My daughter was born two months early, and at the time my husband and I had scrapped our name list and were taking a break before starting from scratch. I was required to pick a name before I left the hospital but I didn’t have much time to decide. I picked something from our previous list and went with it even though I didn’t feel sure. Almost immediately I began to have regrets.
I felt like it was too late to change. When I finally brought it up to my husband and my family they thought it was too strange to change it. I kept thinking the feeling would pass. My daughter is 1 1/2 and I’m still unhappy with her name. I can’t even think of a nickname because her name is so short and I dislike her middle name even more than her first. Her name is [name_f]Nora[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f].
Should I:
(1) [name_m]Just[/name_m] deal with her name because it’s too late now.
(2) [name_m]Just[/name_m] change her middle name and start calling her by that.
(3) Some other name combo that still incorporates [name_f]Nora[/name_f] somehow?
(4) Pick any name I love.
(5) Other option
Btw, my hubby is onboard with changing once he realized how unhappy I am with it and for how long. My family isn’t supportive, but I think they’d come around. My daughter does recognize her name, although I’ve started to realize I call her pet names like “little one” more often than [name_f]Nora[/name_f]. Thanks in advance for any advice you can give me.
I say either option 3 or 4. If you’re so unhappy with it then you are unhappy with it. She maybe confuse a little when you start calling jer differently, but I am sure after a while it won’t be a problem anymore. As long as your husband agrees to change it too, go change it. Family can deal with it later.
If you’re unhappy with the name and your husband is understanding, I would recommend changing it as well.
If you wish to incorporate [name_f]Nora[/name_f] in the name, here are some options - [name_f]Honora[/name_f], [name_f]Annora[/name_f], [name_f]Leonora[/name_f], [name_f]Eleonora[/name_f], [name_f]Eleanor[/name_f].
Sounds like changing would be totally fine! Especially as your husband is on board. [name_m]Even[/name_m] if she’s a little confused to start with she probably won’t actually remember being anything other than her new name.
What names do you love? We can always see if there’s a way to add [name_f]Nora[/name_f] to that or if there’s something you love that includes [name_f]Nora[/name_f].
I disagree- I think it is too late. [name_f]Nora[/name_f] recognizes her name, and at 1 1/2, she will certainly notice the change. I think it would be confusing for her and unnecessary; [name_f]Nora[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] is a perfectly good name.
However, I don’t see anything wrong with option #3. If you find a name you like that could use [name_f]Nora[/name_f] as a nickname ([name_f]Eleanor[/name_f], [name_f]Hannelore[/name_f], [name_f]Annora[/name_f], etc.) I don’t think it would be such a big deal. And I think it’s fine to change her middle name.
I think if you hate it, you should change it. You could move [name_f]Nora[/name_f] to the middle spot or use a name like the ones previously suggested that have “[name_f]Nora[/name_f]” in them. You are clearly unhappy with it still after such a long time, and I think you owe it to yourself AND her to honor your gut feeling and change it. [name_f]Nora[/name_f] can be moved easily to the middle spot, and [name_f]Jane[/name_f] dropped altogether.
People may tell you it’s too late, but I strongly disagree. You have thought so much about this and you avoid using her name. It never grew on you. I think you should honor yourself as a parent and change it to something you love.
Wishing you the best of luck with this decision <3.
I dont think its too late, but you are running out of time. A few more months and it will be too late.
I think finding a way to get to [name_f]Nora[/name_f] would be a nice idea, and maybe one with another nickname option? For example [name_f]Eleanora[/name_f] could be [name_f]Ellie[/name_f], [name_f]Ella[/name_f], [name_f]Lea[/name_f], or [name_f]Nora[/name_f].
Or just go for a new name that you love. But make sure you really do love it!!
