Using a name used after a loss as a middle?

General Name Discussion
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We lost a baby in an ectopic loss. We named them [name_f]Sunny[/name_f]. I’m wondering if it would be weird to use [name_f]Sunny[/name_f] as a middle name for a future baby, potentially considering it as an honor? Thank you

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Not weird at all.

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I’ve seen people do that, but I can also understand why you’d hesitate, as the emotions around child loss can be very complex. I suppose you can only wait until it’s time to name Sunny’s sibling and see how you feel about it then.

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i’m so very sorry for your loss. :white_heart:

my partner and i are planning on doing this, with either our willa’s first name or one of her middles. i think it’s a beautiful tribute.

you might also consider doing a similar name if you aren’t sure about using sunny- sun, sunday, sunbeam, sol, etc. :sun_with_face:

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I’m sorry for your loss. I’ve experienced a miscarriage as well, and I know it is devastating. I hope you find peace and healing.

I agree with the comment by @emeraldsea where you could consider using a name similar to sunny. [name_f]Soleil[/name_f], [name_m]Brighton[/name_m], [name_f]Summer[/name_f], etc. I think this would be a meaningful tie between the two kids, while still keeping [name_f]Sunny[/name_f] a distinct name for your lost child.

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I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable using or having the name of a miscarried baby as a middle. I do think the idea of something like [name_f]Sunday[/name_f], [name_m]Sol[/name_m], [name_m]Brighton[/name_m], or even a name with a meaning relating to the sun would be sweet, but I think it might be a little bit uncomfortable for the child who would get Sunny’s name as an honor. The honoring is very sweet, and I enjoy the idea of giving them a connection to their older sibling, but I wonder if it might place a little bit of pressure on the child to have your miscarried baby’s name? Perhaps, not, but I would try to be cautious about it! [name_f]Sunny[/name_f] is a lovely name and I’m so sorry for your loss!

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I’m so sorry for your lost :heart:

It wouldn’t be weird but it can bring complex emotions. I know one person who used a variant of their child’s name as a way to honour them but not overshadow their first child with their new baby & also another person who had twins after a lost & used the MN’s [name_f]Heaven[/name_f] & [name_f]Rainbow[/name_f] as a way to acknowledge their loss but not, as they put it, “burden the twins” which I thought was a nice way to do it.

I wish you the best of luck going forward x

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I don’t think it’s odd as a middle - so long as it doesn’t feel weird or painful to you