Suggestions please! Husband and I don't agree

veronipep · January 9, 2013, 5:24pm

I’ve posted on here a few times with my favorite names and felt really good about the names I had chosen.

My husband FINALLY got me his list, and as expected, we don’t have any crossovers. I kind of knew his style from when we compared names while pregnant with our son, but we had at least agreed on [name]Jane[/name], which would have been his name had he been a girl. Now, with a [name]James[/name], [name]Jane[/name] is off the table.

My style/choices: I like shorter names generally (one or two syllables mostly), not many “old-lady” type names, and names that aren’t in the top 100 preferably:

[name]Tessa[/name]
[name]Eliza[/name]
[name]Greta[/name]
[name]Lucy[/name] (I realize this one is more popular)
[name]Clara[/name]

Husband’s style/choices: Seems like he likes mostly classic, longer names, some of which are pretty popular or becoming pretty popular, others of which were popular among our generation and not so much now:

[name]Elizabeth[/name]
[name]Emily[/name]
[name]Juliet[/name]
[name]Charlotte[/name]
[name]Amelia[/name]
[name]Genevieve[/name]
[name]Valerie[/name]
[name]Veronica[/name]
[name]Vanessa[/name]
[name]Alexandra[/name]
[name]Eloise[/name]
[name]Jessica[/name]

Any suggestions for names that might suit both of us? We’re going to sit on each other’s lists for a week or so and then compare notes. I’m nervous he won’t like any of mine!

As for his names, I do like [name]Elizabeth[/name] and [name]Emily[/name] but feel they are just too common. I kind of like [name]Juliet[/name] and [name]Eloise[/name] (but worry about the nickname [name]Ellie[/name], which I don’t like, or Wheezy since she will probably have asthma… haha). I dislike [name]Amelia[/name] for the popularity and nicknames, [name]Charlotte[/name] (popularity) [name]Jessica[/name] (our generation), [name]Valerie[/name], [name]Alexandra[/name] (nicknames and popularity), and the others are just kind of too frilly for me: [name]Genevieve[/name] and [name]Veronica[/name].

Thanks for the help!

goodkarmavt · January 9, 2013, 5:41pm

I think [name]Juliet[/name] is a great name, or [name]Julia[/name]. [name]Elizabeth[/name] is so timeless and lovely, but many say over used. I don’t know many. On here someone suggested spell it with an s to give it some style.
[name]Lucy[/name] is cute too.

[name]How[/name] about:
[name]Elodie[/name]
[name]Molly[/name]
[name]Laurel[/name]
[name]Maren[/name]
[name]Cleo[/name]
[name]Emory[/name]
[name]Elsa[/name]
[name]Alexis[/name] or [name]Alexia[/name]
[name]Susannah[/name]

charliesmommy126 · January 9, 2013, 5:46pm

What about [name]Claire[/name]?

characternamer · January 9, 2013, 5:48pm

My idea for a perfect compromise: [name]Elizabeth[/name] but call her [name]Eliza[/name]. [name]Both[/name] of you get your way.

veronipep · January 9, 2013, 5:51pm

Thanks for the suggestions! I like a couple - will run them by my husband.

veronipep · January 9, 2013, 5:52pm

I’ve always like [name]Claire[/name] but worry about the popularity, which is why I had [name]Clara[/name] on my list instead. Of course, that’s climbing as well

dillonsfan01 · January 9, 2013, 5:52pm

My thoughts exactly! Maybe you could choose a less common MN for it so that it won’t feel so common?

erinpurple · January 9, 2013, 5:52pm

[name]How[/name] about [name]Eloise[/name] but use the nn [name]Elsie[/name]?

A few others…
[name]Josephine[/name]
[name]Vivienne[/name]
[name]Avery[/name]
[name]Evelyn[/name]
[name]Caroline[/name]
[name]Claire[/name]
[name]Amelia[/name]
[name]Eden[/name]
[name]Blair[/name]
[name]Hannah[/name]
[name]Lucia[/name] “[name]Lou[/name]-sha”
[name]Jocelyn[/name]
[name]Cecelia[/name]
[name]Matilda[/name]

veronipep · January 9, 2013, 5:53pm

I hear you on that - it had sort of occurred to me, too. I wonder if we would we introduce her as [name]Elizabeth[/name] or [name]Eliza[/name]? I’m assuming she would be on school rosters as [name]Elizabeth[/name]. Hmm - something to think about!

indianruby · January 9, 2013, 6:07pm

[name]Eleanor[/name] or [name]Nora[/name] came to mind for me first. Maybe even [name]Cora[/name]? I don’t see why [name]Eliza[/name] can’t work for you seeing as you both quite like [name]Elizabeth[/name]. You could even give him [name]Elizabeth[/name] and just call her [name]Eliza[/name] as a nn. You could also do another longer name that he likes with a shorter nickname that you like so you get the best of both worlds. [name]Lucinda[/name] nn [name]Lucy[/name], [name]Matilda[/name] nn [name]Tilly[/name], [name]Amelia[/name] nn [name]Milly[/name], [name]Catherine[/name] nn [name]Kate[/name] or [name]Rosalie[/name] nn [name]Rose[/name].

lexiem · January 9, 2013, 6:54pm

I so totally agree and really like some of the suggestions - in particular [name]Lucinda[/name] nn [name]Lucy[/name] and [name]Matilda[/name] nn [name]Tilly[/name].

magnolia.rain · January 9, 2013, 7:01pm

[name]Jessa[/name] [name]Jane[/name] and [name]James[/name] [name]Joseph[/name]

davisellu · January 9, 2013, 7:13pm

I like the suggestion of using [name]Elizabeth[/name] nn [name]Eliza[/name]. I have a longer formal name that I use on paper and formal occasions, but when I introduce myself to people, I use my nn-- it’s like a [name]Robert[/name] introducing himself as [name]Bob[/name] or [name]Rob[/name]-- it’s really not a problem. My suggestion was that you use [name]Jane[/name] as a mn too since you both like it. [name]Elizabeth[/name] [name]Jane[/name] or [name]Eliza[/name] [name]Jane[/name] both work well. My other thought was that perhaps you could compromise with an acceptable “mid-range” length of a name-- maybe [name]Alice[/name], [name]Beatrix[/name], [name]Claudia[/name], [name]Edith[/name], [name]Ellen[/name], [name]Laura[/name], [name]Lillian[/name], [name]Louisa[/name], [name]Geneva[/name], [name]Grace[/name], [name]Harriet[/name], [name]Helen[/name], [name]Marina[/name], [name]Phoebe[/name], [name]Sarah[/name], or [name]Vivian[/name]?

kalyn · January 9, 2013, 8:20pm

I love the name [name]Genevieve[/name] w nn [name]Evie[/name] or [name]Genna[/name]. But I agree with you on the rest of his list. I love [name]Tessa[/name] on yours!

What about…

[name]Lucienne[/name] nn [name]Lucy[/name]
[name]Ruby[/name]
[name]Shelby[/name]
[name]Eleanor[/name]/[name]Nora[/name]
[name]Etta[/name]
[name]Daphne[/name]
[name]Phoebe[/name]
[name]Elisabeth[/name]–not as common as [name]Elizabeth[/name] but similar, nn: [name]Elisa[/name], [name]Lisa[/name], [name]Etta[/name], [name]Betsy[/name], [name]Elsie[/name], [name]Beth[/name], [name]Elise[/name](my personal fave)
[name]Coraline[/name] or [name]Coralie[/name] nn [name]Cora[/name]
[name]Leila[/name]
[name]Edith[/name] or [name]Eden[/name] nn [name]Edie[/name]
[name]Wynne[/name]
[name]Julia[/name] or [name]Julianna[/name] nn [name]Jules[/name], [name]Julie[/name] or [name]Anna[/name]
[name]Amber[/name]
[name]Summer[/name]
[name]Megan[/name] nn [name]Meg[/name]
[name]Hallie[/name]
[name]Laura[/name] or [name]Lauren[/name]
[name]Rose[/name] or [name]Rosalie[/name]
[name]Audrey[/name]
[name]Gwendolyn[/name] or [name]Gwenyth[/name] nn [name]Gwen[/name]
[name]Hazel[/name]
[name]Rachel[/name]
[name]Matilda[/name] nn [name]Mattie[/name]
[name]Marcella[/name] or [name]Estelle[/name] nn [name]Stella[/name]
[name]Lillian[/name] nn [name]Lily[/name]
[name]Gabrielle[/name] nn [name]Gabby[/name]
[name]Violet[/name] nn [name]Vi[/name]
[name]Marissa[/name] nn [name]Missy[/name]
[name]Nellie[/name]
[name]Mabel[/name]
[name]Miriam[/name] nn [name]Miri[/name]
[name]Olive[/name]
[name]Sadie[/name]

jellyfishmama · January 9, 2013, 8:38pm

Hee hee… I have an [name]Eliza[/name] [name]Morgan[/name] and a [name]Josephine[/name] [name]Tessa[/name]. So I love your taste, and I don’t think yours and your husband’s tastes are that dissimilar. That said, another vote for [name]Elizabeth[/name] nn [name]Eliza[/name]. You both win, and it’s an awesome name. In spite of climbing popularity, btw, I have yet to meet another little [name]Eliza[/name]. Lots of Ellies and Allies, but not even one [name]Eliza[/name]; people still look confused at me regularly when I introduce her.

stripedsocks · January 9, 2013, 8:46pm

[name]Eliza[/name] & [name]Elizabeth[/name] - suggests [name]Elise[/name], [name]Elspeth[/name], [name]Lilibet[/name].
[name]Lucy[/name] - [name]Ivy[/name], [name]Xanthe[/name], [name]Holly[/name]. I like 2-syllable girls names that end in -y and I could go on for a while in that category.
[name]Emily[/name], [name]Amelia[/name] - I like [name]Emily[/name] a lot actually but I know what you mean about it being too common. [name]Amy[/name] isn’t common but may feel too our-generation? I like [name]Amy[/name] anyway, blame [name]Little[/name] Women. Other ideas: [name]Lia[/name]/[name]Leah[/name], [name]Molly[/name], [name]Millie[/name]. And if you don’t hate the 3-syllable-and-ends-in-eee but just want a rarer one: [name]Naomi[/name], [name]Jessamy[/name], [name]Verity[/name]…?
[name]Juliet[/name] - [name]Violet[/name], [name]Gemma[/name], [name]Giselle[/name]
[name]Charlotte[/name] - [name]Caroline[/name], [name]Sinead[/name].
[name]Genevieve[/name] - [name]Juniper[/name], [name]Gene[/name], [name]Imogen[/name]? It is hard to un-frill [name]Genevieve[/name] without ending up around [name]Jennifer[/name].
[name]Valerie[/name], [name]Veronica[/name], [name]Vanessa[/name] - [name]Vita[/name], [name]Vera[/name]? I like [name]Inez[/name]/[name]Ines[/name] (ee-nes) much more than [name]Vanessa[/name] for reasons I can’t explain.
[name]Eloise[/name] - I really dislike [name]Eloise[/name], I’m sorry. [name]Ella[/name]/[name]Elle[/name] is at least simpler.
[name]Jessica[/name] - [name]Annika[/name], [name]Mariska[/name]? Or [name]Jessa[/name]/[name]Jessamy[/name]/[name]Jessamine[/name] if the popularity of [name]Jessica[/name] is what bothers you.

teacherma · January 9, 2013, 8:51pm

I like the idea of [name]Elizabeth[/name], nicknamed [name]Eliza[/name].