I am looking for thoughts or opinions on using [name_m]Bram[/name_m] vs [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] for our second child due in six weeks. At this point I’m thinking of using whichever name isn’t used for a first as the middle name. We have a daughter named Ave1ine J@ne. Her middle name is after my mom who died when I was young. Our surname is Lusti8 ( the 8 is a g), and we live in the U.S.
[name_f]My[/name_f] long backstory is that I have an uncommon name, and am drawn to names I haven’t heard before. I fell in love with the name [name_m]Lochlan[/name_m] about ten years ago. For years I imagined a future son would be named [name_m]Lochlan[/name_m] - when my husband and I met I shared the name and he immediately loved it as well. Our first was a girl, and while pregnant I discovered the name Ave1ine and again we both agreed on the name.
It was after picking our daughter’s name that I started to fall out of love with [name_m]Lochlan[/name_m] - I started to think there were too many Ls between Ave1ine, [name_m]Lochlan[/name_m] and our surname, and also started to question if I liked the name beyond a childhood name. Once I became pregnant with a boy, it didn’t feel like he was a “[name_m]Lochlan[/name_m]” or “[name_m]Lachlan[/name_m]” - I think because I saw how different my daughter’s personality is from what I had imagined - I realized the “[name_m]Lochlan[/name_m]” I had imagined for ten years was also just as unlikely - and it therefore didn’t feel like him.
DH is still set on [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] (we changed to that spelling at some point), and after months of hours of searching through names I have fallen in love with [name_m]Bram[/name_m] or [name_m]Bramwell[/name_m].
I could easily see naming our son [name_m]Bram[/name_m] [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] Lusti8, but husband is stuck on only [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] for the first name. Should I try to get back on board with [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m]? Or continue my frantic search for a name we will both love? Help!
I love both ways really! They are such lovely unusual names, right up my alley. At first I thought I preferred [name_m]Bram[/name_m], but after saying the names both ways a couple of times and including your last name I’ve changed my mind. I personally really like the alliteration of [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] with your last name. But either way, you have a winning combination
Thank you! That’s good to hear! I think the ‘L’s become really noticeable when you add in my daughter’s name too- but I know they won’t often be referred to jointly with the last name, so I’m trying to not let that be too much of a factor.
I think they both sound nice. [name_m]Bram[/name_m] [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] and [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] [name_m]Bram[/name_m] are both nice, I do think I like [name_m]Bram[/name_m] as a first name better because of all the L’s.
I love [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m]. It’s definitely up in my longlist. Personally I don’t mind all the L sounds because it’s unlikely many people will be saying much past [name_m]Avel[/name_m]!ne & [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] or [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] Lusti8.
Bram is nice as well, I just don’t love it in quite the same way. Either one works well with your daughter’s name.
You shouldn’t use [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] if you don’t love it.
That said, I think [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] is so handsome, and not too L-heavy with his sister’s name and your last name at all ! It’s unique but not too weird, it sounds fun and adventurous and it has the cool nickname [name_m]Locke[/name_m]. The fact that you’ve loved it for so many years is a very good sign. Maybe right now you’re just going though a phase of not liking it because you’re doubting yourself? But if you really think it’s not a phase and you’re over [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m], definitely try and look for a name you both love.
I pretty much agree with emmievis. I think there’s a good chance you’re just getting cold feet on the name because due date is so close. [name_m]Bram[/name_m] and [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] are both solid choices. If it’s any reassurance, both options are good. They both sound lovely with your daughter’s name (which I also really love!) Personally, I like the idea of L@chlan Br@m Lusti8 the best. It feels like the best compromise. However, emmievis is right in that if you simply don’t enjoy [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m], you’ll want to try getting your husband on board with [name_m]Bram[/name_m], or seeking a new name that you both love! Nameberry is a GREAT resource for this.
An interesting thing to note…
[name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] is wildly popular where I live. It’s so interesting how drastically popularity varies from country to country. [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] is a delightful name. It’s sitting at #19 in [name_u]New[/name_u] Zealand and at #24 over the ditch in Australia - but it used to be practically a top 10 name in Aussie.
I don’t think [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] is too L-heavy with your daughter’s name (they’re cute!), but tbh it doesn’t have the best flow with the surname.
I think you shouldn’t a use a name one of you doesn’t love. Try to talk to your husband about how [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] doesn’t feel like “the one”. You can try to love [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] but if it still doesn’t click, then it’s not the right choice.
[name_m]Bram[/name_m] [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] is adorable.
Thank you all for your responses! I do agree that some of my feelings on ‘[name_m]Lachlan[/name_m]’ may be the cold feet aspect- but I do like [name_m]Bram[/name_m] more with our surname. I appreciate the different viewpoints on both names. I think I’ll write both names out and put them up on the wall near where his things will be and see what happens over the next few days/weeks. If we still need help I may be back for suggestions. All opinions and thoughts still welcome!
Bram(well) and [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] are both great names! Familiar yet unusual and interesting.
Bram has a warm feeling I love, so much needed in this world of ours. [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] has a cooler tone, not bad, just not as warm.
Bram(well)Lusti8 sounds great and [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] Lusti8 sounds too full of Ls.
I would encourage you to trust your instincts when it comes to baby naming. Like so many of us, you had envisioned your favorite name of [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] for many years and it is now not feeling the same when you are actually having this baby. Names, like anything else, can become a bit stale, even names we still love.
Maybe if you tell your husband these literally “gut” feelings he will understand and embrace [name_m]Bramwell[/name_m] [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] or [name_m]Bram[/name_m] [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m].
I like [name_m]Bram[/name_m] better, and I think it sounds much better with your surname: [name_m]Lochlan[/name_m] sounds really awkward with an L last name. [name_m]Even[/name_m] if your husband still loves [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m]/Lochlan, you’re both naming this baby and you should both love the name. I think you should try and get him to come around on [name_m]Bram[/name_m], but also look for other names you might both love.
Lochlan is my favorite. Changing [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] to [name_m]Bramwell[/name_m] is pointless because of the “L” thing. With [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] the L’s are broken up and don’t clash with Lusti8. With [name_m]Bramwell[/name_m] you have three L’s going back to back and the name will get muddled. I do like [name_m]Bram[/name_m] because I’m a horror fan and most people I know will think of [name_m]Bram[/name_m] Stoker or of [name_m]Abraham[/name_m] because [name_m]Bram[/name_m] is a NN for that. Final vote is for [name_m]Lochlan[/name_m] or [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m].
Thank you @Harvest-Endellion for verbalizing what I’m feeling about this name I’ve loved for so long. And I agree, I like the warm feeling of [name_m]Bram[/name_m], and also how [name_m]Bram[/name_m] and [name_m]Bramwell[/name_m] go with our surname. I’m less concerned with L’s blending together at the end and start of the names, than I am with how much your mouth has to move when saying [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] Lusti8. Thanks for your insight!
Go with your gut. For what it’s worth, [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] is a great name. It’s not at all uncommon where I live (top 10/20 for a couple of decades), and particularly popular where there is Scottish ancestry, with Lach/ie as nicknames. I like [name_m]Bram[/name_m], probably more as a middle, but go with it if it’s what you love. Other suggestions: [name_u]Callum[/name_u], [name_u]Cameron[/name_u], [name_u]Declan[/name_u], [name_u]Owen[/name_u]/Ewan [name_m]Malcolm[/name_m], [name_m]Graham[/name_m].
I’m all for [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] if you’re using the original Scottish pronunciation but if you are doing Lak-lahn then my vote is for [name_m]Bram[/name_m] which is really cute btw!
I vote for [name_m]Lochlan[/name_m] or [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] because I heard that name on a little baby a few years ago and fell in love with the name as well. I think you should go for it. [name_m]Lachlan[/name_m] sounds better with your little girl’s name the [name_u]Bran[/name_u](well)