@Leah129 he is 3 and a half. He has a fairly big bed for his age ( small double) as parents we have always co slept with our kids. I find it helps them to sleep later on as they get older. [name_f]My[/name_f] 6 and 3 year old sleep through the night without any issues (unless they are poorly)
Yes we are so far. Iāve been doing some reading and asking nurses and doctors I know. Apparently covid infections rates are pretty low on planes. Weāll stay as safe as we can while there.
I think Iāve asked this before or a similar question, but how long do people give themselves on folic acid or prenatal vitamins before TTC? I think my partner has some kind of mental whiplash of emotions going on, or at least he is giving me that He has just asked if we can TTC next month. ( The original month he wanted ttc was August) he is such a typical Gemini Iām sure it will all change next month.
I havenāt started any prenatal vitamins up yet and still feel like I need to build my iron up so I actually wonāt want TTC until thr April anyway if we were going to try earlier. Men
@anon25197097 That bedroom decor is wonderful! I would have killed to have a room like that as a kidā¦ I probably still would!
I donāt generally know if this is true for everyone but my doctor told me she usually recommends starting folic acid at least a month before you start TTC. She also said that the most important part is that you take it during the first 12 weeks of pregnancy and the preamble is usually just for good measure. Iām sure it probably varies from doctor to doctor so maybe yours would give you advice thatās more relevant to your situation.
Thank you! For some reason I had in my head 3 months. Ok I shall probably start up in Feb in that case.
We thought we would update his room, he is a school starter this sept so itās a bit more grown up Z has asked me for an orange room. But I really donāt like orange so maybe Iāll just do an accent wall. He is also obsessed with the Kraken. Which is ironic as he has Scandinavian heritage through my partner and his side.
My doctor also said at least a month before. I agree with @Archer27 that the first 12 weeks are the most important. I hope you guys do get to try soon!
Aās room is awesome!
Thanks hahah as always Iāll keep you guys posted if I do decide to come off earlier. Perhaps I shall be spontaneous! Lol
Well, my first 2 tries did not go very well.
My way of trying is pretty undocumented territory. I know people have done it, but I havenāt been able to find public info on their experiences online. [name_m]Even[/name_m] my forums for other Single Mothers by Choice and folks who used known donorsā¦ They just didnāt have any information on the shipping method I have to use for this cycle.
So that lead to some trial and error. Unfortunately, TTC doesnāt leave a wide margin for error. And we JUST realized that MLK day will impact shipping. So that really throws this cycle off.
Iām still going to wait about 2 weeks and take some early detection pregnancy tests. Who knows, maybe one of those little guys made it through. But I worry my terrible mood today from being so disappointed will only make my chances of conceiving worse. Then at dinner my mom said, āOne time my doctor told me Iāll conceive when I stop thinking about it and it worked.ā LIKE, OK, THANKS, let me just stop thinking about it even though I have to think about it because weāre not doing this āthe fun way.ā
@Elle1 Sorry to hear that you had difficulty this cycle. I do have my fingers crossed for you that it has worked, but if it hasnāt try to see it as a ātester runā and time to iron out the shipping issues. I know thatās easier said than done especially because of the effort that you put in and the lack of āfunā TTC it may not be not necessarily easy to accept.
Bless your mom, itās difficult when they try to reassure you but their experiences donāt really mirror yours. Yes she is right if you are trying to conceive using the ātraditionalā method then relaxing or not thinking about it can work but like you said not really helpful for your situation.
Iāve been trying to talk to my family about TTC this year and also what I would do if I was successful and end up as a mum, my mum just says well wait until youāre pregnant you canāt decide anything yet and my dad just tells me that I may meet a man before it happens (Iāve been single for 13 years soā¦). They both mean well but they donāt get it. Iāve tried to explain to my mum that I need to think the practicalities through (like childcare etc) before Iām pregnant because as a smbc you need to consider as many eventualities as possible to be able to make informed decisions including whether this is the right path for me (it is!) but hey if I keep talking about it I know they will eventually accept it is happening!
Do any of you have āovulation spottingā? Iāve never had it before and suddenly this cycle, mid way through, I am spotting. Noticed it today and yesterday. We arenāt TTC yet so any change is a little concerning to me
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@Lulu82 - Thank you so much! We are hoping that one of us will be able to travel to the other for [name_u]February[/name_u] and [name_u]March[/name_u]. But it is reassuring to know that, if we need to ship again in [name_u]February[/name_u], weāll both be better prepared for it!
Haha yeah, I am grateful my mom is supportive and I know she means well with her advice. [name_m]Even[/name_m] if itās entirely unhelpful and just stresses me out more
Iām so sorry your family is reluctant to discuss things with you For my parents, once we got to 1-2 months away from TTC, their language changed from āif you get pregnantā to āwhen you get pregnantā and that made a huge difference in our communication. I guess they just needed to see the plan to TTC ironed out to feel more real. Since then, weāve been able to talk more about the practicalities. (and Iām right behind you there, Iāll be single for 8 years this [name_f]Spring[/name_f] )
@Spark - I had that spotting once last year! It was so odd, never had it before and never had it since! To my knowledge, nothing has been abnormal.
Oh @Elle1 it does sound a bit stressful but this is your first time right ? So it was bound to be a bit trial and error. [name_m]Don[/name_m]āt be too hard on yourself. Nevertheless, fingers crossed for you! Itās also hard to not think about something we want. Perhaps what she was trying to say was to relax but easier said than done.
Thanks so much. Iāll take a look at shipping. If shipping is 39393 then perhaps not lol.
I took my last progesterone pill last night, so for once in my life I am begging my period to show up in the next few days! Once that starts I feel like I can get started on scheduling all that needs to be scheduled (bloodwork, SHG, MRI, etc.) for the next couple weeks or so. Iāll be busy, but hopefully this all means that I can get to work on a [name_u]November[/name_u] baby next cycle.
@anon25197097 Awww thatās a perfect bedroom, I bet heāll love it for a long time. Let us know how Zās room turns out! I think as long as you start PNV before TTC you are good. [name_f]My[/name_f] daughter was a surprise so I didnāt start them until I found out I was pregnant at 5 weeks and sheās perfectly healthy. I wouldnāt stress too much about 1 month before vs 3 months before.
@morgantaylore Thatās awesome, have fun! I donāt know how much Iād like [name_f]Vegas[/name_f] if I couldnāt drink lol, Iām sure itāll be great though.
@Elle1 Dang, sorry it didnāt go well this time. Practice round! Your momās comment is frustrating! Though Iām sure she means well. How far apart do you and your donor live?
@stephaniebrooke [name_f]Hope[/name_f] it starts up soon!
@Spark No Iāve never had that. Not sure what it means!
One of my apps says my period was supposed to start yesterday, one says tomorrow. Nothing so far. I usually get pretty obvious low back pain 1-2 days before my period starts and havenāt gotten that yet. I want to take a test, canāt decide if I should go get one today or give it one more day and buy a test on my way home from work tomorrow. I asked my husband what he thinks and heās like āehhhh I think youāre fine, give it until like [name_m]Thursday[/name_m] or [name_m]Friday[/name_m] before you worry about a test.ā Like what thatās so long! How can he have that kind of patience?!
@Leah129 - We live across the country from each other. Iām 3 hours from the Atlantic ocean, heās 2 hours from the [name_m]Pacific[/name_m] ocean [name_f]My[/name_f] original plan was to find a donor in my stateā¦ But heās perfect apart from the distance, so I decided we would find a way to make it work
Omg I couldnāt wait either!
Itās SO hard to wait! I suppose the most logical thing to do would be to wait until tomorrow, but I definitely would have a hard time waiting til then too. Fingers crossed for you!!
Thanks! Iām really pleased with how Aās room turned out. Itās boyish and cheerful and matches his personality.
So Z wanted an orange room ( reaaaaally didnāt want to do an orange room but in the end I did lolš¤£. So he has a orange/burnt orange I suppose? Accent wall, and the rest of his room is a very light grey. I painted the wall today but it probably needs another coat ( but it can wait) as home schooling and the boys come first. I am still waiting on a lot of his accessories to arrive but the [name_u]Royal[/name_u] [name_m]Mail[/name_m] is a bit slow at the moment. Here is a picture or his room anyway. And then a mood board of what I am trying to kinda achieve. He is very happy with it. [name_f]My[/name_f] partner has just said he is worried for when the time comes ( hopefully) and I actually am ānestingā which I definitely think is a thing when you are pregnant! He said he would come home one day and probably not recognise it as it would all be decorated hahah. ( Gosh I am not that bad)
I think you are right with the vitamins. I am going on them next month anyway. [name_f]May[/name_f] as well. It canāt hurt.
Oh and sorry for all the random āhey Iāve been decorating picturesā itās very off topic. Itās just been keeping me busy in this lockdown! Iāve had a lot of nervous energy recently and itās either decorating or cleaning and the odd bit of editorial. I only decorate a room the once lol. Otherwise that would be ridiculous