Tips on negotiating and/or compromising on names?

General Name Discussion
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Berries, I’m after tips on how you have approached selecting names with your partner particularly when you have different styles.

My husband and I have very different styles… As an example see below:
My favourites:
[name]Aurelia[/name]
[name]Elouise[/name]
[name]Eleanor[/name]
[name]Xander[/name]
[name]Albert[/name] ([name]Alby[/name])

Some from My husbands list:
[name]Felicity[/name]
[name]Bethany[/name]
[name]Nicole[/name]
[name]Matthew[/name]
[name]Jarred[/name]
[name]Hayden[/name]

So far all we’ve managed to do is strike off names from each others list, but this isn’t getting us very close to agreeing on a name. I have been lurking on nameberry and other sites for nspiration and to broaden my name awareness, and have narrowed down to a couple of favourites, which to be honest, I think it will take an extraordinary suggestion frm him for me to move me away from. His input has been quite limited, a couple of google searches (i have to confess i asked whether he’d googled stripper names because a number of names on his list were very stripper-esque) and not necessarily names that are near and dear to him.

Now I’m not sure how to move forward - do I just keep vetoing his names until he runs out of suggestions? Compromise on one (ie let him have fan say on girls name and me for boys or vice versa) ?

I’m lost and getting very anxious with c/s date in less than 3 weeks?
Any suggestions would be appreciated?

Thanks all.

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Name Nerds has a very good name What’s Your Name Style? quiz. You and your husband can take it separately and compare results. I love this feature because it defines your style, as well as how you feel about other naming styles. It will also give you a list of names for each style.

Nymbler is a site where you can plug in up to six names and get similar names. You can each put in your top three and see what it gives you.

Another thing to do is to go through a list of people you’d like to honor. This can be a great way to compromise for middles, especially.

Good luck!

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I would describe your impressions of names to each other. Sometimes people see names totally differently. I know when I’ve read other people’s name imagery on here, it has made me rethink my own, and in some cases has made me see names in a whole new light.
Also other things, like if you like the way a name rolls off your tongue, it might get him hearing it that way in his head and kind of liking it too.
Meaning can be a big sway as well. Maybe he would like a name that in a subtle way meant something very cool.