Two mothers name problem

Me and my wife decided to have a kid two months ago, and now that all of the procedures went through successfully, (I’m also a woman, we are gay) we are expecting! However, we just realised that we were both planning on having the child call us “mom”. Does anyone have any alternate name ideas for a mother that are not “mama” and “mommy” and are something an older child could conceivably call one of us?

If either of you have any cultural names for mother (Ex: ‘Ima’ for someone who is Jewish or speaks hebrew) that would work. Technically, the child is still calling you both ‘mom’ just in different languages.


Oh, this may work! [name_f]My[/name_f] family is scottish, I will look if there is anything in gaelic or scots!


Marmee comes to mind. I love this one personally, but I know it’s not for everyone as it’s so directly linked to [name_m]Little[/name_m] Women. :smiling_face_with_three_hearts: congratulations!


The people that I know with two mothers use their names to differentiate, so for example “mom Lisa” and “mom Mandy”.

Firstly congratulations!

I’m honestly terrible at thinking of ideas regarding stuff like this but I wanted to say congratulations and good luck with everything!

The only idea I have is to have Mommy & Mom if that makes sense but it’s not exactly imaginative :woman_facepalming:t3:

Maybe Mum and Mom?

[name_f]My[/name_f] husband still calls his mom Muffler😂 (his childhood pronunciation of ‘Mother’).

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Oh that could work! [name_m]Ty[/name_m]!

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Mom and Mamae. Mamae is mom
in portuguese i think and i feel it’s something i wouldn’t mind calling my mom as an adult (although i still call my mom mommy at times lol)

A couple I thought of were (they tie to gaelic)


Maybe you can both be Mom and also each choose a special name that only family use?

Congratulations!! What about Meme (like mee mee - not a meme lol)? I think mama and meme would be cute.

Edited to say maybe spell it mimi

In Tamil we call our moms Amma (um-ah). So maybe that could be an option.

What about mother? I also like the suggestion of [name_f]Amma[/name_f]. And I’d also say I know a lot of grown adults who still call their moms [name_f]Mama[/name_f] so I feel like that one could work as well (if your comfortable with it)

I know two mum’s also and their child calls them

Mummy [name_f]Kate[/name_f] and Mummy [name_u]Sam[/name_u] or something like that.

Not used their real names btw!

I know a little boy who has a Mum and a Mam. I do know that Mam is Irish and Mum is [name_f]English[/name_f]. And when he was little he called them Mummy and Mammy - which I love!

I wonder if there may be a way for you to both be happy by choosing something that’s unique to you?

Otherwise I think [name_f]Baba[/name_f] & Cita are so cute! I believe it’s Spanish for Big Mummy and [name_m]Little[/name_m] Mummy. Actually I think their is a [name_u]Christmas[/name_u] song “mama cita …,”

Sorry I digress! Xx


Two moms over here!
Although my partner is only originally mother to my youngest daughter, we plan to eventually start an adoption process for the rest of my children.
We are Mamá and Mami (we’re Spanish), although Mami will eventually turn into Má as they grow older (Mami usually stays within small children).
[name_f]Hope[/name_f] it helps! xx

I wonder if it gets confusing with two titles being so similar in the long run… I’d personally think to use names with two different beginning letters, as affectionate parental names sometimes evolve as children get older (Think Mommy into Ma, would make [name_f]Mama[/name_f] and Mom a little complicated.)

Seems really silly but what about mum (short sound) and mom (longer). I’m in the UK and there is a difference in the way you say them… just an idea!

Its interesting because its hard to tell kids what to call someone 100%
One of my kids called me either Mother or my given name from about 3-6 or 7 and i have no idea why, the goal was for me to be Mom… Which overall I mostly am… One of the kids gets upset when anyone calls me anything else… So really kids do what they do in my experience. But its a good idea to have a goal!
In the spirit of clarity though, one thing i notice is formality like adding a given name to a mother title seems very formal to me and names i dont see right away as parent titles sometimes make me wonder if this is the mother or aunt or this persons name…
It may be easiest in the long run to aim for simple/ common place where you live titles. Mom/Mum, Mom/Ma or Mama… Something really simple. But that said… All the time at home and with people you know you’ll not have to do too much explaining most of the time.
The challenge is there for sure! But you’ll find the balance that works best for your family.
Also it might be worth thinking about what youll call each other in the child’s presence as that does seem to influence what a child ultimately and instinctively calls you.