Ttc 2018

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I’m not feeling very optimistic about this cycle. I’m CD21. Last two cycles I ovulated CD22, but I’m not seeing as much fertile fluid as I usually do, so I don’t expect that I will actually ovulate tomorrow. Maybe I should’ve given vitex more credit! I think I will start taking it again, since it definitely wasn’t hurting anything.

I’m participating in a fertility study for women trying to conceive, and every two months they send a “are you pregnant yet?” survey, and today was my lucky day and I’m not pregnant. It really has not been that long, so I’m trying not to feeling depressed that I got this one, and I’m hoping I can answer yes in two months!

I’m also planning my SILs baby shower, so feeling a little bombarded by baby stuff. PS, who invites 60+ people to a casual baby shower (especially when they’re having at least one other baby shower)? I feel like I don’t even know that many people! I was not expecting that many, so now I’m scrambling to figure out how to feed them all without paying a ton, and trying to figure out what I can prep ahead of time so I’m not swamped that week. It’ll be fine, and I actually like party planning, but it is a busy month already!

Good luck to everyone this week!

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@oneofthetrio, I hope your cycles start to regulate. Excited for your fresh start!

@shalexis - It does sound like you are surrounded by baby stuff! Hoping you will be able to answer yes to that survey soon :slight_smile: 60 people sounds like a lot for a baby shower! Wow! I’m sure you’ll pull it off without a hitch.

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@meyera: Thank you…I hope it worked, too! I do hope that something in your BD timing did line up and that you’ll get good news at the end of your TWW!!

@oneofthetrio: Yay for your fresh start! Hoping your cycles are regular from here on out!

@shalexis: Good luck! I hope that the lack of evidence is just a fluke and that you do ovulate soon! Yikes, just hearing about that baby shower gives me anxiety…that is so many people! Not even that many people were invited to our wedding lol. Regardless, I’m sure you’ll pull it off :slight_smile: I don’t usually go to baby showers, but the ones I have gone to usually have finger foods (cheese/veggie/fruit trays, crackers, pigs in a blanket, etc), which I’d think would be rather cheap?

I’m CD 23 and am 9 days removed from Clomid. I should be just starting my TWW now. I got swamped with work, so never did get around to using OPKs this time, but oh well. We’ve managed to BD fairly often, so maybe that will work. I did have some cramping today…almost felt like period cramps…but it should be too early for that or anything else!

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Thank you for the warm welcome. [name_m]Even[/name_m] though I mostly lurk and not too much to update, I root for all of you and think this is a really positive, supportive place for women in our journeys, so thank you!

Got AF on the 7th of Oct, which was fairly expected as we missed the FW (just the tail end of it). Some cycle background: I usually have a 27 day cycle sometimes as short as 24 days. My periods are pretty mild, two days of spotting then three real days (1 heavy 2 medium), followed by two spotting days as well.

So in Oct we BD day 6, 7, 8. I got EWCM on days 9-11 (Fertility [name_m]Friend[/name_m] says ovulation on day 12) and BD on days 10 and 11. I’m now on day 13… Definitely back to normal CM, not fertile quality stuff.

I am shocked at exactly [name_m]HOW[/name_m] nerve-wracking this 2ww is!! And how impatient I am!

Husband also really wants me/us to abstain from alcohol in this entire process. I don’t think it’s necessary, but it’s something he apparently cares very much about so I am respecting it… But I have my first and second fundraising nights/parties to kickoff the fall season next week, so that is a bummer. Also, my colleagues are very nosy and tuned into possibly preg (esp since we had 6 in our office with 2018 pregnancies! Plus I am in an office manager position, so there are many eyes on me) so I wish I could just avoid the attentive eyes and rumors, but I am expected to be at most of the parties. It’s weird, I don’t necessarily mind the rumors starting if I AM actually pregnant, but I really hate the idea of having to shoot down people’s guesses when I really want them to be right… We’re also going to a concert this weekend so to be totally stone cold sober (at most I’d have 2 drinks usually, I’m not exactly a partier) around many many revelers will be interesting!
But it’s all for a good reason so hopefully I can have an easier transition to pregnancy,… And soon! :wink:

But really, how do you manage the 2ww? I just ovulated a few days ago (according to cm/usual cycles) and I’m already resisting every urge to test! AND reading into every twinge and cramp, and can’t BELIEVE I’d have another 5+ days before implantation! Gaaahhhh this is a lot more patience testing than I expected right from the gate. Guess I need to foster that sense of calm, patience, trust… harumph

(lots of more brain-dumping up there, sorry… Lots on my mind!!)

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@anotherkate - Goodluck!

I think the trick is (and I know it’s hard) is to not think about it. I fell pregnant on the second month of my husband and I no longer preventing (and it was only a once off time in the window so I’m incredibly surprised haha) and wasn’t even expecting to so the time went fast as I wasn’t thinking about it.

I know it’s hard but try and busy yourself with other things. I find thinking of something I really DONT want to do that will come after that date might help, because you know how things you don’t want to do come faster :stuck_out_tongue: that way the time will creep up and it’ll be there before you know it!

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i want to tell all the women in the world with no child that there is hope for you all, because i was also a barren woman, i had no child for the past 8 years and i contacted my doctor and he told me that there is no way on earth that i can ever getting pregnant, because of my previous abortion i did for my ex husband, so i was confused and my husband was tired and told me that we should adopt a child, so i was so sad in such a way that i had to talk to a friend about adopting a child my friend told me to forget about adopting a child, with this she then introduced me to a spiritual leader whom i contacted and i explained everything to her and immediately she told me not to worry that all my problems will be solved, so i believed and did as she asked me, including applying her fertility medicine. After two week i went to the hospital for a total test and i found out that i was pregnant and today am now a mother, so if you are barren or childless kindly contact her on nativeiyabasira@yahoo.com and +441133201124

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CD27 and still nothing. A little more cf the past two days, so maybe it’s coming? I took some vitex at the end of last week, but then we were gone for 2 days and I didn’t take it. I’m starting again today because it clearly wasn’t hurting anything, and I really don’t want any more super long cycles!!

I spent the weekend at a family reunion ish thing for my husband’s family. Of the 7 child bearing age women there, I was the only one who wasn’t pregnant or hadn’t been in the last year. But I didn’t feel too bad, because that cousin who had to terminate due to cancer was there, and that is obviously a lot more heartbreaking than not being pregnant after trying for a few months. But there was a LOT of baby talk. And a fair amount of commentary about my daughter needing a sibling. But I have a SIL who has decided to stop after the 2 kids she has, which is smaller than most families where I live, so she actually got more flack for that than I got for only having one currently. So yay for relatives bothering her instead of me?

Also, good (non TTC) news! My husband was offered a new job at the university I work at, with WAY better benefits and better pay also. This is great for when we have another baby, because now we qualify for dual coverage insurance, which has a super low deductible and no out of pocket costs after deductible, and he’ll get sick days/PTO that he can take to stay home for a bit after we do have a baby. We’re really surprised, because they told him they were hiring someone else, and then decided a few weeks later to hire both of them. But I’m happy about it, obviously!

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@namergirl, sorry about your cramping but maybe it is somehow a good thing!

@anotherkate, I used to work in fundraising so I totally get that not drinking can raise some eyebrows! Good job staying strong and hopefully people mind their own business :slight_smile: I hope this is your only TWW - it is so hard not to symptom spot and obsess over it. Anytime it comes up in my mind I try to change my thoughts to something else - easier said than done! Good luck!

@shalexis, congrats to your husband!! Sounds like a wonderful opportunity and I’m happy for you and your family!

Still in my TWW here. Right now I am actually a day late for my period but I haven’t tested because I think our timing was off this month and I just can feel AF right around the corner. (Last month I was one day late - I tested and then wiped right after that test and BOOM there was AF. Great timing…haha).

I am actually glad to have a little longer of a cycle because I have been worried my luteal phase is too short. Hoping these “conception” vitamins are getting my body where it needs to be.

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I’ve felt a little bummed out recently. I took a test a week or so back, it was negative. Still no period since [name_u]August[/name_u]. I’ve had nausea, cramps, fatigue, everything that either suggests AF is coming or I’m pregnant… and AF hasn’t come and I’m not pregnant, so I’m going to see my doctor on [name_f]Monday[/name_f]. I only had one round of the Depo injection and it’s been over 2 months since that expired, so I was hoping I’d be getting back to normality cycle wise but it doesn’t seem to be the case. My skin has gotten awful too.

Has anyone tried those Pregnacare TTC tablets? The huge purple ones? I have some, I’ve had them for a long while but never used them. Any success stories using them or anything of the sort? I don’t know whether to take those and see if my body gets back into whack, or to go back to taking my contraceptive pill to see if taking that for 3 weeks, then coming off for the break, brings my period on. We’re in no rush to conceive, both being 22, but it’d be nice to have some normality and not to just be trying blind.

@shalexis, congrats to your hubby! Great news.

@[name_f]Alyssa[/name_f], my fingers are crossed for you.

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@eoxima, I was having issues with my cycle after a chemical pregnancy and I started taking pregnitude to help regulate it a bit. it worked pretty well, so the tablets might help. I tried the pill for a bit too and that was quite miserable for me. I got super depressed and just couldn’t deal with it. I stopped after two weeks, but AF did show up after. personally I would try the pregnacare first, the ttc vitamins seem to be a lot kinder than the pill.

well, I have good news on the health front. I’ve lost 5lbs already! I’m surprised that I’ve lost anything, because you don’t usually see a weight drop this soon. I’m down half a pant size so far and really excited!

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@eoxima
I haven’t taken those pills, but I did start Vitex, and I feel like it helped my cycles regulate a little. I didn’t start taking it until I had already had my first cycle (I didn’t get my period until more than 2 months after I stopped breastfeeding, 20 months after having my daughter), but the cycle after I took it was significantly shorter, and the cycle since I stopped it has been longer, so anecdotally, I think it was helping, and I would probably start it during my super long cycle next time. Might be worth trying for you! I was coming of breast feeding, but the hormonal issues were similar to when I was coming off my hormonal IUD. Hopefully things start moving soon for you, I know how frustrating it is to just wait for something to happen!

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Within an hour of me posting, I got really bad cramps and I think my period is starting… I’m spotting real bad… [name_m]How[/name_m] weird!!! Well I think it’s my period, I (without fail) start during the night so I’ll see tomorrow morning.

Thanks @oneofthetrio and @shalexis, if my period hasn’t started by the morning I’m going to try the Pregnacare for a few weeks and see if anything happens. The pill is a last resort, I really want to stop pumping hormones in me. If I need contraception again, it’s gonna be the copper coil for sure. No nasties with that!

And congrats on the weight loss @oneofthetrio, that’s amazing!!

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@eoxima, I hope your period is here and you are on the right track to a more regulated cycle! I used Pregnitude for one month and am using the Conception vitamin now. I already had regular cycles so I can’t speak to that part of it, though. (I switched to the vitamins primarily because of convenience). Good luck!!

@oneofthetrio, great job on the weight loss!

I started my period yesterday a few hours after I posted (knew that was coming!). This time last year is when we started “not preventing” #3 so it’s a bit weird that we are at this time again, with no baby (but still very regular periods). It’s a bummer but that’s ok :slight_smile: I’m hopeful.

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Hey! I hope you are well. Good to know that you have decided to start TTC. I want to wish you a very good luck in this journey. If you ever face any problems you can always come here. People on this forum are really nice and helpful. I hope you conceive soon.

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Ashybear & meyera thank you! I’m hoping to become more patient! [name_u]Love[/name_u] the advice about thinking of something I [name_m]DON[/name_m]'T want to do around the start date of my next cycle, how funny! Hmmm…
And yes fundraising and holidays, definitely more socializing and drinking where my participation (or not) feels more obvious. The rest of the year I’m either a hermit or off doing non work fun things!

Concert was fine, we met up with my BFF and her delightful family (3 kids, all just absolutely lovely) and had a great time visiting with them. I absolutely am hoping to turn to her for parenting advice and quite glad my husband spent time with them (and was beyond darling, reading them books and being silly).

OH!! So at the first work party on [name_f]Wednesday[/name_f], it was a Halloween themed/costume event… I mentioned how 6 women in our office had/will have 2018 babies. Well. One woman, completely career driven and highly successful, in her early 40s, early 50s husband with college age boys, she’s not always given out an overtly maternal vibe (she’s totally bad ass and verrrry cut and dry)… She came to the party wearing a cape and a t-shirt that had a skeleton with a baby skeleton on it. You would not BELIEVE the screaming and cheering that happened when we figured it out!!! SO exciting!!! They’ve been trying for this for a while and I’ve never seen her so excited and sweet about anything.

Yesterday my boobs felt sooo very heavy/tight and sore. It was 8 DPO and I have a typical 13-14 day luteal phase… So that was interesting. They’re sore today as well but not as much. It’s all messing with my head!
It was pretty funny, at this week’s events no one mentioned how I was only drinking water so either everyone else was too sloshed themselves to notice, or they really played it cool. I’m gonna guess the former :wink:

Well I’ll try to get my mind off this 2ww. Nov 2nd is projected start of next cycle. Nov 5 is our first anniversary. We have a reservation at our favorite restaurant… I wish I could surprise my husband (if this is our cycle) but I’m waaay too into oversharing with him, he’ll know by the 2nd or 3rd… No surprising that guy!

Good luck to everyone, I feel inspired by everyone else’s stories, optimism and honesty. Thank you!

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I haven’t gone back and read through other posts yet. Sorry if I’m missing anything big.

My period showed up yesterday. With the cramping and acne I’ve had lately, I wasn’t surprised. I’m a bit bummed out but, at this point, it’s an old story and I’m finding joy in doing things now that I won’t be able to when I do get pregnant. That helps a lot. Anyhow, DH and I are going to try things natural until probably the middle of next year (the timing could change, though), which will give us a chance to pay down some bills before we start delving into more treatments.

I hope everyone else is doing well!

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I’m feeling really frustrated today. CD34 today, with no signs that anything is happening any time soon. Assuming I do in the next week or so, if my cycles are going to be this long, I’ll only get one more shot this year, and then we’ll be into 2019 and past the age gap we were really hoping for. I’ll still take what I can get obviously, and if I do ovulate soon and it happens this cycle than I’m worrying for nothing, but I’m just bummed that I haven’t ovulated yet!

I’m also thinking about withdrawing from grad school. I am not really loving my program, and the thought of doing it for three more semesters is totally unappealing to me. Today is the last day I can withdraw, so I need to decide. If I do, I’m out the $$$ I spent on tuition for this semester. I’m out either way I guess. So I sort of feel like I should complete the semester so I at least get the credits, but I am looking at the material I would have to complete, and really don’t want to. If I’m not going to do the program anyway, then it won’t matter if I have the credits. Uggggh I’m just annoyed that I didn’t seriously look at withdrawing before the tuition reimbursement deadline.

On the positive side, we found out my sister is having a boy this weekend! First grandson in the family, so that’s fun!

@namergirl
Sorry it didn’t work out this cycle :(.

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Hello all!

I’m sorry there aren’t more positives going around :frowning:

@oneofthetrio Congratulations! Losing weight can be tough ! If you’d like an accountability partner I could help!! I finally lost all of my baby weight and I’m feeling pretty good now.

I should get my period any day. I’m late, but I’m not having any pregnancy symptoms. I’m expecting I’ll get my period tonight or tomorrow. I keep hoping I’ll get pregnant by [name_u]Christmas[/name_u] so I can surprise my husband. So, it would be perfect if I got pregnant in early [name_u]December[/name_u]. I do have two more shots. But I doubt I could hide it anyway!

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Sorry it hasn’t been good news, [name_f]Alyssa[/name_f]. Here’s to hoping good news comes your way shortly!

My period came!! I had spotting for two days, the worst cramps imaginable but I’m now at the mid to end of my period as the heaviness of it all is coming to an end. I am so excited to be back to regularity!! I got a new phone a few months back and forgot what my old cycles were like (minus the withdrawal bleed from my depo in [name_u]August[/name_u], my last period was around [name_f]May[/name_f] time and that’s all I can remember lol) which I logged on my old tracker app, so I’m starting afresh on the [name_f]Flo[/name_f] app to track my cycles. Hopefully it doesn’t take too long but we shall see.

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Hey all!
Sorry to not see more positives floating around and a big congratulations to those that have gotten theirs.

We still aren’t back on the TTC train, my hcg levels were down to 119 as of Friday so hopefully my cycle resumes in a few weeks. Still need to do several tests after my hcg hits zero so it is what it is. I haven’t had a real period since [name_u]January[/name_u] at this point so my cycles will be anyone’s guess!
This week the due date for my first pregnancy passed, and I am at peace with it… crazy to think I should be holding a baby right now had things worked out…
I am doing well, I am down 25lbs or so Another 75lbs to go til I am happy, and I will get there. I will likely need another surgery in the near future, my broken ankle has not healed at all, so I am off to see a specialist to get it assessed.

I am feeling at peace most days with my decision to step back from TTC, but some days my heart hurts and yearns for the babies I have lost and the baby I want. Hopefully by next summer I will be in a place to try again.