I have [name_f]Ryleigh[/name_f], [name_u]Rylie[/name_u] and [name_u]Rylee[/name_u] on my girls list, but I would probably go with whichever one YOU like the best, and here’s why;
My name is [name_u]Haley[/name_u], and I was born in the mid 90s, just as the name was taking off. My spelling was the most popular the year I was born (and for the 4-5 years leading up to ‘95), so logically, you’d think my name would cause little hassle.
I have had to constantly correct my name countless times to people - I have immediate family members who can’t spell it right. I wanted to change the spelling desperately up until I was 19-20, actually, because I hated having to correct my name constantly, and like you, I didn’t like the look of [name_u]Haley[/name_u]. I thought it was too boyish for me, because I happen to be incredibly feminine and as my fiance says, I “bleed glitter” lol.
I experimented a couple of times with different spellings - [name_f]Hailey[/name_f], [name_f]Hayley[/name_f], [name_f]Hayleigh[/name_f] and [name_f]Haylee[/name_f] mostly, and they didn’t fix any of the original issues I had, apart from maybe having to correct [name_f]Hailey[/name_f] a little less than usual.
After that point, I sort of gave up. My name is the biggest part of me - I’ve had it for 22 years and I know it causes me a lot of problems, but every time I tried going by something else, it never felt right, or caused more problems than my original name.
So from experience, I would wait to legally change anything, but definitely try out another spelling if you want to! However, from what I have experienced, sometimes with names that have tons of spellings, you’ll have to correct it a lot regardless of whether you use the most popular or the most obscure.