time with a partner. On nameberry individuals can create perfect sets but in real life, years pass between children, favorite names are eliminated by a partner, and even individual taste change.
When I had my 4th I didn’t want to use a single-syllable name because I felt that in doing so i’d be boxed into following the theme, but now I wish I had continued that theme. Oh well.
Wait until you carry a baby inside of you for nine months, go through labour, push her out screaming and covered in goo. Wait until they place her on your belly. Wait until she looks at you and then tell me she looks like every other baby.
A “perfect” sibset is of no interest to me. Perfection is boring. I want individuality, but harmony in their names, that they go together but stand apart. As I hope their personalities will.
Good luck! I’m sure you’ll pick another great name. I too tend to overthink the name thing… but it is fun too.