I’m still new to the ttc journey and am finding it can sometimes be hard to stay positive during the TWW.
[name_m]How[/name_m] do you get trough your TTC journey? What helps you remain positive? Is it religion? Family or friends? A hobby? Staying active? A book? A quote? Something else?
I’m curious to know how you girls deal with this! 
Might be a fun way to discover new hobbies/books/etc through this discussion too!
[name_m]How[/name_m] many months have you been trying now, [name_u]Shannon[/name_u]? This is my fifth month (I’m currently 9DPO) and I found things really hard for the first three months. Then, for the past two, I haven’t really cared! I know that’s not very helpful! I can’t really explain why; I guess I just kind of got over TTC. In terms of what keeps me positive…staying active, going to the gym, working, reading, sewing, spending heaps of time with my dog. All that stuff. Good luck 
I’m on my 4th month! I hope the hard part is over. I wish I wasn’t surrounded by new moms and moms to be, it makes it harder.
Thanks for your response! All sounds like good ways to keep yourself destracted! I always wish I had learned how to sew! I’d love to start DIY projects with sewing!
I’d also love to take up knitting too! Very relaxing and productive lol
Hmm… such a tough question to answer. We waited about a year after our miscarriage before even trying again - so that was a bit of a different set of circumstances but I still had to face all the pregnant happy women and healthy babies constantly. Basically I think I just did whatever I could to stay busy and not let myself dwell on it too much. Dwelling does no one any good and it’s one of those things that in reality, the more your stress about it, the harder it’s going to be on you, your so and your marriage, and your chances of conceiving. So that was enough to force me to let go. I just lived my life and focused on everything else. Once we did start trying again, it only took 2 cycles! Good luck!
I’m really enjoying sewing! I used to sew, but quit for ages, then started again when my niece was born (nearly a year ago) and made her a birth sampler. Now I’m working on a seascape (cross stitch) for the baby’s room (of course) and will start a birth sampler for our baby just as soon as I’m pregnant!
I knit and crochet and sketch to keep myself busy. It took 10 months to conceive my first. I haven’t cross stitched in ages but I am working on quilts for all my babes with their names embroidered. My grandmas will most likely do the embroidery. When I was feeling really down during the trying I would take a day and just mope and do a movie marathon and eat cookies and take out. It’s ok to be self indulgent once in a while. After a day of that I would feel better. You can go to a craft store and they have do it yourself for pretty much everything so you can teach yourself to sew or what not.
I definitely want to take a class or something to learn a craft! When time permits!
I’ve decided to take up yoga in the meantime and use it to relax the body and mind. As well, focus on eating better since DH and I have been failing at that lately!
@hootowl I will have to have a pity party day one day. I usually try to not dwell but that seems to not work well. Maybe wallowing for a day will help! Plus movies and junk food sound awesome! Lol
[name_m]Don[/name_m]'t you wish all us TTCers lived close by and could have a pity party together! With lots of ice cream and [name_m]Colin[/name_m] [name_f]Firth[/name_f] movies. 
I can’t answer your question as we’re only in month one, but I’m guessing if we aren’t successful right away, I’ll be doing a lot of exercising, reading, etc., to keep myself busy. I’ve been wanting to TTC for a while, and what I found helpful was having things to look forward to in the next few months, for example, if I’m not pregnant in the next two cycles, at least I’ll get to have a drink when I meet up with my friends in NYC. Then will be [name_u]Christmas[/name_u] coming up and we’ll get to see family, etc.
Yes! This would be amazing! So much easier when you have people who understand what you’re going through! A wallowing movie night with berries would be awesome!
I’m trying to enjoy the journey of ttc but I am so damn impatient and anxious which I’m sure does not help the cause at all… I’ve been trying to overhaul my diet and also my lifestyle a bit, as well as I guess a bit of organising around our house, prepping for a baby
I also tend to throw myself into things, so I’ve read quite a few pregnancy books and the like… I’m also thinking of starting Pilates
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But really, planning helps me considerably. I’m the sort whose got applications for preschool filled about before the baby’s even in the belly. Now, we’re in the process of looking for a house that’s not the size (and likeness) of an old man’s shoe, so that’s wonderfully distracting, and of course, already having children eases the ache of waiting for a bit. It took one year of trying with my first biological kid, but only 9m with my second, so here’s hoping that downward trend holds.
We just passed our [name_f]One[/name_f] year of TTC… It definitely can be heartbreaking. I am surrounded by beautiful babies frequently, and worry I will never be blessed to have that. [name_f]One[/name_f] day a month I have my pity party, junk food and a buffy the vampire slayer marathon or sex in the city… whichever the DH lets me get away with, and the next day I go back to being positive- and praying it will happen for us the next month.
[name_m]Just[/name_m] try to keep busy and do things you enjoy. It took eight months for us to conceive our first during that time I worked onto getting into better shape by exercising and I got crazy obcessed with everything TTC. Some people may say that’s not healthy and actually will hurt your chances (I heard a lot of people say that all I needed to do was not try so hard and relax :rolleyes:) but doing stuff made me feel more hopeful each month. I got pregnant with my daughter the first month so if you’re planning on multiple children remember it can vary child to child.
It’s tough. I hope you all don’t have to wait long. My ttc journey has been going on for 4 years and there has been much heart break. I had 3 miscarriages. It is really difficult right now since both my sis-in law and bro-in law are now going to be parents before my husband and I. Neither one of them were even trying. The bro-in-law isn’t even married to the baby’s mother yet! They are planning to wed in [name_u]November[/name_u].
If you are really down, I recommend going to a therapist or a naturopath. That really helped me.
Acupuncture can take away anxiety as well as help fertility. I tried doing yoga, but I couldn’t keep it up.
Unfortunately, I throw myself a lot of pity parties. It would be awesome if I knew other people struggling to have a baby. I did know one couple, but it finally happened for them after 5 years of nothing happening at all. If it happened for them, it can happen for me…and it will happen for all of you.
We must be patient.