[name_f]Do[/name_f] you get upset about people using/thinking about using your favorite name?
I saw a post here today about someone loving the name [name_f]Lorraine[/name_f], and I got a little crushed inside because it feels like its my name. Like I own it and no one can use it. But I know thats not the case and I dont own the name, but it still hurts… I dont know why. And cant explain it.
What names do you get upset about people using/thinking about using? If you do?
I kind of having that feeling with certain names but it has to do more with popularity. We don’t want to use a name in the top 100 and a lot of our favorite names from a few years ago are now up there! I wish people would stop using those names so they would get less popular lol. I know it’s silly but it’s true.
Yes! It’s not very logical, and really selfish, but I don’t want anyone to use any of my favourite names. If it was just people I knew it would make sense, but even people I will never meet using names I love kind of bugs me.
It depends on how much I love a name as well, like I adore [name_u]Phoenix[/name_u] (for a boy), but I have some reservations on popularity. I can see it getting a lot more popular, as more people become comfortable with using it, so I start to get worried. Same goes for [name_m]Caspian[/name_m], which is obviously a lot less popular, but I can see people liking it and getting brave enough to use it. I’d love them to stay on the GP lists. I’m a bit more okay with really popular names, which I try to avoid and don’t usually love as much anyway.
I think it’s got a lot to do with the fact I feel anything could happen before I have kids, and I’m really worried my fave names aren’t going to be unusual and interesting in 10 or so years. [name_f]My[/name_f] name is quite unpopular where I live (which I love, there were only 9 other girls with my name in [name_f]England[/name_f]/[name_m]Wales[/name_m] the year I was born), but it’s very popular in other countries, and even that slightly irks me. I have a friend who has a really unpopular name, so there’s probably less than 100 people with the same name in the whole world. I’d love to have a name like that, and I’d love for my kids to have names like that as well, not that they will, since quite a few of my faves already break that rule.
Sorry for the ramble, but it’s one of those things I (stupidly) get worked up about.
I get a little worried whenever I see a post about my favorite name(s). I’m still a little bitter about [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f]. I loved it since I was 7 years old, always had it in the back of my mind for a possible daughter but then all of a sudden it became ridiculously popular and I had to nix it. I just have to remind myself that there are always going to be people in the world with your future child’s name if you dare to love a name in the top 1,000 and chances are they will meet some one with their name in their lives, and they will survive. I also tell myself at least that child is getting a great name and not something made-up or misspelled.
What I’m really paranoid about is some one close to me using my top names for their child and I never get to use them anyway. I’ve become so attached to some of the names on my list that never getting the option of naming my child that would drive me crazy as would hearing the name being said at every family function and being reminded of how much you loved it and not being able to use it. I know its selfish because everyone is entitled to use the name they like, but I think it would break my heart if I couldn’t have my own little [name_m]Jack[/name_m] or [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] because someone else used it before I could.
I really shouldn’t be that worried though. The last three babies born in my family were called [name_u]Addison[/name_u], [name_u]Madison[/name_u] and [name_u]Allison[/name_u] (not sisters, thankfully) and the one on the way is going to be called [name_u]Brayden[/name_u]. Based on those names I can’t really see any of my family going for anything on my list, but you never know.
[name_f]Lorraine[/name_f] isnt even in the top 1000. And its still scary… And if someone used [name_f]Lorraine[/name_f] before me, I wouldnt care. I would use it anyways. Everyone in my family knows [name_f]Lorraine[/name_f] is my name. And I will use it as [name_f]MY[/name_f] name. So if they used it, I would be extremely pissed.
I actually started to shy away from [name_f]Beatrix[/name_f] because I saw it on the nameberry forums so often. It made me feel like it was a popular name, but it isn’t even in the top 1000 where I live.
No. I actually really like seeing my favourites used; I’d much rather see them than all the names I dislike 
Names are meant to be shared so I don’t personally understand this possessiveness. People don’t mind listening to the same songs, reading the same books or wearing the same style clothes and I don’t see why naming is so very different to that. Perhaps it’s because I don’t believe a name has to be uncommon in order to be interesting or that unique names make unique children or perhaps it’s because I had a very popular name and didn’t really care 
I don’t really mind some people liking my names on NB because it’s worldwide and I like some pretty out there names . But in real life because I’m years away from having kids people using my faves does bother me I think it has to do with the popularity I don’t want to call out say [name_f]Evey[/name_f] on a playground and 5 other kids turn around (this happens with my sisters name all the time) I’d say the only names that’s really bothered me becoming more popular is [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u] which I never heard as a kid unless I was watching the mummy on the telly. the idea of a unique name people complement rather than roll their eyes or say no way that’s my so and so’s name their the same age 2 but when I hear a name I love being used on NB I smile because it means the names still being used but isn’t so overly popular there’s 10 on street
I have been going through this with the name [name_f]Lila[/name_f]… it is a family name tracing back four generations. I have wanted to use it since I was little and now it is SUPER popular. I have slowly watched it climb the charts and it makes me a little sad, because I loved how unique it was. In fact some of our very close friends just named their little girl [name_f]Lila[/name_f], so I have given up on it as a first name. Overall I am happy the people are using this wonderful name, but I am surprised by how attached I have gotten to it.
I personally don’t like other people using my names because of popularity as well. I’m a good ten years away from having kids, and I don’t want any more of my names to go into the top 100. It’s really aggravating because it seems every name I start to like is on the rise, lol. [name_f]My[/name_f] friend gets really annoyed when I text her about that.
Since I grew up with a popular name, I don’t want my kids to. I hear my name EVERYWHERE and it gets really annoying. I hate it when I introduce myself and the person says “Oh I have a friend/cousin/sister/daughter/granddaughter/niece named [name_u]Abby[/name_u]!” For once I want to be the only [name_u]Abby[/name_u] associated with the name.
[name_f]My[/name_f] top girls’ name right now is [name_f]Adalyn[/name_f]. I’ve loved [name_f]Adalyn[/name_f] since last year and I don’t think I’ll stop loving it any time soon. I can really picture myself naming a baby girl [name_f]Adalyn[/name_f]. But the name I would be the most pissed about if someone used it is [name_f]Lila[/name_f]. [name_f]Lila[/name_f] has so much meaning to me because it’s the name of my first jazz and competition team teacher. If someone stole [name_f]Adalyn[/name_f], I would be upset but it wouldn’t be the end of the world. If someone stole [name_f]Lila[/name_f], I would have to remind myself that sneaking into their house at night and murdering them would land me in prison (okay, maybe not that extreme. But I would probably not talk to them for a while).
For some reason, if my boys’ names get popular it doesn’t bother me. What really bothers me is people stealing my boys’ names FOR GIRLS! Apparently “[name_u]Carter[/name_u]” and “[name_m]Torin[/name_m]” sound feminine to some people and that really irks me!
Thankfully I’m the oldest in my generation by four years so I will be the first to have kids. [name_f]My[/name_f] sisters would never steal my names (at least if they knew what was best for them…). What I’m worried about right now is my aunt’s sister is expecting her second daughter and a couple of my names are the same style as her daughter’s. For her sake, we better hope she doesn’t steal one of my names. If she does though, I can honestly say I had them first so I’d use them anyways. I’ve never met her and I don’t think I will.
Sorry if this is long. I love ranting!!
I have mixed feelings when I see or hear of someone using my favorite names, particularly my favorite girls names. [name_f]My[/name_f] boys list has a lot of names that are already popular, so it doesn’t bother me so much when I hear someone use a name from that list. [name_f]My[/name_f] girls list, on the other hand, has a lot of names that aren’t very popular, so it’s exciting and frustrating when I hear of someone using one of those names. Part of me feels excited because I think, “Wow! I love that name too. It’s beautiful! Great choice!”, but another part of me feels like, “No! Someone else used the name, so now it’s going to become really popular!”
I know it’s probably silly of me to think like that since I’m no where near close to having kids, but I worry about my favorite names becoming insanely popular. I don’t feel like I own the name, but I don’t want my kids to have insanely common names, so I would rather people not use it. lol. I doubt any of my favorites will become extremely popular anytime soon (unless a celebrity or tv show uses it), but it’ something I think about a lot.
I don’t really care about people on here using names I like, or other strangers for that matter. It’s the people in my real life that I can’t stand! A cousin of my fiance was considering both [name_f]Nora[/name_f] and [name_m]Connor[/name_m] and I nearly died.
[name_m]Leo[/name_m] is the only boy name that I really love and could see myself using in the future, so it makes me a little sad to see other people using it. I’ll have to get used to it though since it’s such a popular name.
When my new neighbors moved in down the block and introduced themselves I was crushed to find out their son, who is only 4 months younger than my son, is also named [name_m]Jack[/name_m]. They’ll be in the same grade at the same school. I don’t want my son to be [name_m]Jack[/name_m] F at school. 
When it’s people I don’t know and will very likely never meet, then I usually feel happy to see the names I like being used - as long as I’m not seeing them being used all the time! However, if it’s someone I know, I usually feel quite pissed off about the whole thing. [name_m]Both[/name_m] my younger brother and sister said they would consider naming a daughter [name_f]Octavia[/name_f] when it was my favourite name a year or two ago, and that made me rather upset.
I really think the whole ‘stealing names’ or ‘only liking names outside of the top 1000’ thing is a bit silly. If everyone got uptight over a name being used because it was “their” name - then there would hardly be any names left in the world, and we’d be resorting to way out, easily ridiculed choices, such as [name_f]Fanny[/name_f]. Names don’t have ownership, I wouldn’t be bothered in the slightest to meet a little [name_f]Minnie[/name_f] or [name_f]Doris[/name_f] - in fact, I’d probably squeal in delight and hug their parents.
Would I be ticked off if a relative of mine used one of my top names, knowing that I loved it? Yeah, I would, but, I wouldn’t be able to do very much about it if they used it before I got a chance to.
The popularity thing seems so redundant now, only the top two names for girls in the US account for more than 1% of all births in 2013. Being 1.1039% of the US population born in 2013 and named [name_f]Sophia[/name_f] doesn’t seem that traumatising. The whole idea seems a bit too dramatic for me, I guess. Like it’s being made into a bigger deal than it should be?
On here? Definitely not. I always get super excited when I encounter someone who love the same names as I do – particularly the more special ones like [name_f]Olga[/name_f], [name_m]Amaury[/name_m] etc. I think it’s really lovely to share a passion for a name with someone, but maybe that’s just me.
As for real life, I can’t really be too bothered either. I’m nowhere near an age where I would even feel comfortable thinking about having a child, but I often blabber on about the names I love and I feel that if someone I know use of the names they know I love, it’s on them. I will use the names I love no matter what – my own sister could use [name_m]Henry[/name_m] and I wouldn’t even blink when naming my son [name_m]Henry[/name_m] as well. I’m not going to give my child a name that I love less just because it’s being used by someone else. Especially not because everyone pretty much know the names I love, haha.
I felt a little twinge of it when I read on here that a (currently pregnant) berry is planning on using a name that’s been my solid first choice for a while now… But honestly, I think it’s envy that they will be able to have their little girl with that name and I’m still in the pre-ttc stage! I just can’t wait for the possibility of having my little girl running around with the name I love.
Thankfully my true favorite names haven’t been used for babies I know in real life. An old classmate has a baby [name_u]Noah[/name_u] and that was a name I enjoyed, but I know it isn’t high enough on my list for me to ever use it, so I’m really glad someone I know is using it!
I think because 1) I have a popular enough name, 2) I also have a cousin with that name, and 3) I don’t really have names on my lists that are THAT crazy/unheard-of, I don’t really get too upset if my family members use a name on my list.
I’d be a touch annoyed if I found out via fb or something that a former high school classmate that I wasn’t close with used a choice I was seriously considering, because I’d hate for it to look like I was copying them… But in the end it wouldn’t stop me, mainly because I’m not considering names so unusual like Pumpernickel or whatever.
(reminds me, a classmate has used a favorite E name for her daughter’s middle name, and after an initial ‘ah!’ I started to get really happy that the name was recognized as awesome, like I feel it it!)
I know “Imitation is the highest form of flattery,” but I would prefer that no one in my immediate circle used any of “my” names.
Unless I wasn’t able to use it, then I’d be all for it.
Otherwise, I’d certainly get over it, but it might make me think twice about using a favorite if a sibling or close friend used it.
Yes. It’s not so much when someone says they love the name but when someone uses it there’s a tiny part in my head that feels sad. I only have that with [name_f]Ophelia[/name_f] though and I don’t even know why. I’ve recently seen the name being used as a middle name somewhere and I just thought “no, this feels wrong” or when the [name_f]Ophelia[/name_f] is paired with names that I don’t like, I think the same.