thanks so much wendy, you’re the sweetest!! 
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Would you assume a Harbor’s (b) parents were religious?
- Yes
- No
- No, and I don’t see why you would think that
- I’d assume they might be spiritual
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- Elizabeth “Eliza”
- Elisa
- Elise
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- Finn Alexander
- Finn Oliver
- Archer Reese
- Archer Theodore
- Simon Alexander
- Asher Benjamin
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Sholto combos 
- Sholto Caspian
- Sholto Joachim (yo-ah-keem)
- Sholto Lazarus
- Sholto Caspian Altair
- Sholto Joseph Chase
- Sholto Dominic Shepherd
- Sholto Clement Chase
- Sholto Lazarus Fox
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On first look, how would you pronounce Calafia?
- cuh-LAFF-ee-uh (“laff” sounds like rat)
- cuh-LAWF-ee uh ( “lawf” sounds like saw)
- cal-uh-FEE-uh (“cal” sounds like Sal)
- call-uh-FEE-uh (“call” sounds like ball)
- Other?
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Which nickname do you like best for Calafia?
- Callie (rhymes with tally)
- Kali (rhymes with Wally)
- Calla
- Lali
- Laffie
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i think caffie would be kinda cute too!
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In the USA:
- Killian
- Cillian
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NOTW week 42
(accidentally added Asterin to last week’s polls realised it should’ve been this week)
Girls
- Asterin
- Margaret
- Daephinia
- Elle
- Aurelia
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Boys
- Artem
- Thorn
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Overall
- Asterin
- Margaret
- Daephinia
- Artem
- Thorn
- Elle
- Aurelia
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Do you plan to keep your surname when you marry?
Feel free to provide feedback on your answer 
I’m curious!
- Yes, my name is my name
- Depends on whether I like my partner’s name more
- No, I will take my spouse’s name
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Definitely keep mine, but maybe hyphenate depending on how it sounds!
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I’ve never felt overly attached to my surname + it’s very cumbersome internationally, as no other country would pronounce it the way we do in mine 
[name_f][/name_f] And I find the idea of sharing a surname with my spouse to be very romantic, so it’s an easy choice for me!
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I should’ve added hyphenating as an option! I forgot about that one.
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That makes sense! I’m a huge romantic and I definitely see the appeal of having one family name 
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Alternatives if the other poll didn’t capture your preference:
- I would hyphenate our names
- I would create a new surname with my partner
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Calafia “Kali” (prn. cah-LAW-fee-uh and CAW-lee)
- I like it!
- I can see it for you!
- Not for me!
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How usable is Calafia “Kali”?
- Totally usable!
- I don’t think so…
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[name_f][/name_f]
Complicated answer! I always assumed I would keep mine or hyphenate. Until I met my now-husband and his surname 1) rhymed with mine and 2) together they made a not-great word 
[name_f][/name_f] we debated both changing to an old family name of mine, or using that older name to create a new hyphenated name, but ultimately to limit paperwork I just changed mine because out of the two his is cooler 
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i find it very very pretty on paper but the “aw” sounds of the pronunciation throw me off a little when i say it out loud, especially with kali, which i can’t help but want to say as kah-lee!
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I would 100% keep it if I end up marrying a man (I’m bi). odds are, he would never have thought about changing his surname to that of his partner, so I’m not giving it a moment of thought either
[name_f][/name_f]if I marry a woman (or, really anyone aside from a man), my answer might be more complicated. I’m not actually all that attached to my surname, I’m just petty and a raging feminist, so who’s to say I wouldn’t be persuaded by a woman who had a prettier surname, or who was willing to create a surname unique to both of us
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I totally relate! I’m bisexual and a raging feminist as well. When it comes to being with another woman, I’m not as worried about the surname debate because my patriarchal concerns won’t enter the picture.
[name_f][/name_f]However, if I marry a man and want to keep my surname, I’m worried about angering my future partner’s family.
[name_f][/name_f]Whether I marry a man or not, I also think having one family name is romantic and easier.
[name_f][/name_f]That said, I abhor the history behind why women take their husband’s name: women used to be considered “property” and male lineage mattered more. That seems grossly unfair. If I’m the one pushing a baby out, don’t I deserve to pass my surname onto my kids?
[name_f][/name_f]I think I’ll keep my surname, but give our kids both our surnames (no hyphen). Something like First Name, Middle Name, Surname #1[name_f][/name_f], Surname #2[name_f][/name_f], but the kids would likely just put the final surname as their surname for simplicity’s sake.
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