My hubby and I are about to celebrate our 11 year Wedding anniversary here in a few months, and for the past few weeks I’ve been having this strong pull to have another baby. We already have 2 children, an 11 year old daughter and a 5 year old son, so we’ve been blessed and fortunate to have 2 wonderful and healthy children.
But still, I feel this longing and I am not sure why.
I would just like some thoughts or advice from you Mummy’s who are having this same experience, feelings or have 3 kiddos. I kinda feel a bit alone in this, as my hubby isn’t really keen on the idea of a third.
Am I being a bit loony? Is it because I’m turning 30 next year you think?
It is still too soon for us, but I know in my heart that I want a third. We had our first two very close together and it has been rough, but I’m loving it! I think once they are a bit older, (out of diapers) but before they’re both in school all day we will have our third. If it was up to me, I’d have 10…lol, but hubby will need some convincing for a fourth. You are fortunate to have your older siblings to help you out too. I say go for it!!!
[name_m]Trust[/name_m] your heart and things will work out. You are not being loony and I doubt if turning 30 has anything to do with it. Some Moms just need more baby time. I know…I’m one of them. Good [name_m]Luck[/name_m]!
It’s funny you posted this. My DH and I had always agreed on 2. Now we have them. Two boys 2 & 7. In fact, with the birth of our youngest DH was very clear that he didn’t want to do this again and I agreed.
Last month, knowing that I wasn’t on birth control, we were a bit irresponsible about seeing one another again after he came back from an extended work trip. When I counted and realized we could get pregnant he not only seemed as though it was completely ok, he started giving me names the next week. I did get my hopes up a little but we didn’t actually conceive.
Since then he hasn’t seemed to be worried at all about trying not to get pregnant and after discussion about how he’d really feel if I did, it seems that we’ve come to an agreement that while we aren’t trying like we did with the two boys, we aren’t stopping anything either. I’m still trying to wrap my head around it. I’m a little excited and kind of terrified because this was never the plan and I’m not sure how we’d handle a third. On the other hand, the two we have are so great, I can’t imagine a third wouldn’t be just as awesome.
I don’t think you’re crazy at all. It’s weird what life throws at us.
My DH and I have two; a two year old and a 5 month old, and I already know I want another one. He really doesn’t want one though, and it always makes me sad. However, I know we have to do what’s best for our family and right now it just might not be in the cards for us, both financially and because my husband is not great with not sleeping, so he gets extremely irritable when we have a baby in the house. It’s super soon to rule it out completely, so I have hope (haha). I was talking to another mom friend of mine last week and when she asked if I wanted another one I said yes and she asked why. I told her that I felt like I was still a mother to someone else out there (out where? I have no clue) haha. Which is weird because while I am spiritual I am not a super keen to senses like that usually. But when I said it I knew that is exactly what it was, that there is someone out there that is mine that I don’t have yet. It’s a weird thing to say, I know! My point is, I totally understand if you don’t feel “done.” I think as long as you and your husband agree (even if it takes him a little while to warm up to it) then you should go for it!
I tried to convince myself I was done for two and a half years after our boys were born because I knew that was what my husband wanted. However I reached a point where I couldn’t lie to myself any longer and I decided to bring it up again with him. After a series of VERY long and super intense conversations he agreed and less than a year later we had our little girl. She is wonderful and I know we are both so glad to have her, as are her brothers.
I read somewhere a list of how you know you are done having kids and the two that were most relevant for me are that I can look at pregnant women without wishing it were me (instead I’m relieved it is not!) and I feel satisfied with my family as it is.
Best of luck as you try to figure out what is best for you and your family!
I’m not a mom, but I just wanted to say that my mom had the same experience as you, having two older kids and feeling a pull for a third. I’m glad she did, because otherwise I probably wouldn’t exist!
I know…I’m one of them. Good [name_m]Luck[/name_m]!