My husband and I have been TTC for a couple months now I’ve taken 3 PT with the disappointment of them all being negative. I just see family members or friends getting pregnant so easily and I’m stuck wondering why them and not me? We’re both 19 and in good health. I was just wondering if anyone could give me some advice.
It is such a frustrating feeling to be TTC, when is seems as if everyone around you gets pregnant quickly and easily. You are not alone, and chances are, it will happen for you. But it doesn’t make it any easier when you are struggling through it.
There really isn’t any advice that I can give you, but after TTC for over a year, experiencing a miscarriage, and having to endure multiple surgeries, I am finally pregnant. When you are in the midst of TTC, I know it can feel like it will never happen for you, but if you keep trying, communicate with your partner, and share your frustrations with people you trust, you will get through this.
Best of luck to you.
Get a prescription for folic acid from a doctor. My doctor just prescribed it to me to start taking 3 months before I start ttc. It prevents deformities from developing and it also makes you very fertile. Also, make sure you’re having sex every 2 days to be very sure you have the best chances of conceiving.
Good luck! [name_m]Don[/name_m]'t give up, you’re already very early in your ttc. If you go a year without conceiving then you should be checked as well as your SO for infertility.
Thank you both! 
I’ll second what @_theresa- said about folic acid. I believe you can get just the folic acids, but I take prenatal vitamins that have both folic acid and DHA in them (both are thought to help fetal brain development/decrease the chances of deformities). It may help you to take them at night, and always with food, because they can cause nausea. My doctor recommended taking them, which brings me to something else: it’s a good idea to have a checkup, just to make sure you are healthy, and discuss your TTC plans with the doctor. They’ll make sure you are healthy and can offer any advice they can based on your own health status and history. I will say this though…most doctors will not discuss medical interventions in the event that you do not get pregnant, until you’ve been trying roughly a year (they’ll also tell you that it can take a healthy couple an average of 6-7 months or so to conceive naturally).
I hear ya about the struggles, though. My husband and I have been trying for 6 months now. It may not seem like forever, and there are certainly women who have been trying for years, but it does suck. We are 23 and many of the people in our circle are getting pregnant…and some love to brag about every little flutter and stretch mark (not to mention the baby itself). The same event will not happen for different people in the same timing…we’ll all hopefully “get there” soon! We’ve been trying to cope, but it’s hit us pretty hard, especially my husband. I’m sorry to say that it doesn’t ever really get easier.
You’re welcome to join the TTC 2016 thread! I don’t think I’ve seen you on there before (sorry if you’ve already visited it! There’s so many people to keep up with), but there’s a bunch of other women TTC and it’s really helpful and nice to get to ask questions, rant, support/give support…It’s worth a look I hope all works out for you guys!
It is completely normal to try for two months (or three? not sure since you said ‘couple’ of months, but then you’d taken 3 pregnancy tests) and not be pregnant yet. Not everybody gets pregnant literally the first cycle. Indeed, most people don’t. It is far too early to be worrying about anything. If you’re pregnant within 6 months of trying you can class that as ‘getting pregnant easily’. I think you’re not even supposed to go to the doctor before it’s been a whole year.
[name_f]Do[/name_f] you really know how long it took for all these friends and family members to get pregnant? Doesn’t really sound like the sort of information that many people would share or ask about. I have never heard a pregnancy announcement and said, ‘Great news, so how many months did it take you to conceive?’, nor has anybody ever offered that information as part of the announcement.
I have 2 sister-in-laws that both got pregnant fairly quickly. I’ve had private conversations with friends who have indicated that it wasn’t all the difficult for them to conceive. I have been taking prenatal vitamins for 2 weeks, never been on birth control. So I guess you could say I’m a little naïve to think that it would be easier than it has been.
It can take a healthy couple up to a year to get pregnant. Some just get lucky. It took us 9 months! I was diagnosed with PCOS after 6 months trying. My OBGYN was quick to get us checked for infertility despite not trying for a year due to my PCOS diagnoses, but I ended up getting pregnant on my own! So I would say don’t jump the gun just yet and wait till a year is up before seeing a doctor about infertility UNLESS you have a history of irregular cycles. Knowing that I had PCOS helped encourage me to exercise and eat better, which probably helped us get pregnant without the need for fertility drugs.
Some basic tips is to start taking prenatals now and invest in OPKs to help track when you are ovulating to get the timing right, or just have sex every other day when you are not on your period.
I second at namergirl3 to check out our TTC 2016 thread.
Sorry that you haven’t gotten pregnant yet. It can be disappointing and frustrating when you are TTC. As others have said it can take up to a year and that’s even if you are both healthy and there are no issues.
We hope to see you at the TTC 2016 thread.
A healthy couple with no fertility issues will take, on average, seven cycles to conceive. I know it can feel discouraging when you don’t fall pregnant immediately, but try not to worry. Odds are you will be pregnant soon. In the meantime, take a prenatal vitamin and maybe start tracking your cycles so you know when your fertile days are. I used Period Tracker, which was good.
Thanks y’all for all the positive feedback! I use Period Tracker as well which has been a big help tracking when I ovulate. I’m not trying to stress over this cause that won’t help anything. [name_m]Just[/name_m] anxious to have my own LO.
My husband and I were married for 5 years before we started trying for a baby. I was 25 and had regular cycles since I started getting my period. We were both healthy and neither of our parents had problems conceving. We never once considered that there would be any difficulty. We started ttc around June 2007 with no luck after the first month. In september my period was a fews days late. In 14 years I had only ever once gone past my due date. Naturally I thought I was pregnant. I didnt do a test. I wanted to wait at least a week, so wouldnt be disapointed if the test was negative. The next morning I got my period. That day we got a phone call, my brother in law’s girlfriend of 8 weeks was pregnant (5 weeks along). This upset me. I wondered why it hadn’t happened for us. We had been together for 7 years and married. So now my DH’s family were going to become grandparents/Aunty’s etc. But we were no closer to becoming parents.
Early in October I started to feel sick in the middle of the night. I missed my period, on which normally would have been day 8 of my cycle I did a pregnancy test. There were two lines! We were over the moon. Our baby and my brother in-laws baby would be close in age, they would grow up together. We told everyone in our family. This would be my parents first grandchild, they were very excited.
On the 31st of October I started spotting. My doctor told me not to worry unless it was heavy. At work the next day I started bleeding heavy. I was in pain, I couldn’t even sit down. I went to the ED where I had a physical examination. They never said anything to us until the doctor came back into the room an hour later and said it looks like I’d had a miscarriage. I was so upset.
They said I should wait a month and then it would be okay to try again. I didnt want to wait that long. It had already felt long enough.
We didn’t wait. In November I was late by 5 days. I got my hopes up again. My period came soon after. I ate healthy as if I was pregnant, didnt drink etc and took prenatal vitamins. In December I was late again. On day 8 my period still hadn’t started so I took a test. Two positive lines. This time the second line was even stronger than when I had got pregnant the first time. I figured out the due date. We even allowed ourselves to look at baby clothes.
This time I was worried everytime I went to the toilet incase the same thing happened. I passed the time I was pregnant last time and thought I would be okay now.
On January the 13th I started bleeding again. I went to the ED. They did another physical examination, said that the uterus was closed and the baby is still in there. They said they could do an ultra sound to check that things were okay if my hormone levels were high enough. We were sent home to wait.
I had stopped bleeding by that point and was feeling hopeful. A few hours later I got felt pain in my back. I went to the bathroom and the fetus come out in my hand. I was heartbroken. Later that day I was told my hormone levels were high enough to have an ultra sound but I had already miscarried.
I thought it was so unfair that we had to suffer and my brother in-law and his girlfriend’s pregnancy were going well.
For months after that I would burst into tears everytime I saw someone that was pregnant or had a new born baby. And of course they were everywhere. It got to a point where I didnt want to go out. I had quit my job. I just wanted to sleep until I coud wake up and be pregnant. Life become about ttc. Everytime I got my period I would bo so upset.
In May my bother in-laws baby was born. I wondered if we would even be able to have kids… In June 2008 my period was late again. On day 7 the test was positive. I was 5 weeks along. I said I hope I feel sick this time so I know I am still pregnant. Later that day I felt so sick I couldnt even eat more than a couple of mouthfuls of food. I started bleeding in week 7. It was light and after a few days it went away. During this time I still felt sick, the sickness didnt go away until I was 8 months along and gave birth to a healthy baby boy in February. I remeber saying to DH that it didnt take long, once we had out baby but at the time if felt like forever.
It will happen when its meant to. You are lucky that you are still young and have plenty of years to pursue your dream of having a baby/babies. I know its hard. I know there are people out there that can try one month and that all it takes. I also know that 1 in four couples experience difficulty getting pregnant.
All the best.
You’re 19. You’re still young and you just started trying. If your doctor believes that you are healthy enough to get pregnant, just give it some time. Good luck.
Amy1512:
That is rough. I’m sorry you had to go through so much. But I’m sure that your story will help many other women out there Congrats!