I’m not looking for advice on a specific middle name here, I’m looking for opinions on the topic of middle names in general. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.
To give some background info, myself and my siblings are all named for relatives - first name and middle name too. Because of this, our names completely mismatch and they don’t sound good together at all.
I am now faced with the dilemma of honouring a relative with my baby’s middle name, or just choosing a name we both love.
I have seen many posts here from creative members who use a whole range of criteria to honour their relatives - from their favourite flower, to their birthstone, or even coming up with a whole new name that still gives a nod to them.
I would LOVE to do this but unfortunately a gesture like this would be completely lost on my family, they wouldn’t ‘get it’.
For reference, I mused about naming the baby [name_f]Tessa[/name_f] for a relative named [name_f]Theresa[/name_f], only to be met with bemused remarks about how [name_f]Tessa[/name_f] isn’t our aunts name and if I want to name the baby after her, just call her [name_f]Theresa[/name_f]?
So I don’t want to talk myself into using a derivative of a name to honour someone who won’t even appreciate the meaning behind it, and I’d rather just use a name we love if that’s the case.
As well as that, my brother was named for a person who turned out to be not so nice and that person isn’t in our lives any more. I guess I’m being pessimistic but the idea that I might name my child for someone who might not be around when he/she is older bothers me too.
It would mean to honour our relative we’d have to use a middle name that neither of us particularly like, that doesn’t compliment the first name so well either.
The alternative is to use a first and middle we simply love. It would be meaningful to us, but wouldn’t honour anyone. I’m a stickler for uniformity, so if whichever route we go down with baby #1, we will be doing the same for any future children we may have.
[name_f]My[/name_f] family are traditionalists and I can see some of them possibly being a bit hurt that at a minimum we didn’t use the middle name to honour someone, but I do like the idea of the name being “his” or “hers” with no other connections.
What does everyone think, would you feel a bit cheated and left out if you didn’t have a family name as part of your name? Is the meaning behind a middle name all that important?
When you are coming up with combos, is including a family name of paramount importance or maybe just a bonus if it works out?
This is a bit bloggy but its something I’m really interested to learn more about other peoples thoughts on. Thanks in advance!!