On the opposite note from the changes in body from pregnancy post ;)…
I have had 4 Awful pregnancies in 5 yrs. I get hyperemisis gravidarium (severe morning sickness) and end up in the hosp a few times each preg. Its not as bad as some women can get, thankfully. I lost onr baby due to a molar pregnancy (extremely rare) and my last pregnancy I had HG and also POYS (also rare) its completely dehabilitating, as I cannot stand up at all feeling like im going to pass out.
Heres the problem. It seems like an easy decision to just not have any more. My family and friends tell me not to get preg again, or at least wait several years. But my husband and I both want to keep having more. None of my conditions are life threatening, just,low quality of life. And I feel better just a couple months after the baby is born. [name]Even[/name] my daughter wants me to have more, telling me she’ll help out. Haha.
We just [name]Love[/name] being parents and love our children deeply. I cant imagine life any different. We look at my bad pregnancies as a challenge and what im willing to go through just to meet our little one. My husband just said the other night that if my pregnancies werent so bad, hed love to have a very large family. I honestly cant stop at 3… For some reason 6 is my number of completion. We are still discussing adoption. I am adopted so I have first hand experience with it, but the wait time scares me. Id rather start the adoption process when I feel more satisfied since ill be waiting so long.
I know this will get mixed reactions. My family and friends want us to stop bc they hate to see me suffer. My dr says I dont have any reservations other than recover my health first, which I totally agree. We believe children are a blessing, and they are truly worth it.
What would You do? 
POTS** not POYS lol
[name]Hi[/name] Karenp,
Only you and your hubby can decide if you will have more children. It sounds like it really comes down to, “can you handle the comlications again?” Children are a blessing, and I’m not a woman who finds pregnancy easy either, although I haven’t had anything similar to you. My blood pressure tends to go up towards the end of the pregnancy, so I’ve been watched very closely throughout, as it can affect the growth of the baby. Luckily, in both pregnancies, the blood flow to the placenta and through the umbilical cord was never affected. Physically, my hips get quite sore, and I get lots of pain in my pubic bone. I had heartburn much worse in the first pregnancy, but still had it every day with the second. I was very tired in my 2nd pregnancy, but I think that was just because I was working full time, and then came home to a toddler!
Part of me wants to have another baby. I’d love to have a boy, but also love to think about my 2 littles girls having another sister. I picture them being close, and taking vacations together when they’re in their 20’s. Not that they couldn’t take a vacation with their brother!! Haha! The other part of me isn’t sure if I want another baby. We don’t live near any family, and we both work full time (when I’m not on maternity leave). We live in a city where childcare is expensive, and having a 3rd would mean that one of us would probably have to stay home, unless we wait several years for our first 2 to be nearing school age. That’s, of course, something we are seriously considering!
So, to answer your question, I don’t know what I will do, but the discomfort of pregnancy is the last reason I’d consider stopping at 2!
Thank you! Its always good to hear others experiences as well. And its nice to get outside opinions too. Thanks for putting it simply. Sometimes its hard to see things clearly in the midst of it, ya know.
I definately would not have another one in our current house. Its extremely tiny. We dont have family in the area, and our friends are too far away. However, we are in the process of moving into a bigger house, closer to our church family. We are in a transition, and I believe tho challenging, another preg would be a tad easier in the new house. Thanks for making me feel better about it!
[name]Karen[/name],
My husband and I also feel children are a blessing. We have to face that statement with knowledge of our bodies and limits too though. I definitely agree with labmama… Only you and your husband can decide.
We have a strong faith and despite two very difficult pregnancies, my husband and I prayed for #3 so much. It did not happen. We never got tested or tried any artificial way to conceive. We just kept focusing on life and moving forward while keeping that TTC #3 in the back of our heads. In God’s timing though, we did conceive- twins! (#1 and #2 are 28 months apart and the twins arrived when #2 was 6!) We were willing to put my health on the line to conceive again, but for some reason, we got angry at God when we didn’t conceive quickly when we waited to. It took some time for us to sort through that faith and belief…we had to really give that up to Him before we could be confident in understanding that he’d bless us with #3 (and 4!) when it was the perfect time.
Wow, that really is amazing! [name]Ive[/name] always wanted twins, but I think my body would absolutely give out. Yes, every pregnancy is so different! Im thrilled for you that Gods blessed your twin pregnancy! While I recover my health, we are taking this time to seek Gods will for us. Im going to pray for an easy pregnancy, but if not, praying for courage and strength to make it through. And praying for Gods clear direction about adoption too. God is faithful. His promise is sure. I wouldn’t trade my experience for anything. God taught me soo much through it, and it was quite a journey with the [name]Lord[/name]! I also believe He did that so I can relate to other moms who may be struggling and be a blessing to them as well. God is so good!
I have HG. The first pregnancy was much worse than this one, although this one is horrible, too. I cannot imagine having four HG pregnancies in five years. That’s just insane to me. [name]Grace[/name] is almost four and we’re not due until February. And even this is too close for me. I had to have my teeth fixed because getting sick so much stripped the enamel off of them, the lining of my esophogus has deteriorated, I would pass-out even from shifting in my bed, I suffered from post-partum depression and post traumatic stress disorder, I developed intense fears of certain smells and tastes (that I still have), and I spent multiple trips to the hospital, about half of which I was admitted for several days at a time, just to get enough fluid in me to survive. We had serious conversations about abortion in the toughest weeks. Of course, my pregnancies may just affect me in different ways than your pregnancies affect you. And even though this pregnancy has been better, I cannot imagine going through it again. I lost 25% of my body weight with [name]Grace[/name]. And even though I’m only 14 weeks now, I’ve already lost 20 pounds. It took me two years after [name]Grace[/name] was born to start to feel normal again. And not even pre-pregnancy normal. This is a new normal.
If you and your husband feel that you can do it, and feel that your children can cope, then I encourage you to follow your instincts. But I must warn you that your HG can get much worse, and that it would be even more difficult with multiple children to look after and POTS on top of everything else.
Thanks for sharing! I value your opinion. That HG is a monster. I have mild HG, tho my 2wk molar preg was severe. I was so glad for the d+c just so the sickness would stop [name]Even[/name] tho I am pro-life, I can understand the desperation and plea for abortion due to HG. If I had a severe case, like yours, I wouldn’t have such a hard decision to make. Zofran is my best friend for 20wks. It basically just stops me from becoming severely dehydrated. So its bearable. My last preg, 20wks was the turning point. End of mild HG but turned into severe POTS. The POTS was much much worse. I started figuring out how to manage it r toward the end, but mostly now im figuring out really how to manage it. It takes Alot to manage it, and with taking care of everyone and everything else, managing it takes a back seat. So, im not quite sure how another preg would go. I guess #4 would like my experiment Pots preg.