I’ve always liked the idea of two middle names. But I know it’s quite uncommon, and I worry it sounds a bit pretentious. What are your opinions?
Yes, I completely agree with the poster above. I dont really see the point. Especially when they’re all very long winded. Middle names are rarely used as it is so I dont see a point of adding more.
I know a lot of people say “What’s the point” but for me, the point is that I want to honor family. I have two grandmothers and one grandfather I am extremely close to and was close to growing up. Life is unpredictable and I don’t know if I will get the chance to have another child after my first, so honoring my grandparents is important to me. The fact that it includes two middle names…so what? Who does it impact more than my child? And even then, I’m sure my child is not going to go around bemoaning that their awful parents gave them two middle names. It’s really no one else’s worry what my child’s middle names are. [name_m]Even[/name_m] if the second name is “left off forms” it will be on their birth certificate and a part of their identity, plain and simple. I think accusing someone of being pretentious just for using two middle names is a little silly.
It’s actually becoming more common, at least amongst people I know (well, and even friends of friends on Facebook). Some of the names I have seen do sound a bit long and fancy but it’s not my call. I’ve found in most cases that they choose two middles to honor family members. In one case, a former classmate of mine used her daughter’s first middle name spot to honor a younger best friend of hers, who passed in a car accident at the age of 17. The second middle name honored her grandmother, who raised her. I haven’t asked many of the others who I’ve seen use two middles for their kids, but I’m sure there are backstories to the names. The parents have their reasons.
I will likely give my kids two middle names, when the time comes. Like birchwoood said, I have family members I want to honor and heck, I’m not even guaranteed I will have even one child (my fiance wants 2 at most but said he is also open to adopting a 3rd child). [name_m]Even[/name_m] if I did choose to use honor names, there are other names we like and would like to use. I guess what it boils down to is this: If you want to use two middle names, for whatever reason you may have, go for it. If you don’t want to use two middle names, for whatever reason you may have, then don’t.