Ttc!

Parentberries
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My fiancé and I decided to start trying to conceive! I know it’s a little backwards, but we’re not really sure when we will get married (we’re currently saving) and we’re not getting any younger! I have a 7 year old son from a previous relationship and he has no children of his own. We are both in our 30’s and both want at least one more child, possibly 2. I know this may sound silly to some, bc I am aware of fertility struggles, but I was so disappointed to wake up to my monthly this morning… we’ve only been trying for a month or so, but I was really hoping it would be quick! My “surprise” pregnancy, as I like to call it, happened while I was on birth control and an antibiotic. Now we’re using nothing. Again, I know it’s silly and I know how things work, but I was just really hoping, you know?? But I am just excited to be trying and very excited to talk names and baby stuff again… my 7 year old is very much my big boy and I have the worst baby fever!!

So thanks for reading, and any and all advice or suggestions are welcome!!

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Hello! :slight_smile: I wish you all the best with your TTC journey! [name_m]Don[/name_m]'t feel bad about the timing or anything, because there really is no perfect time (though it may impact your savings)! Only you and your partner can determine when you feel you are ready! As far as the TTC disappointment, it really does suck and doesn’t really get easier :confused: my husband and I are in month 8 of trying… It is an exciting time, but can be stressful and, well, to be fully blunt, it makes the excitement wear off quickly. I don’t say that to be negative, but that is the number one thing I’ve learn from TTC. So just keep an open mind that it could take any amount of time to happen. You could get pregnant next month or next year. Take it in stride as best as possible. My other advice:

*talk to your doctor about your plans. They can give advice and can even check to see if you are healthy enough. Mine did a PAP and examination, so it wasn’t too bad.

*Something DH and I started doing, to help with the disappointment, was to get a cute piggy bank that can go into the baby’s room when the time comes (we got a little fox one) and commit to putting some money in the bank to help with baby expenses. We try to put $20 from each paycheck in, as well as change we have. So far, we are doing it just while we are TTC, but may keep doing it even afterwards. It adds up! We have enough for a crib and carseat (possibly one of those nice stroller/carseat combos)!

*[name_m]Don[/name_m]'t tell tons of people that you are trying (this excludes nameberry). Some people get pretty crappy about it. You already have an older son, so I wager you’ve heard comments about having another baby already, but once someone knows you are trying…they over-analyze your every move. We told our closest, most trusted friends who are also our greatest support system (they are a married couple with three littles of their own, so they’ve been there). If you have someone you trust, especially if your fiance isn’t super big on talking about baby all the time, and can tell them…it helps with the loneliness of TTC. [name_m]Just[/name_m] be careful and choose carefully.

*You probably know about it already, but we have a TTC 2016 thread. Come check it out, if you haven’t already! It helps so much, what with questions, concerns, issues, and rants we have at times.

*Prenatals. I’m sure you already know about those, though! Take them.
*If you need to or want to, implement ways to be healthier! Exercise more, cut back on caffeine, cut back on junk food, and so on. You might have to modify your habits when you get pregnant anyway, so it’s never too early to get healthier!

*[name_m]Just[/name_m] a random bit of advice…don’t stop buying pads or tampons while TTC. I did at first, because I thought I would get pregnant quickly, and then I’d just end up in an ‘emergency’ need situation.

*You can try charting your cycle or using ovulation kits. I don’t really use either, but yeah…some women swear by them.

I hope it all works out for you guys!

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Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. All of your advice is amazing and I am so thankful for it all! Good luck to you and your hubby and hopefully we will both have our baby wishes come true soon!