I’m one of those people who worries about their kids’ names being a mismatch. If this doesn’t bother you then this post probably won’t interest you.
So far I’ve completely settled on 1 girl’s name, and part of what makes me so sure of this name is that I feel the name fits under a couple of different themes (fn: magic, old&undiscovered; mn: beloved character, very rareunique) and I’m fairly confident in my ability to build a second girl’s name that shares at least some of these themes.
Edit to add: girl’s name in mind is Tabitha Kat (not the full middle name, I’m keeping that a secret). Some of the first names I’m toying with for a second girl are Lavender and Waverley (no ideas for a middle yet).
Boys’ names are a struggle. I have one name picked out that I really like, but I feel like the themes are too specific (fn: Irish surname; mn: space-themed) and I’ve caught myself in some sort of naming trap where I would either need to pick a second boy’s name that comes off as extremely matchy-matchy, or feels like a complete mismatch.
Edit to add: boy’s name in mind is Finnegan Apollo.
I think a big part of my struggle comes from having very specific associations between boys’ names and personality type so it takes a lot of names I like off the table. For example, I could never see myself having a son named [name_m]Angus[/name_m] because it feels like a big strong name and I’m pretty much guaranteed to have a scrawny little kid (until adulthood at least). I also love a lot of boys’ names with negative meanings or associations (Maverick, Damon, etc) and I’m worried that if I have a mischievous kid (again, almost guaranteed) that family/friends/teachers will crack jokes about it being my fault for naming my kid X (which would make my blood boil).
Does anyone have any advice for broadening boy name themes (or searches) or how to move past hangups between a name and personality expectations?