Hello berries.
I generally like the name [name_f]Lolita[/name_f] a lot. It’s different and I don’t think it will ever be highly used. However it has obvious associations with [name_m]Vladimir[/name_m] Nabokov’s novel “[name_f]Lolita[/name_f]”. The association has even caused this name to become an insult to someone promiscuous. [name_f]Do[/name_f] you guys have any thoughts on the name or whether it is in the realm of possibility since the novel was so long ago? (Sorry that was a long one)
There was a girl in my high school graduating class named [name_f]Lolita[/name_f]. She was artsy, quiet, and somewhat resigned to her name’s cultural associations. I lost touch with her a long time ago but if I had to make an educated guess I would say she would strongly discourage naming your child this.
I would agree with mill1020- the negative associations of this name are probably not something you’d want for your daughter.
Perhaps you’d like [name_f]Lola[/name_f], or the character’s real name, [name_f]Dolores[/name_f]? You could always call her [name_f]Lolita[/name_f] as a diminutive/nickname.
I associate the name with pedophilia, not promiscuity. I can’t endorse the name for that reason.
I used to think that [name_f]Lolita[/name_f] was a cute name. Then I read the book. Please don’t name your daughter [name_f]Lolita[/name_f]. It’s an old book but people still associate the name with the creepy-pedophile vibe. Also, [name_f]Lana[/name_f] del [name_u]Rey[/name_u]'s fascination with it had a lot of millennials (like myself) get interested in it and actually read the book. I like the name [name_f]Lola[/name_f] or even [name_f]Dolores[/name_f] much better.
Aside from the connotations, I like the name. I first heard it in a [name_f]Marilyn[/name_f] [name_u]Monroe[/name_u] movie and thought it was cute until I found out about the novel. Personally, I think using it and normalizing (is that a word?) it would be best to work toward separating a perfectly good name from the idea of pedophilia. As someone else suggested, you could always call her [name_f]Dolores[/name_f] instead and use [name_f]Lolita[/name_f] as a nickname if you don’t want her to be stuck with it.
lolita is also a type of fashion in japan where you dress up in frilly girly clothes designed to make you look young; like a little girl getting all dressed up. you can do a google image search and see it.
I think the name has to many negative connotations. its really sad when names are heavily associated with bad things 
As a name itself, I happen to think that it’s quite sweet. And as a diminuitive, I feel that it is leaps and bounds ahead of its original version, [name_f]Dolores[/name_f], in terms of beauty. However, that doesn’t alter the fact that [name_f]Dolores[/name_f] is definitely the more appropriate one of the two. Because [name_f]Lolita[/name_f] is no longer a name on its own. The fact is, it’s not just associated with the image of promiscuity. It also has irrevocable connections to paedophilia.
Yes, the book association is very old, but most people are still very keenly aware of it - such as myself, as I have never laid eyes on the book (like almost everyone), and yet know full well what [name_f]Lolita[/name_f] stands for in regards to it. But even if the book association somehow faded in the next few years, it has a modern constituent. In the 21st century, [name_f]Lolita[/name_f] is a brand or style of manga that features extremely underage girls in sexual relationships with older men and women.
And even if the manga wasn’t well know, that doesn’t change the fact that [name_f]Lolita[/name_f] is now an official noun, defined as: “a sexually precocious young girl.” or “a young girl who has a very sexual appearance or behaves in a very sexual way”. Now that it is a world in the English language, it will never be usable again. And while obviously someone who loved [name_f]Lolita[/name_f] very much might seek to ignore these obvious connections and pass the name onto a child anyway, at the end of the day that would be seen as a morally unsound thing to do.
So, while I do like the name in general, unfortunately I can never support it being used.
It’s an objectively pretty name but thoroughly unusable.
If the connection to a book about the sexual exploitation of a child wasn’t enough to deter you - even looking at the context of the name within Nabokov’s work should be; names are extremely significant in the novel. The book opens with [name_m]Humbert[/name_m]‘s descriptions of [name_f]Dolores[/name_f] and her many names. She is ‘’[name_f]Lola[/name_f], Lo, [name_f]Dolly[/name_f]…’’ etc. in other given contexts and ‘‘always [name_f]Lolita[/name_f] in my arms’’. So even more than the name is wrongly tied to promiscuity, it’s most fundamentally the name given by an abuser to his victim.
Sorry I hope that wasn’t too intense, it’s just totally not okay to name your kid [name_f]Lolita[/name_f], I hope we can all agree.
On a different note, I think [name_f]Dolores[/name_f] is gorgeous and it’s been on my list admittedly only since reading the book. Again, its usage in the book is significant (meaning, sorrows; link to the Virgin [name_f]Mary[/name_f] etc.) but has a history and usage beyond the character, and even within Nabokov’s world, her fuller name/identity [name_f]Dolores[/name_f] isn’t correlated with the abuse she’s subjected to.
There’s an [name_f]Indian[/name_f] name [name_f]Lalita[/name_f], which is also lovely, but probably too similar to [name_f]Lolita[/name_f] for most Western cultures. I’d suggest [name_f]Lola[/name_f], or [name_f]Talullah[/name_f], which has always felt similar in rhythm and has the same mix of sensual and playful feeling [name_f]Lolita[/name_f] has (in sound alone).
I strongly associate it with the novel, so I would avoid it.
[name_f]Susan[/name_f]
I love the name but I would never use it. Heck, it even means “a sexually precocious young girl” in the dictionary now, not to mention other users’ comments.
Why would anyone want to use a name so tainted with bad associations?