Talk me into/out of Emma

I’m quite biased in [name_f]Emma[/name_f]’s favor because of an adorable Argentinian [name_f]Emma[/name_f] I know. :heart_eyes::heart_eyes:. I love her, lol.

Emma is a bit too popular for my taste—I personally prefer [name_f]Emmeline[/name_f], and even then prefer [name_f]Emmy[/name_f] to [name_f]Emma[/name_f], but I can definitely see the appeal! I think [name_f]Emma[/name_f] feels more timeless because [name_f]Gemma[/name_f] is newer to Americans, but I definitely think [name_f]Gemma[/name_f] is definitely respectable and has history. I think it’s level of appeal is different because it’s more exotic as opposed to vintage? If that makes sense.

Ruby and [name_f]Annika[/name_f] are definitely more rare (and I think [name_f]Emma[/name_f] and [name_u]Ruby[/name_u] have similar types of appeal?), but it sounds like [name_f]Emma[/name_f] is what truly appeals.

I’m not sure I’d put too much stock in [name_f]Emma[/name_f] dropping to #2–I feel like I’ve been watching [name_f]Emma[/name_f], [name_f]Olivia[/name_f], [name_f]Sophia[/name_f], and [name_f]Isabella[/name_f] swap #1 for the past decade or so. They all seem to stay within (or close) to the top 5 and all have pretty comparable popularity. [name_f]Isabella[/name_f] does seem to have trended down from 1 to about 4-5 in the past decade, but it’s so close to the top I think it could easily climb back up. I think it could easily be another decade or two before we see [name_f]Emma[/name_f] drop significantly, due to the love for [name_f]Em[/name_f] names in general ([name_f]Emmeline[/name_f] is trending up, [name_f]Emily[/name_f], [name_u]Emery[/name_u], [name_f]Emma[/name_f], [name_u]Emerson[/name_u], etc., are all well loved choices still today, and I couldn’t say about [name_f]Emmanuelle[/name_f], but [name_m]Emmanuel[/name_m] and [name_u]Emmett[/name_u] and [name_u]Emery[/name_u] and [name_u]Emerson[/name_u] are still used for boys, too).

That being said, popular names now aren’t what they were in our day. There were 17,102 [name_f]Emma[/name_f]’s born last year. If you divide that by 50, just to get an average per state, you’re down to basically 342 per state born last year. There’s an average of 59 counties per state (now this will vary—some states have as few as 3, or as many as 250+, but average number of counties is 59), so if you divide 342 by 59, you’re down to approximately 6 [name_f]Emma[/name_f]’s born per county each year. From the number of times I’ve done these calculations, I’ve noted that it seems like there’s about 20 public school districts per county. Not a solid number but close enough for a quick calculation. So that’s only about one [name_f]Emma[/name_f] in 3 maybe 4 school districts each year. Which means there likely could be only one [name_f]Emma[/name_f] in your child’s elementary school, not to mention that this number would be spread out even further by charter schools, private schools (both secular and religious, including Catholic and Protestant schools), military schools, homeschool, etc. Could your kiddo be one of 3 [name_f]Emma[/name_f]’s in her class? Sure, it’s possible. It is the number 2 name, after all. But is it likely? Not nearly so likely as it would’ve been when we were in elementary school.

It sounds like [name_f]Emma[/name_f] is really your name, and what matters at the end of the day is that she’s your [name_f]Emma[/name_f], not anyone else’s. Other little ones may share her first name but they won’t share her heart, her passions, and what she means to you. [name_m]Even[/name_m] a name can’t take that away from you. I think sometimes we put too much pressure on finding a rare name to make our children stand out. That’s not a bad thing—sometimes rarer names are more refreshing than meeting another [name_u]Liam[/name_u] or [name_u]Aidan[/name_u] or [name_u]Jackson[/name_u] or [name_f]Sophia[/name_f] or [name_f]Ava[/name_f] or what have you. But it also means some of us feel pressured to give up the names closest to our hearts because our little ones might share their name with a couple thousand other kids. I’ve felt the pressure with my own favorite, [name_f]Isabelle[/name_f] (not in the top 5 like [name_f]Emma[/name_f], but it’s close enough to [name_f]Isabella[/name_f] that it gets lumped in by many!), and I can’t even tell you how many times this site has tried to get me to shove [name_f]Isabelle[/name_f] into the mn spot or exchange it for the more exciting [name_f]Isabeau[/name_f] or [name_f]Isadora[/name_f] or even [name_f]Isobel[/name_f]. But if [name_f]Emma[/name_f] is your name for your little person, embrace [name_f]Emma[/name_f].

She’s beautiful and popular and loved for a reason. :heart:

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I honesty think that if you love [name_f]Emma[/name_f] and your okay with the popularity, you should use it! I don’t think the popularity is going to change because its classic and has a general appeal to it. I personally have never loved the name and don’t like the idea of super popular names but names are so subjective. I think you just have to be okay with knowing that your daughter will likely know many people with the same name.

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I do the same sort of calculations when I think about popular names! It definitely is eye opening!

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Emma is a beautiful name and well loved for a reason. I love a popular name as well but I’m not going to let the popularity put me off it. Most parents today strive for unique names so the percentages of babies born with top ten names is always dropping.

Go for [name_f]Emma[/name_f]!

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I think that, if you choose a classic name like [name_f]Emma[/name_f] then you always run the risk that you will bump into another little one with the same name.
That being said, [name_f]Emma[/name_f] is a beautiful name and I think it’s better to use it and know another [name_f]Emma[/name_f] vs. not use it and have baby name envy everytime you hear it on someone elses DD!
Both [name_u]Ruby[/name_u] and [name_f]Annika[/name_f] are also gorgeous choices. Being from the UK I also find [name_f]Gemma[/name_f] dated but that might not be the case where you live. Either way it all depends on whether you genuinely like a name or if you’d only be settling for an alternative in the hopes that it is less popular among your DDs future circle of friends.

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This has made travelling as an [name_f]Emma[/name_f] fantastic. Almost every country I’ve been to it’s been pronounced nearly the same, people know it and it was on keychains across Europe as a child which made me very happy.

I have no real opinion of my name. It’s fine. But I am a firm believer in using the name you love the most. As a proportion of babies, [name_f]Emma[/name_f] is nowhere near as popular as Top 5 names of the past. I just don’t see the point of dropping a name you clearly love or trying to get people to talk you out of it if you really do like it.

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I love [name_f]Emma[/name_f]! I think it will continue to be decently popular for a while, and obviously there are lots of Emmas in the world already, but it’s beautiful. If you love [name_f]Emma[/name_f], I don’t see the popularity being an issue.

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I liked another’s suggestion of [name_f]Emmeline[/name_f]. There’s also [name_f]Etta[/name_f], [name_f]Mamie[/name_f], and [name_f]Polly[/name_f] if you want something similar. I feel like [name_f]Mamie[/name_f] is the indy version of [name_f]Emma[/name_f]? Also, [name_f]Queen[/name_f] [name_f]Elizabeth[/name_f]’s nickname [name_f]Lisbet[/name_f]. Or [name_f]Elspeth[/name_f], classic offbeat name. And [name_f]Edna[/name_f] will probably circle back soon.

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I’m back and I’m still on team [name_f]Emma[/name_f], but…I was at the park today and heard both [name_f]Emma[/name_f] and [name_f]Alma[/name_f]! I wondered if another …ma name might light up like [name_f]Emma[/name_f] does for you:
[name_f]Alma[/name_f]
[name_f]Salma[/name_f]
[name_f]Selma[/name_f]
[name_f]Thelma[/name_f]
But like I said, still team [name_f]Emma[/name_f] :slight_smile:

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I love [name_f]Emma[/name_f]! [name_f]My[/name_f] favorite middle name with [name_f]Emma[/name_f] is [name_f]Emma[/name_f] [name_u]Leigh[/name_u].

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It’s trendy but classic. I personally wouldn’t use one that’s so popular, but as a name it’s pretty. I love short and sweet names with longer middle names, so maybe you could do something more adventurous for the middle name. I think that would be really cool. Like [name_f]Emma[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrix[/name_f] or [name_f]Emma[/name_f] [name_f]Calliope[/name_f] for example.

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12 years ago I didn’t use the name [name_f]Grace[/name_f] because I thought it was too popular. I had picked the name out 3 years before and ended up having a boy. In the years between the pregnancies, I had heard so many girls names [name_f]Grace[/name_f] and [name_f]Gracie[/name_f] at the playground that I felt like the name was everywhere. But it must’ve been my imagination. Because every year when she’s enrolled in a new class or new sports team I would look over the roster and there was never a [name_f]Grace[/name_f]. And I did have a twinge of regret.

If [name_f]Emma[/name_f] is the name you love, then use it.

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If you love it, you could do a double-barrel to distinguish her:

Emma-[name_f]Jane[/name_f]

Emma-[name_f]Kate[/name_f]

Emma-[name_u]Lou[/name_u]

Emma-[name_u]Jean[/name_u]

Emma-[name_f]Jade[/name_f]

Emma-[name_u]Louise[/name_u]

Emma-[name_f]Brielle[/name_f]

Simple, sweet, elegant, beautiful, I LOVE [name_f]Emma[/name_f]. Yes, it’s popularity is a problem. She will be going to school with like 10 other Emmas. Maybe you could use [name_f]Emma[/name_f] as a nickname?
For:
[name_f]Emmeline[/name_f]
[name_f]Emilia[/name_f]
[name_f]Emmanuelle[/name_f]

Honestly with my name being [name_f]Emma[/name_f] it’s not that popular anymore. I think around the time I was born (2004) was a huge time when people used the name but because of that because stopped using it as much. I have never met a [name_f]Emma[/name_f] that’s younger then 13. I would just go for it. I’ve always leaved my name even tho it’s popular in my age but tbf that has never bothered me either

Personally, I would find the popularity a problem. Generally I think that letting go of names in the top 50 simply because they’re popular is a waste if you really like the name, but [name_f]Emma[/name_f]/Emily is insanely popular – I had about seven just in my year level at school. This isn’t me telling you shouldn’t use it, it’s just my personal take/experience on the name! Obviously if you love the name so much you can’t let go of it, go for it!

While I’m here, I’ll also suggest maybe making [name_f]Emma[/name_f] the nickname to a longer, less popular name? I always thought [name_f]Emma[/name_f] was a little plain by itself, but I think it’s an adorable nickname.

Suggestions:
[name_f]Emilia[/name_f]
[name_f]Emmeline[/name_f]
[name_f]Emmaline[/name_f]
[name_f]Emiliana[/name_f]
[name_u]Emerson[/name_u]
[name_u]Emory[/name_u]
[name_f]Emelyn[/name_f]
[name_f]Emmalyn[/name_f]
[name_u]Emlyn[/name_u]
[name_f]Emerald[/name_f]
[name_f]Embeth[/name_f]

Also, if her initials are E.M (even if you don’t call her [name_f]Emma[/name_f]), you could still call her [name_f]Em[/name_f]/Emmy!