Background: When I was pregnant with the twins, I pushed to name one of them after my husband. I loved (and still love) the idea of having a little [name_m]Junior[/name_m]. My husband’s initials also happen to work well as a nickname, so I thought we could call the little one by his initials to avoid confusion.
My husband, however, was not a fan of the idea. He likes his name well enough, but he said it would seem self-centered to name his son after himself. He also didn’t want one twin to feel left out, either that they didn’t get to share a name with Dad or that they didn’t get a name of their own. Eventually, I let it go and we picked 2 new names.
But just the other day, DH mentioned that if someday we have another son, he would be on board with giving the son his name. I’m not sure what caused the sudden change of heart, but I have been thinking about it over the past few days. Is it too weird to name the third son after his father rather than the first? I keep thinking that other people will assume we didn’t think our marriage would work out during the first pregnancy and played it safe so neither of them would be connected to their father if necessary (which is NOT true).
What do you think? Is having a “[name_m]Junior[/name_m]” as the third son acceptable?
I don’t think that’s weird at all. My uncle is a junior and he’s the fourth son (and sixth child out of seven). I definitely wouldn’t leap to the conclusion that you thought your marriage wouldn’t work out during the first pregnancy.
I wouldn’t think anything of it, especially when you know the first one’s were twins. I agree that naming one twin after Dad would have someone feeling left out and it was good to avoid it.
I think we sometime imagine people will be analysing our name choices more than they actually do - not to play down your concerns, which are valid if it worries you, but it seems unlikely that people would dwell on something like this, if they noticed it at all. I agree with pps that as your first children were twin boys, anyone who notices will probably simply assume that you didn’t want to single one twin out.
Congratulations by the way! ID twin boys would have been my ideal for this pregnancy (not happening, haha!) - you must be so proud of them They both have gorgeous names, too.
I’m not a big fan of [name_m]Junior[/name_m]/II at all. Inheriting a dad’s name as a middle name, sure, but in my honest opinion I think he should have his own/different name. I also think it’s a bit random naming a third born after the father.
My great uncle is called [name_m]Junior[/name_m] after his father, and he’s the second son and youngest of eight kids, so no I don’t think its weird at all, especially if the older two are twins.
I have to say that naming your son II would make me think that you named the child after someone else, instead of your husband. Obviously, you don’t have to stick to the “rules”, but it would definitely be confusing to me.
