So [name]Sullivan[/name] it is. Now my family is making me crazy and everyone thinks we should name him [name]Thomas[/name] [name]Hardy[/name]. It’s my dad’s name and he is a 3rd. My great aunt with whom I was very close passed away last year and she would have loved me using the family name. My grandfather on the other side recently passed away and his name was [name]Hardy[/name]. Everyone wants us to use his name. So I just don’t want to name my baby [name]Thomas[/name] hardy. We planned to use [name]Hardy[/name] for the mn as it gets both of them. My family isn’t seeing it. So my husband suggested [name]Sullivan[/name] [name]Thomas[/name] [name]Hardy[/name] C. What do you all think of that? It’s stressing me all out.
I agree with your husband. If you have two people you’d like to honor, two middle names is a great option. [name]Sullivan[/name] [name]Thomas[/name] [name]Hardy[/name] Lastname is very handsome, and I think that is what you should go with.
That does sound like a very good compromise. And it’s a charming name!
Thanks so much!
[name]Sullivan[/name] [name]Thomas[/name] [name]Hardy[/name] is just dashing! I love the family significance, and I actually like it better than just [name]Sullivan[/name] [name]Hardy[/name] or [name]Thomas[/name] [name]Hardy[/name]. 
Then again, I’m a sucker for two MNs! I think it’s a great compromise, and [name]Sullivan[/name] is so, so handsome!
The three sound great together. I would do it!
If [name]Hardy[/name] is a family name that honors both your father and your grandfather, then I see no reason why you should add [name]Thomas[/name] to the combo. I’m all for trying to use a name that your family will like, but they shouldn’t be able to dictate what you name your child, especially since you already have a family name as a middle name.
I think [name]Sullivan[/name] [name]Hardy[/name] is great AND uses the family name which is great IF you guys already want to use it. The fact that your family will like it too is a nice bonus. I would absolutely not use the full STH name UNLESS you really want to - you are already using [name]Hardy[/name]! But this is coming from someone who thinks no one but the parents should have ANY say at all on what you name your child!I would just use [name]Hardy[/name] as MN, tell family who say anything (if they dare!) that you have used [name]Hardy[/name] to honour all those in the family (incl those who have passed) and that they were free to name their children and you have that same right!
Anyway, I think [name]Sullivan[/name] [name]Hardy[/name] is good, 2 MN is a bit long [name]IMO[/name] - but go with what you guys like!
I think you have to go with what feels right for you and if [name]Sullivan[/name] [name]Hardy[/name] feels right, than that is your name. I do feel that [name]Sullivan[/name] [name]Thomas[/name] [name]Hardy[/name] is a very handsome combination and in my opinion 2 middle names is not too much, especially because of the special meaning involved. Either way, keep the [name]Sullivan[/name]!!
Our soon to be daughter is the only one named for family. If your husband is fine with it, (and him suggesting it seems like he is) then I’d go for it…only IF you both really like it. [name]Don[/name]'t do it, [name]JUST[/name] to please your family. Family members have a Lot of opinions and they’re not afraid to share them!..lol But, it’s Your baby to name not theirs.
The only thing I would take under consideration is the fact that he’d be named after two different people, both on your side of the family. There’s absolutely Nothing wrong with that, if no one has hurt feelings because of it.
I had no real intentions of naming any of our children in “honor” of either side. But, my husband picked the mn [name]Jane[/name] for our daughter without realizing at the time that it’s also my mother’s mn. He really wanted a “J” name. It was the first one he said and no other ones really settled well with us.
He had NO problem with it, but I was apprehensive because his mother had always made it clear (not in a pushy way) that she’d [name]LOVE[/name] to have a grand child named after her. Her name can go either way with a little tweaking (she was named after her father). I knew deep down that it would cause hurt feelings with her when/if she discovered that my mom had gotten a “spot” but she had been “left out”. And, no matter that it was His decision, it would get turned around in the end and be “my fault”. And, possibly even something that I had purposely done to “slight” her/his side of the family. eye roll
Ours will most likely be the only grandchildren for them and we’re most likely finished after the twins. So, this was a “last chance”. I didn’t want even the slightest bit of resentment because of something to do with our children. So it was either both sides or neither, in my mind. We took some time to figure out how we wanted to do it, and in the end (for many debated, personal reasons that I won’t bore you with) put both of our mother’s mns together and settled on Janemarie.
But, the decision was Ours, was made to make Us (well, Me…lol) feel better/more comfortable with the name, and was a name choice that we both Really like. Not done because someone else talked us into it. We never even mentioned names to anyone in our families until we “announced” that these were The names.
So, if you decide to use it, [name]Sullivan[/name] [name]Thomas[/name] [name]Hardy[/name] is a great name. So is [name]Sullivan[/name] [name]Hardy[/name]. Or, leaving out the [name]Thomas[/name] and adding a name from his side in one of the places would also be a wonderful addition. [name]Just[/name] make sure that it’s your decision as a couple, not someone else’s.
If you choose not to use it, you can always tell them that you’re saving [name]Thomas[/name] for a possible future son and don’t want to use up all of the “honoring” names too quickly. Or, that you’re not comfortable using two names from your side and none from his father’s. If they’re like my family, it’s better to at least attempt to give them some kind of logical reason, instead of just “no, I don’t like it.” 
I like it, but what if you have another boy? He will end up with no important family significance in his name. I am not a fan of 2 middle names, since it commits your son to a lifetime of form filling out problems, and it just seems unnecessary. I would use [name]Hardy[/name] as a middle name for this baby, and save other family names for when/if you have another boy. There has to be other family members having babies at some point…you don’t want to hog up all the good names on one child either, right?
I actually think either choice works well and very diplomatic of your husband to come up with this solution. People raised good points on either side of the argument. [name]Do[/name] you have siblings who might name a child [name]Thomas[/name] or might you use that name in the future as a first or middle yourself? If so, you might want to reserve it – or there could be a good argument for getting the whole thing out of the way at once with [name]Sullivan[/name] [name]Thomas[/name] [name]Hardy[/name], and then you’re free free free.
To the person who said that no one but the parents should have a voice in the name, I totally agree, and we’ve written as much, but I’m a mom as well as a name writer and I know that sometimes family politics come to bear. All my kids have family names in the middle and over time I’ve come to value those choices more and more, and the kids themselves like having a tie to family history and ancestors. Two middle names is definitely a trend and a fun thing to do…though the second middle name does tend to get lost on official documents etc.
The bottom line is that either [name]Sullivan[/name] [name]Hardy[/name] or [name]Sullivan[/name] [name]Thomas[/name] [name]Hardy[/name] is a good choice, but either way you go, you’ve got to tell the family, look, I’m doing this to make you happy, and I’m proud my son will carry this name, but enough now! This is what we’re doing and please get on board.
[name]Sullivan[/name] [name]Hardy[/name] sounds great to me. [name]Thomas[/name] [name]Hardy[/name] just makes me think of the famous author and poet.
You know what? It is your child. They got to name their children, you get to name yours. I do think [name]Sullivan[/name] [name]Thomas[/name] [name]Hardy[/name] could be a good compromise, but only if YOU and your husband want it. [name]Love[/name] [name]Sullivan[/name]
that is a really long name to live up to but it reflects your values and desires - when we named our son [name]Sullivan[/name] the only comment from my husbands side of the family was from his father who said - “no one has my name” but we weren’t even considering using it - so - pleasing is one thing - and tradition is another - everyone will love [name]Sully[/name] no matter what - always
I do not see the point in using [name]Thomas[/name] and [name]Hardy[/name] when [name]Hardy[/name] represents both people. [name]Sullivan[/name] [name]Hardy[/name] is nice.
That is funny because I also thought of the author [name]Thomas[/name] [name]Hardy[/name]. It is a charming name, and some may not make that connection. I only made it because I love the book Far From the Madding Crowd.