I used to be young and compile lists of names and I’m sure I would have loved to have had something like Nameberry then.
That said, now I am older and my thoughts are on motherhood and very real children that will need very real names.
I think Nameberry is a wonderful resource for parents and I am finding it quite useful for researching potential names for my family. The only thing is, I find all of the content from the teenberries not helpful.
I know nobody respects the forum categories, but is there a way to have a Teenberry-[name_u]Free[/name_u]-Zone? Somewhere there can be adults/parents/parents-to-be giving and receiving advice and opinions?
Sorry, teenberries. I swear I used to be just like you. I don’t mind you having your fun. I just am too aware of how dramatically tastes change when you get older.
Am I way out of line or does anyone feel the same?
I’m a teenberry (I think at least!) and I have to agree with you, that for parents and people TTC it would be nice to have a zone where we aren’t bursting in and can just keep to yourselves. I always try to leave the momberry forum to you guys.
I feel that this statement could have been worded slightly better; surely the quality of advice varies from person to person anyway, their age notwithstanding? It would be difficult to establish who is a teenberry and who is an actual parent/parent-to-be. How would the restrictions work?
I actually think that in plenty of cases the younger members are helpful and do consider real life in their responses. I just ignore responses from people I consider to be ‘just playing’ and not grasping the seriousness of naming an actual human being. Certain members I know are very young and I just don’t really take their opinions into account. It’s possible to do that without actually excluding anyone.
It’s true that tastes and circumstances change and anyone claiming to be sure about what sort of names they’re going to give their children at the age of 16 is probably just kidding themselves (yeah, I used to think I knew as well!). It’s also much easier to have bold tastes and opinions when it’s all theoretical. Having said that, there are plenty of adult members with children who have given them names that I definitely wouldn’t want to live with. So that sort of style isn’t limited to teenagers.
I don’t think you can really divide members on age - as far as I can see different tastes, styles and attitudes can be found across different age groups.
This . The thing that I can’t understand is why teens are the only one who are rude . Yes , I know teens in the forum like that but most of us try to be helpful & nice to other . I think the only forum that could be consider " teenberry free " is the Momberry . I try to avoid post there cause I know they want answers from people who are experienced in this kind of things . But in the other you can’t really divide people . This may seem racist to some of them.
I don’t feel the same. Most of my encounters (all of my encounters? I can’t think of a negative one) with the teenberries have been really pleasant. They’re considerate, intelligent and some have better taste in names than I do. Most people seem to respect the forum categories, don’t they? The momberry section is made up almost entirely of mothers and mothers to be, for example. One of my favorite things about Nameberry is how inclusive it is. I’m far from my teen years, but I have no children, and I don’t know that I ever will. However, I love names and I’m so happy there’s a place like NB where I can wax poetic about my favorite names. I would personally be pretty turned off at a Keep Out sign for teens and people who aren’t naming “very real children” (me). I don’t really understand how changes in name tastes matters. I’m all grown up and my tastes still change. Sometimes I’m all about [name_f]Jane[/name_f], and other days I’m in love with [name_f]Sophronia[/name_f]. If you’re not satisfied with the advice you’re getting on names, you could maybe make it clearer what you’re looking for? I’m not sure what you’re referring to, so I’m just guessing. I’m a little sad that you don’t think teens have anything to offer. Now, I will give you that they are from time to time immature, and lash out or over-react, but I’ve seen adults do the same.
If there’s a specific member or thread you’re referring to, I think it’s best to either ignore it, or ask a mod for some advice/help on the issue.
If there’s a troll in the dungeon pretending to have 12 exotically named babies, hit the report button.
While I’m sort of out of this teen zone (or I will be in [name_f]October[/name_f]), I still find this very offensive, actually. I ran into this on another forum, where members actually started harassing me because I was 18 at the time. I don’t see what the big deal is, why can’t a teenager come online and ask for help with names? We aren’t trolling, we aren’t causing problems, so what does it matter?
I’m sorry, but I think the way you worded your post is entirely out of order. There’s nothing that bothers me more than ‘adults’ (aka women maybe a few years older than I am, in most cases) acting as if they know what is best for all people younger than they are. I can think of 3-4 teenagers on here who are considering TTC within the next few years, and quite a few who are over 25, who are not TTC within the next few years. [name_f]Do[/name_f] you propose segregating them as well?
Nameberry is the only forum that is a welcome place for those who just love names, and I’d prefer it if that wasn’t taken away from us all who are not currently pregnant, mothers, or trying to conceive. If none of us are physically doing anything to cause harm, why separate us? I doubt you would like being told you could no longer join in to a group you were once welcomed in because the rules changed to exclude you, so why suggest doing it to us?
If it’s because teens are immature, that’s a fair point, but I know plenty of adults, some who once posted on here, who are just as bad.
EDIT: I’d just like to say that, just because I’m young, doesn’t mean I don’t consider reality in my lists. I change my lists so frequently, because of real life - if I see lots of comments saying how a teenager named Myrtle or Edna would likely murder her parents in her sleep, I’m going to hesitate adding it, so it’ll be removed from my list and something new will take its place. Perhaps there are some who are quite young who don’t think realistically, but I know for sure that a lot of us do.
It’s also basically impossible to define ‘maturity’. At what point do you become mature? I can look back on my teenage years and see that there was a lot of stuff I got wrong when I was thinking about life, and a lot of stuff that has changed about me. However, I’m not so smug as to assume that now I’ve got it all figured out and reached my final stopping point. Human beings continue to mature throughout their lives. When I’m in my 30s I’m sure I’ll look back on my 20s and see how wrong and naive I was then! When I’m in my 40s I’m sure I’ll look back on my 30s and wonder how I failed to realise this, that and the other. There’s no finish line here!
Goodness! Well, I wanted to know if I was out of line and I guess I was.
To those I offended, I am very sorry. That wasn’t my intention.
Forgive me for over-generalizing. I should have been more specific about my concerns. I wasn’t trying to say that all teens and non-parents are too immature or have nothing to offer.
I meant that I am currently interested in what people are actually naming their children. I also want to be able to gauge what names are becoming popular in usage, instead of just liked by people who are still years away from having children. I wish I could scroll through the [name_u]Baby[/name_u] Names forums and not have to come across games, pet/character names, or all the purely hypothetical queries.
That’s what I was trying to say (and failed, obviously). I now think that I may be asking for too much.
Thank you to @jackal, I think your way of self-filtering instead of excluding is a good solution.
There are plenty of other forums on other sites that have what you’re looking for actually, perhaps you’d be happier on one of them if you’re looking for names that are being used, rather than those ‘just liked by people who are still years away from having children’. I think you may be asking too much, as I said, this is the only apparent forum that welcomes ‘name nerds’, and from what I see, you seem to still be new to the site. Perhaps getting to know everyone a bit better first before you say you’d prefer it if we weren’t welcome would be best.
Character names, pet names and games all have their own forums, so I suggest staying out of those if you dislike them. As for ‘purely hypothetical queries’, I’m pretty sure if you understood us all as well as you say you do, you’d understand why we have ‘purely hypothetical queries’. I’m quite glad you do not run the site, because you have made it very clear that people like me, would not be welcome.
I have never been in the character names, pet names and games forums - I’m talking about the top three (Baby Names, Girl Baby Names, and Boy Baby Names) where I see that stuff all the time. I understand why too, as those categories get more views.
I never said I want to exclude people from the site. I completely relate to all the namenerds and I definitely would have been a teenberry if Nameberry existed back then.
And yes, you’re probably right that a different naming site may have something closer to what I’m looking for. Is it bad that I just think Nameberry is a gorgeous and well-made site and would rather not go elsewhere?
Well, there is a mostly ‘teenberry-free-zone’ called momberries; go check it out.
Why? I honestly don’t see the difference between receiving advice from a 30-year-old that is never going to have children, and a 16-year-old who is still years from having them. What they have in common is their passion for names, and this site is the perfect outlet for people like that. I think it’s quite arrogant of you to join a site and make demands like this without even having gotten to ‘know’ any of the members well. Many of the teenberries on NB have been here for years, and are very cherished members of the community.
I do respond to a Teenberries forum but when I first joined, everybody told me they assumed I was much older because of my taste and behavior. Being in my late teens doesn’t make me a feverish crazy girl obsessed with trendy names and cute babies, does it?
Anyway, I am sure there are a lot of name boards on parents forums. I remember [name_u]Baby[/name_u] Center had one. But, I’d like to say that the posters there aren’t as helpful as berries and their tastes are usually different from “berry taste” - I used to hang there before joining NB.
The games, pet/character names etc, are by and large in their own distinct part of the forum.
And as others have already pointed out, there is the Momberries section, for er you know parents.
There are plenty of parenting sites with naming sections, and one of the things I love about Nameberry is that isn’t just designed to be for parents, which is great for people like me who aren’t close to having children yet.
Nameberry is for all of us, not just for those of you have, are having or plan to have children very soon.