DH and I just officially began TTCing and we’re thrilled to be going on this journey. Hoping for a short one, but trying to keep an open mind about it all. [name_m]Just[/name_m] happy to be here and finally able to TTC.
Anyways, maybe I’m still in the “honeymoon” phase of it all, but I’ve been super positive and thinking about things like baby names and how we’ll tell our parents whenever it does (if it does) happen.
I’m curious to know how some of you momma’s told your parents you were pregnant for the first time! [name_f]Share[/name_f] your stories!
Our first daughter was adopted, and she was 7 when we did. We had already spoken to our parents about it all and it was well known that we were adopting, so it wasn’t much of a surprise. With my first and current pregnancy, however, our daughter had the creative idea that we used!
We printed some pictures of the baby from the ultrasound, and glued them into cards. We wrote down “See you in [name_f]February[/name_f], Grandma/Grandpa!” And then gave them to our parents at the next gathering. It was quite cheesy, but they loved it!
I had been planning on doing something similar to @almabella, with ultrasound photos in a “grandparents” picture frame or something, but I was so sick and exhausted that I didn’t have the energy to do much. My mom strangely seemed to “know” already, even though we hadn’t given any hint that we were going to TTC. On mother’s day she told me someone said I was going to tell her I was pregnant that day… I was going to wait until I was 12 weeks to tell anyone, but I just said something like, “Wow, how did they know that?”
Told my dad a few weeks later on his birthday with something like, “Wow, you’re really old now. Old enough to be a grandpa.”
For DH’s side, there are already two grandchildren. We told his brother’s family first by giving the girls shirts that said “Big Cousin” on them (they had been dying for a cousin for years!). We took a photo of all of us with them wearing the shirts and pointing at my belly, and showed his dad the photo. His dad didn’t get at first and was like, “Yeah that’s a nice photo??” which made it pretty funny when he finally did get it.
I just phoned them up after my 12-week scan. We don’t live in the same country and I didn’t want to wait until I would have seen them in person. As it happened, boyfriend’s parents were also in the UK at the time, so we told the rest of his family in person at a casual lunch (nothing ‘creative’, boyfriend just did a small announcement) but his parents heard over the phone as well. Everyone was happy and excited to hear the news and we are not much for theatrics so the simple route worked fine for us.
[name_m]How[/name_m] do mom’s do that! They have such a crazy instinct. Something tells me my mom would know, too. Maybe not way before, but if I tried telling her, she would just guess it before we even got to the point I think.
I like that cousin idea! That’s cute. We’ll be the first in both our families to have children. At least within our blood siblings. So, it should be exciting whenever it does happen.
Has anyone told their parents/immediate family before the 12-week scan?
This is our first month TTCing and though the chances are high we won’t be successful our first month, it’s still a possibility. I should be able to test in 15ish days or so. But I’m a bit worried because in early [name_u]November[/name_u] we’re going on a trip with my family to [name_f]Vegas[/name_f] for my sister’s 21st birthday. I’ll know by then if I’m pregnant or not, but it will still be very early. I definitely won’t be able to get away with not drinking without a reason as to why.
I kinda wanted to wait a bit to tell them, but we may have to tell them pretty early if it does happen this cycle!
It just depends how you would feel about having to announce a miscarriage. I know that sounds morbid, and I also know that something can go wrong at any stage of pregnancy, but the fact is that first trimester miscarriage is very common.
I did not want to have to tell people, even my parents, about a miscarriage, so I waited. I actually did tell my mother about my miscarriage right after it happened, and have since told a lot of people whenever the subject comes up in conversation, but I still haven’t told my father and I don’t think I ever will. It’s not that we don’t have a good relationship, I just have no desire to talk to him about that. I really appreciated being able to choose whether and exactly when to share the information with different people. Some people feel differently and know that they would tell their parents about a bad pregnancy outcome right away anyway (and trust their parents to keep the secret if they don’t want the information going any further).
Having said all that, the most likely scenario when you get pregnant is that you are going to have a healthy baby. So don’t be paranoid but at the same time don’t think it can’t happen to you because it’s very far from being a one in a million situation (I’m afraid I will forever be paranoid now, because it did happen to me, so take this post with a pinch of salt if you like).
