The "Ego Problem"

[immyvictoria]

Hello beautiful people!

[name_f]My[/name_f] boyfriend & I are super excited to be expecting our first child but we are experiencing something I call the “ego problem”.

[name_f]My[/name_f] boyfriend is dead set on wanting to use [name_f]Harriet[/name_f] ([name_m]Harrison[/name_m] for a boy) as our child’s name…the problem for me is that my boyfriend’s name is [name_m]Harry[/name_m]. Not too keen on using his name, but slightly changed, for our child.

I’m trying to find some ideas that may have the same feel or be the same style as [name_f]Harriet[/name_f]; do you have any suggestions for me that I could show him?

Thank you,
[name_f]Immy[/name_f]

(Keep a look out for my boy thread, too, please!)

[Mickie9]

Have you considered [name_f]Juliet[/name_f]?

[darcydeacon]

[name_f]Aria[/name_f]
[name_f]Hannah[/name_f]
[name_f]Josephine[/name_f]
[name_f]Rhiannon[/name_f]
[name_f]Hallie[/name_f]
[name_f]Penelope[/name_f]
[name_u]Harper[/name_u]
[name_f]Maisie[/name_f]
[name_f]Alaia[/name_f]
[name_u]Billie[/name_u]

[rkrd]

Convince him to ‘save’ the [name_m]Harry[/name_m] names for a boy ([name_m]Harrison[/name_m]), thus excluding [name_f]Harriet[/name_f] from consideration. Then…pick a name you love for your daughter.

[immyvictoria]

He’s already pushing for [name_m]Harrison[/name_m] as well; however I hate the idea in general. I do truly feel bad, however I just cannot do it. As a middle name? Perhaps I could get on board with that but never, ever as a first name. He hasn’t even considered any other first names besides [name_f]Harriet[/name_f] and [name_m]Harrison[/name_m] so I don’t really have anything else to base ideas on

I like [name_f]Juliet[/name_f], [name_f]Aria[/name_f], [name_f]Josephine[/name_f], and [name_f]Penelope[/name_f]!

[niftylavalamp]

What about [name_f]Hattie[/name_f] or [name_f]Henrietta[/name_f]? They’re both related to [name_m]Harry[/name_m], but not quite so obviously.
Other ideas:
[name_f]Hazel[/name_f]
[name_f]Helena[/name_f]
[name_f]Mary[/name_f]
[name_u]Marian[/name_u]
[name_f]Alice[/name_f]
[name_f]Clara[/name_f]
[name_f]Mabel[/name_f]
[name_f]Beatrix[/name_f]
[name_f]Holly[/name_f]
[name_f]Abigail[/name_f]
[name_f]Lucille[/name_f]
[name_f]Matilda[/name_f]
[name_f]Rosalind[/name_f]
[name_f]Millicent[/name_f]
Miette
[name_f]Katherine[/name_f]
[name_f]Cordelia[/name_f]
[name_f]Susanna[/name_f]
[name_f]Violet[/name_f]
[name_f]Colette[/name_f]
[name_f]Olivette[/name_f]
[name_f]Lettice[/name_f]
[name_f]Phoebe[/name_f]
[name_f]Annabel[/name_f]
[name_f]Hester[/name_f]
[name_f]Heloise[/name_f]
[name_f]Victoria[/name_f]
[name_f]Yvette[/name_f]
[name_f]Agatha[/name_f]
[name_f]Dorothy[/name_f]
[name_f]Wilhelmina[/name_f]
[name_f]Enid[/name_f]
[name_f]Charlotte[/name_f]

[immyvictoria]

I like [name_f]Hattie[/name_f], actually! (Not so much [name_f]Henrietta[/name_f], however) I also like [name_f]Hazel[/name_f], [name_u]Marian[/name_u], [name_f]Alice[/name_f], [name_f]Lucille[/name_f], [name_f]Matilda[/name_f], [name_f]Rosalind[/name_f], [name_f]Millie[/name_f] (however not [name_f]Millicent[/name_f]), [name_f]Cordelia[/name_f], [name_f]Susanna[/name_f], [name_f]Violet[/name_f], [name_f]Annabel[/name_f], and [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f]!

[OliviaSarah]

[name_f]Harriet[/name_f] and [name_m]Harrison[/name_m] would be lovely middle names, but I’m going to be honest - I find it incredibly self-involved when parents name their children after themselves (I know a [name_u]Robin[/name_u] with a daughter called [name_f]Robyn[/name_f] for example).

Some that are similar to [name_f]Harriet[/name_f] (it’s my younger cousin’s name, so this list includes a few that her parents were also considering)…

[name_f]Isabella[/name_f]
[name_f]Imogen[/name_f]
[name_f]Phoebe[/name_f]
[name_f]Matilda[/name_f]
[name_f]Daisy[/name_f]
[name_f]Willow[/name_f]
[name_f]Annabella[/name_f]
[name_f]Pippa[/name_f]
[name_f]Jasmine[/name_f]
[name_f]Tabitha[/name_f]
[name_f]India[/name_f]
[name_f]Florence[/name_f]
[name_f]Delilah[/name_f]
[name_f]Gracie[/name_f]
[name_f]Molly[/name_f]
[name_u]Evelyn[/name_u]
[name_f]Winona[/name_f]
[name_f]Violet[/name_f]

for boys you might like: [name_u]Dexter[/name_u], [name_u]Toby[/name_u], [name_u]Frankie[/name_u], [name_u]Elliot[/name_u], [name_u]Jude[/name_u]?

[kakin]

If he really wants a name type of connection, you could use the same letter. [name_f]Henriette[/name_f] (french version of [name_f]Harriet[/name_f]- probably too close), [name_f]Hannah[/name_f], [name_u]Harper[/name_u], [name_f]Heather[/name_f], [name_u]Harmony[/name_u], [name_f]Hailey[/name_f], [name_f]Hazel[/name_f], [name_f]Hallie[/name_f], [name_f]Hattie[/name_f], [name_f]Heidi[/name_f], [name_f]Helena[/name_f], etc.

I can’t tell if he likes [name_f]Harriet[/name_f] for the style or because it’s like his name, so I’ll just list some girl names (sorry for repeats)

[name_f]Lillian[/name_f], [name_f]Maeve[/name_f], [name_f]Scarlett[/name_f], [name_f]Paige[/name_f], [name_u]Vivian[/name_u]/[name_f]Vivienne[/name_f], [name_f]Matilda[/name_f], [name_f]Madeline[/name_f], [name_f]Margaret[/name_f], [name_f]Colette[/name_f], [name_f]Elodie[/name_f], [name_f]Cecile[/name_f]/[name_f]Cecilia[/name_f], [name_f]Clara[/name_f], [name_f]Rosalie[/name_f], [name_f]Emma[/name_f], [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u], [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f], [name_f]Melanie[/name_f], [name_f]Gemma[/name_f], [name_f]Naomi[/name_f], [name_f]Paige[/name_f], [name_f]Elise[/name_f], [name_f]Sadie[/name_f], [name_f]Kyla[/name_f], [name_f]Imogen[/name_f], [name_f]Bridget[/name_f]/[name_f]Bridgette[/name_f], [name_f]Kirsten[/name_f], [name_f]Giselle[/name_f], [name_f]Iris[/name_f], [name_f]Jessamine[/name_f]

[immyvictoria]

If my boyfriend REALLY couldn’t let it go, I would probably settle for using them as a middle name; however I will fight until the end of not using them for a first name. You’ve actually suggested my name, which I find a bit funny ([name_f]Imogen[/name_f])

I like [name_f]Matilda[/name_f], [name_f]Daisy[/name_f], [name_f]Willow[/name_f], [name_f]Pippa[/name_f], [name_f]India[/name_f], [name_f]Florence[/name_f], [name_f]Delilah[/name_f], [name_f]Gracie[/name_f], [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u], and [name_f]Violet[/name_f]! I also like [name_u]Jude[/name_u] from your boy suggestions!

[immyvictoria]

He just likes [name_f]Harriet[/name_f] because of his name…hence why I call it the ego problem

I like [name_f]Lillian[/name_f], [name_u]Vivian[/name_u], [name_f]Matilda[/name_f], [name_f]Madeleine[/name_f], [name_u]Evelyn[/name_u], [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f], and [name_f]Bridget[/name_f]! I’m also a little surprised that two people have now suggested my name, never thought that would happen haha!

[solace]

Sorry for the repeats…and Oh I included name for both genders as I didn’t want to double post. Good luck finding!

[name_f]Indira[/name_f] (favorite means beauty)
[name_f]Marceline[/name_f]
[name_f]Caroline[/name_f]
[name_f]Georgia[/name_f]/[name_f]Georgina[/name_f]/[name_f]Georgiana[/name_f]
[name_u]Charlie[/name_u]
[name_m]Beckett[/name_m]
[name_m]Jackson[/name_m]
[name_m]Leo[/name_m]
[name_m]Jonah[/name_m]
[name_f]Olive[/name_f]/[name_m]Oliver[/name_m]/[name_f]Olivia[/name_f]
[name_u]Parker[/name_u]
[name_f]Elsie[/name_f]
[name_m]Liam[/name_m]
[name_u]Elliot[/name_u]
[name_f]Beatrice[/name_f]
[name_f]Alice[/name_f]
[name_f]Marlo[/name_f]/[name_u]Marlowe[/name_u]
[name_m]Barnaby[/name_m]
[name_m]Peter[/name_m]
[name_f]Constance[/name_f]
[name_m]Miller[/name_m]
[name_m]Thierry[/name_m]
[name_f]Charlotte[/name_f]
[name_f]Barbara[/name_f] (I want someone to bring this name back!)
[name_f]Delilah[/name_f]
[name_f]Marcy[/name_f]
[name_f]Maya[/name_f]
[name_u]Eden[/name_u]
[name_u]Taylor[/name_u]
[name_f]Nora[/name_f]
[name_f]Carly[/name_f]
[name_f]Enrica[/name_f]/[name_m]Enrico[/name_m] - Italian version of [name_m]Henry[/name_m]
[name_u]Emory[/name_u]/[name_u]Emery[/name_u]
[name_m]Kingsley[/name_m]
[name_f]Vanessa[/name_f]
[name_m]Raeburn[/name_m]
[name_f]Electra[/name_f]
[name_m]Louie[/name_m]
[name_f]Veronica[/name_f]
[name_u]Halcyon[/name_u]
[name_u]Hero[/name_u]
[name_u]Harper[/name_u]
[name_m]Hayes[/name_m]
[name_u]Ryan[/name_u]
[name_u]Shiloh[/name_u]
[name_u]Dallas[/name_u]
[name_f]Freya[/name_f]
[name_f]Antonia[/name_f]
[name_u]August[/name_u]
[name_m]Benjamin[/name_m]
[name_m]Jasper[/name_m]
[name_m]Milo[/name_m]
[name_f]Grace[/name_f]
[name_f]Lucy[/name_f]
[name_f]Rose[/name_f]
[name_f]Eleanor[/name_f]
[name_f]Amelia[/name_f]
[name_f]Adelaide[/name_f]
[name_f]Cora[/name_f]
[name_m]William[/name_m]
[name_u]Finn[/name_u]
[name_u]Aubrey[/name_u]
[name_m]Hank[/name_m]
[name_m]Kendrick[/name_m]
[name_m]Laszlo[/name_m]
[name_m]Ronald[/name_m]/[name_m]Ronaldo[/name_m]
Echo
Jones

[immyvictoria]

For girl names I like [name_f]India[/name_f] (something about the R in [name_f]Indira[/name_f] throws me off), [name_f]Elsie[/name_f], [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f], [name_f]Alice[/name_f], [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f], [name_f]Delilah[/name_f], [name_u]Eden[/name_u], [name_f]Nora[/name_f], [name_f]Freya[/name_f], [name_f]Grace[/name_f], [name_f]Lucy[/name_f], [name_f]Rose[/name_f], [name_f]Adelaide[/name_f], and [name_f]Cora[/name_f]

For boy names I like [name_u]Charlie[/name_u], [name_m]Jackson[/name_m], [name_m]Leo[/name_m], [name_u]Emery[/name_u], [name_u]Harper[/name_u], [name_m]Hayes[/name_m], [name_m]Jasper[/name_m], [name_m]Milo[/name_m], [name_u]Finn[/name_u], and [name_u]Aubrey[/name_u]

[bibliophile]

[name_f]Lisette[/name_f], [name_f]Philomena[/name_f], [name_f]Hendrika[/name_f] (Dutch name that’s a relative of [name_f]Harriet[/name_f] somewhere down the line), [name_f]Arrietty[/name_f], [name_f]Hermione[/name_f], [name_f]Eleanor[/name_f], [name_f]Hester[/name_f]/[name_f]Hestia[/name_f], [name_f]Ffion[/name_f], [name_f]Eloise[/name_f], [name_f]Alberta[/name_f], [name_u]Harley[/name_u]

Most of these names, with the exceptional of perhaps [name_f]Arrietty[/name_f], will not satisfy his taste for self-naming after. Honestly, I would simply just explain to him that it’s faux pas and egotistical to name a child after one’s self. I’d encourage him to explore other names that aren’t simply attractive to him to his quite personal connection to them. What’s his style like? [name_f]Harriet[/name_f] and [name_m]Harrison[/name_m] have vastly different styles ([name_m]Harrison[/name_m] being modern and boyish whilst [name_f]Harriet[/name_f] has a very regal, British sound).

[lisaann]

[name_f]Adele[/name_f]
[name_f]Adeline[/name_f]
[name_f]Beatrice[/name_f]
[name_f]Blanche[/name_f]
[name_f]Coralie[/name_f]
[name_f]Christabel[/name_f]
[name_f]Eliza[/name_f]
[name_f]Eloisa[/name_f]
[name_f]Flora[/name_f]
[name_f]Genevieve[/name_f]
[name_f]Henrietta[/name_f]
[name_f]Louisa[/name_f]
[name_f]Lucille[/name_f]
[name_f]Maude[/name_f]
[name_f]Rena[/name_f]