I knew it was time for him to go to his own room. My parenting style is a blend really, whatever method works at the moment, we used, though i tend to stay on the child-led, attached parenting approach to things. He is almost 19 months with a little brother or sister on the way. So why did I take such a long time? Because he wasn’t ready. He had long since ceased sleeping in the bed with us, no stranger to his crib, but move into our home almost a year ago (late [name_f]September[/name_f]) jolted him, plus three colds and roseola and he wasn’t up for sleeping too far from mommy and daddy (and I wasn’t exactly thrilled to get poor rest), however now he’s Mr. independent, as much as he can be at his age. His daredevil stunts of climbing over his play pen made me realize he needs the height of his crib. But it also sent another message to me. Though he can’t speak yet, he told me with his actions “I want my room”. Obviously he also wanted out, which I gave him. He will soon become king of his room I bet. He’ll see it as his own, and with another little one on the way, it couldn’t have been more perfect timing. It’ll give him a place to unwind, to be able to sleep away from the noises newborns make, and hopefully will make the transition to brotherhood easier.
In short, I write this reflective post here because for any other mom like me, wondering if the attachment phase will pass, it will. They will give you the signs, and you both will be ready to move to that next stage.
I agree with you! There’s no hurry.
Of course! I think around the world that’s a pretty typical, or even early, age for kids to move out of parents room/bed.
My daughter coslept til around 10 months, then we moved her into her crib in our room. She turned 2 in [name_u]June[/name_u] and she’s still sharing our room, though we’ll be moving her out next week and I am expecting it will go fairly smoothly, and that she’s been ready for a big girl bed and her own space for a while now.
Update: slept in his room the whole night. Woke me up with screams, I had thought he hurt himself, no just very happy. He is making progress faster then I would have thought.
He didn’t sleep the whole night in his room last night but it’s a transition. I’m really glad he’s shown me some signs he’s ready and today he realized his mattress was bouncy and fun to run across, so some more progress.
We had a long night though so hopefully tonight will be easier.
My 18 month old and I camp out on his nursery floor atm… if I try to leave he wakes up and screams… fun times. We are going to start reintroducing the crib tonight. ( he slept in the crib just fine til we stopped breastfeeding ).
My daughter [name_f]Alice[/name_f] slept with us in the same bed until she was 16 months old, because 1. we were living in an one bedroom apartment when we first had her, and 2. she always seemed to fall asleep and stay asleep when we were near her.
[name_m]Just[/name_m] before we found out about [name_f]Lucy[/name_f], we started with one staying in her room until she fell asleep, so she’d kind of know we were there. She’s sleeping really well in her room (except when she gets nightmares, she’ll run over to our room).
With [name_f]Lucy[/name_f], she has a crib in our room and she’ll start sleeping in her sister’s room soon, so the baby will have room in our room.
They’ve been pretty flexible when it comes to these things, so I’m hoping this new baby will be the same!