My brother in-law and sister in-law were going to name there first daughter [name]Sabrina[/name] but when she was born they named her [name]Isabelle[/name] instead. This was almost 11 years ago and they have gone on to have 3 more girls and never used [name]Sabrina[/name]. [name]Do[/name] you think the name is off limits for us to use for our second dd?
Dh is hesitating on the name because of this. We both really like the name. We aren’t sure it’s the one yet but it’s rare we both like a name equally.
I would say that it’s ok, but why not just ask? It definitely looks like they’ve moved on and the name is open to your use. If you and the in-laws are in communication (like, there’s no family rift preventing asking), then I think you could alleviate the worry with a quick phone call. [name]Sabrina[/name] is a great name.
I think it never hurts to mention it…I wouldn’t necessarily ask permission or make a huge conversion of it. Most people love bringing up names with a pregnant couple anyway so I would just say "we’re loving [name]Sabrina[/name]. I remember you mentioned it way back when.’
That way it’s acknowledged, they’re prepared, but it doesn’t really open the door for them trying to argue in any way.
If this kind of conversation seems awkward to you maybe considee [name]Sabine[/name], [name]Sabina[/name], [name]Sable[/name], [name]Brinn[/name], [name]Raina[/name], [name]Lina[/name], ect.
This actually isn’t family related, but my mom and her friend were pregnant around the same time. Her friend had a baby boy in [name]October[/name], and then my mom had me 3 months later in [name]January[/name]. My name is [name]Kaitlyn[/name] … her friend was going to use that name for her son, if he had been born a girl. My mom told her friend that they almost called me [name]Brianna[/name] … two years later, her friend had a baby girl and named her [name]Brianna[/name] I think all the names worked out in the end.
Anyways, with family I understand it’s more of a concern. I personally [name]LOVE[/name] the name [name]Sabrina[/name], and say to go for it … but first, perhaps you and your husband can sit down with your brother-in-law and sister-in-law and ask them how they feel about it. Ultimately, it’s your decision, that can’t call dibs on a name unless they actually used the name first … but if they feel strongly about the name, it may be enough to change your mind.
I could see maybe if this was recently, and maybe if they just had a boy and were still “saving” [name]Sabrina[/name] for a girl, but this is different. I would mention it, but I wouldn’t necessarily ask permission at this point.
I think all the names worked out in the end.