I’ve posted probably twice before on here a year or so ago about thinking about changing my name. I haven’t done it yet, and I’m soooo indecisive. I’m a nonbinary trans person with a super femme name and unworkable last name. I do like my first name, but it does get me misgendered a lot and I’m trying to find a workaround. For the sake of discussion, my current name is [name_f]Sophie[/name_f] Heir (not actual LN spelling) and my middle name is the most common middle name you can think of that starts with M.
I need as many ideas as you all can come up with because I’m really stuck! Here’s what I’ve got so far:
Neutral-izations of [name_f]Sophie[/name_f]/[name_f]Sophia[/name_f] -
[name_m]Fio[/name_m] (Fiyo / Fayo? pronounced FIE oh)
- the problem with this is that several of my friends are friends with someone named Fayo
[name_m]Soren[/name_m]
Sony
[name_f]Sappho[/name_f] (I know this is a femme name but it’s pretty offbeat and I like it)
Family names turned first names:
Vaessen (pronounced VAH sen)
[name_m]Marius[/name_m] (I don’t like this a ton but other people said I look like a [name_m]Marius[/name_m])
Other names:
[name_u]Cato[/name_u]
[name_f]Tempe[/name_f]
[name_m]Felix[/name_m]
[name_m]Malachi[/name_m] (Too many syllables for my taste, but it’s cool)
I really like names that start with consonants and that don’t end in -a or -ie.
Also if you have any middle name suggestions for what I’ve listed, please list as many as you can think of! Masculine, feminine, or neutral MNs welcome.
I’m not a huge fan of any of the names you listed, which probably isn’t what you want to hear. But it sounds like you might not be super thrilled about them either. I think, out of those, [name_m]Soren[/name_m] and [name_m]Felix[/name_m] are my top choices.
Here are some of my favorite gender neutral names:
I know how hard it can be choosing a name! I haven’t done it for myself, but I’m pregnant with my second child and naming a human being is so difficult! Finding the name that fits who you are on the inside is a big decision. I wish you ALL the luck in finding the one that is right for you.
Good:
Soren - love this one. I think it has somewhat the same ‘sweet and chill’ vibe that Sophie has.
Vaeseen - I really like this actually. It’s unique, doesn’t scream one gender or the other, and I don’t think the pronunciation will be that difficult.
Felix
Not so good:
Sappho - this will sound terrible, but it sounds like a desease to me
Sony - this spelling is too, well, Sony the Company. Sonny or Sunny would be splendid.
Fio - first instinct would be to pronounce it fee-oh, which maybe it’s the multilingual in me, but fio and ‘fayo’ are words to me that just don’t make good names (fio = wire, ‘fayo’ = feio = ugly), so I suppose you could take this with a grain of salt.
Just not feeling it:
Cato
Tempe
Marius
Malachi
Suggestions:
Seren - a step from Soren, but gender neutral, and has a nice meaning.
Soleil - with Sony / spellings for a nickname
Sol - also meaning ‘sun’
Effie - from Sophie. I’ve seen both girls and a a adorable baby boy named this, and it can work quite well
Sapphire - Sappho comes from Sapphire, as far as nameberry tells me here. Sapphire is also unisex, and after meeting a little boy named this again I say it can work.
Kai / Kye / Kiah / Kaia
Micah / Myka
Kit
Rio
Maren
Temperance
Faye
Ffion
Wren / Ren
[name_m]Soren[/name_m] is my favourite choice out of the ones you’ve listed. [name_m]Soren[/name_m] [name_m]Marius[/name_m] would be nice
[name_m]Malachi[/name_m] or even just [name_u]Kai[/name_u] would be nice too and I like [name_m]Felix[/name_m] too - it has the fee sound so a kind of nod to [name_f]Sophie[/name_f]?
You might like [name_u]Theo[/name_u] or [name_u]Shiloh[/name_u] too
I also immediately liked [name_m]Soren[/name_m] because there was a [name_m]Soren[/name_m] on [name_f]Star[/name_f] Trek TNG who was trans, too But since it’s technically male only I’d pair it with a more feminine leaning middle name, like [name_u]Riley[/name_u].
I’d advise against [name_f]Sappho[/name_f], btw, because it’s being used as another word for lesbian, and as a faab nb you’re probably at risk for being mistaken for a butch lesbian…? No idea what you look like, of course, I might be totally wrong
I’m a nonbinary trans person with a super femme name and unworkable last name. I do like my first name, but it does get me misgendered a lot and I’m trying to find a workaround. For the sake of discussion, my current name is [name_f]Sophie[/name_f] Heir (not actual LN spelling) and my middle name is the most common middle name you can think of that starts with M.
But since it’s technically male only I’d pair it with a more feminine leaning middle name, like [name_u]Riley[/name_u].