Okay so you have your favourite name and it’s probably the name your going to name your future child I’m just wondering why is that name your name? What makes you decide that yes [name_f]Lavender[/name_f] is the name I’m going to call my daughter or [name_u]Alfie[/name_u] is the name I’m going to call my son? If you couldn’t use your number 1 choice how would you decide that your child will be called [name_u]Marlowe[/name_u] instead of your beloved [name_u]Rowan[/name_u]? How would you choose the next best name after the one you’ve had your heart set on?
Thank you for your help genuinely struggling with names so clarity will hopefully help thank you
For me, ‘the one’ has many trials it goes through. I assign personality and appearance to a name set, like; [name_m]Albrecht[/name_m] [name_m]Frederick[/name_m] is sweet and darling or [name_f]Lily[/name_f] [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f] is athletic and social. For me, ‘the one’ doesn’t have a personality or look, I like it on anybody, regardless.
I think that when you see ‘the one’ it clicks, you just love it…sorry, that’s unclear. [name_m]Even[/name_m] if ‘the one’ has a bad meaning or a terrible person is attached to it, you don’t care.
For me, I always have back-up lists, of names that I still adore, but aren’t my first choice. That’s always helpful!
This is just what I do, if I think of anything else, I’ll add it on. [name_f]Hope[/name_f] this helps, xx!
Personal significance. I promised my mom I’d have a daughter named Sanjana, [name_f]Kamala[/name_f] is after my grandma and the politician I’ve supported since fifth grade, and [name_u]Neel[/name_u] is for my pseudonym.
It’s hard because I am having a girl and I always thought if I was to have a daughter her name would be [name_f]Rose[/name_f]. That’s the name I’ve had my heart set on for YEARS and now I can’t use [name_f]Rose[/name_f] or variations of [name_f]Rose[/name_f] so I’m trying to start again finding that perfect name for my daughter. I was weighing up between [name_f]Lilia[/name_f] & [name_f]Iris[/name_f]. Everyone in my circle loves [name_f]Lilia[/name_f] and I think [name_f]Lilia[/name_f] is gorgeous. I like that my mum loves it, it’s Russian and ties in with my mum’s Ashkenazi background but the more people say the name refer to her as [name_f]Lilia[/name_f] the more I’m like hmmm I don’t know
Naming is so hard!!!
For me, [name_f]Persephone[/name_f] has sort of been with me for ages. A powerful goddess, with flourish and a complete sound. I’ve been in love with mythology forever, and when I read an alternate version of [name_f]Persephone[/name_f]’s myth (possible an original, lending her significantly more agency). I loved the sound, I love the sticking power, and I love the power. [name_f]Aurembiaix[/name_f] is a newer love, but has a lot of similar reasons behind her. I love the sound, I love the way she looks written down, there was an extremely cool aragonese countess by the name. However, the most important thing is that both names feel incredibly me. I adore the name [name_f]Cleocharia[/name_f], and yet, I can’t imagine myself holding a newborn baby and knowing that to be her name. I know that [name_f]Persephone[/name_f] and [name_f]Aurembiaix[/name_f] are my names, because they feel right when I imagine myself in the future, as a mum, regardless of the age of my children, with children by those names. Also, my mum really likes both of them, which is very encouraging.
you might notice i only talk about my girl names here, and that’s because my favourite boy name, ronan, is after my favourite book character so i don’t sound nearly as poetic. it’s also irish (like my family) so that’s nice as well i guess. however like the others it does feel like mine so that’s all i can offer. you seem pretty sorted on boy names though
Don’t choose a name that you feel like you should love. Objectively loving a name (such as [name_f]Lilia[/name_f]) does not mean it is the right name for you. The fact that everything is pointing you towards [name_f]Lilia[/name_f] (and there are no objective drawbacks) and you still don’t feel completely sold on it, makes it sound like it really isn’t the name for you.
For me what makes a name the one is if I can see myself saying it every day of my life! If I name a future son [name_m]Henry[/name_m] I have to see myself calling his name in the park, saying “Hey, I’m [name_m]Henry[/name_m]’s mom”, talking to my parents and going “[name_m]Henry[/name_m]’s doing great in school”. What really helps me is I like to imagine myself calling for my kids from another room in the house. If I can see myself saying “[name_m]Henry[/name_m] dinner is ready”. The meaning of a name doesn’t matter too much for me and I don’t really like honor names. For not getting your number 1, luckily I want a bunch of kids so I have so many names that I love cause I can’t imagine having one of my kids having a favorite name and the other one’s having names I just like. Maybe for now go on the name generator and put in names that you like the sound of but aren’t sold on and it can show you more options!!!
@rosepip thank you for the explanations into your names I really appreciate your detailed feedback. Also the feedback concerning [name_f]Lilia[/name_f]. I do like [name_f]Lilia[/name_f] but I’m just a very indecisive which does help at all aahhh stress essentially!!!
@sophia_elena thank you for the feedback that makes complete sense!
I have two boys so for me the perfect name is a name I see fitting in with my boys names as I like matchy sibset names. There are many names I like which don’t really match with my boys names too. So I guess whatever the first child is called kind of sets the tone and vibe for the other siblings names.
I honestly would have really struggled to communicate what makes a name perfect for me, but @AudreyAida and @sophia_elena have summed up how I feel exactly! (Except I don’t just image calling for my kids, I actually practice this out loud… I’m home alone a lot). It’s a name that I can see on absolutely anyone with any kind of personality, and it’s a name that just feels right to say and can see myself using. I also imagine strangers asking me what the name is, and how I feel about telling them can give some clues as to whether or not it really feels like the right one.
Would that, by any chance, be [name_m]Ronan[/name_m] [name_m]Lynch[/name_m]?
For me ‘the one’ has a lot of different boxes that need to be checked.
I have to love it (and my husband has to be ok with it)
I have to enjoy saying it, there are some names that I love but just dont sound good in my accent and I’d either have to live with the unpleasant prn. Or remind myself and others to say it ‘correctly’ all the time.
Other people’s opinions, mispronunciations, difficulties with the name don’t bother me enough to dissuade me from using it (though it might still annoy me)
It has to be a name I don’t have any strong associations with. (I might know things or people related to the name but it’s not the 1st and only thing that comes to mind when people say it)
and again I have to love it.
There’s a lot more things based on style and personal preference that I consider but these are the really important ones for me.
Thankfully I’ve managed to come up with a clear #1 and #2 for each gender (because as a single teenager, this is very important ). I think that for your situation, things will get more clear with time. In the past, I’ve had what I thought was the best name put aside, only to find something equally or more beautiful! Sometimes, it takes awhile to get used to a new #1, and that’s okay!
@may.rose your exactly like me as a teenager I had my number 1 name chosen and then they developed into [name_f]Rose[/name_f] & [name_u]Noah[/name_u] it’s hard as I never had that number 2 name so I hope your right
For me, it’s a combination of things. [name_f]My[/name_f] top name has ancient roots, but has never been particularly popular; it’s feminine and sweet-sounding, girly but not over-the-top; and it honors family – all of which are important criteria for me. [name_f]My[/name_f] top boy name is similar: ancient roots, yet timeless; honors family; strong and masculine, yet soft-sounding. But, most importantly, I just love them. When I say them, think them, or write them out, I smile. That’s how I know I’ve found the ones.
). I think that for your situation, things will get more clear with time. In the past, I’ve had what I thought was the best name put aside, only to find something equally or more beautiful! Sometimes, it takes awhile to get used to a new 
