I agree not knowing is more exciting (and you can always do a gender neutral nursery like we did), but the most important thing is that you are both happy with your choice - glad you managed to find a compromise!
We did not find out and it was the best surprise! It’s not so hard to have neutral nursery and infant clothes…
Bergner’s work puts what might be the last nail in the box of the old agreement that women use sex as a way to get something different they genuinely need, for example, persevering monogamous passionate closeness and the products and security that come in marriage with a defender and supplier.
I wanted to know with both of mine. I felt much better prepared. It’s still a surprise, if you find out at birth or sooner.