My ex-boyfriend has a son named [name_u]Rory[/name_u]. My husband is not aware of this, and [name_u]Rory[/name_u] is one of his favorite names for a baby of either gender. I have always loved that name as well, but find myself vetoing it down our list as I know my ex used it already and I feel weird about using the same name. I have no contact with this ex, and haven’t seen or heard from him in many many years, but I do keep in touch with his sister-in-law over facebook so it’s not unlikely that he’d hear if I named my child the same thing as his. Am I being weird about this or am I right that it would be weird to use the same name? Is there an etiquette here that I should be aware of?
I would first ask your husband how he feels about it as his opinion will be the most important other than your own. Speaking as an outsider, if you and your children don’t cross paths, I think it’s ok to use [name_u]Rory[/name_u]. You may want to look around and see if you can find a name you two like more than it, but if [name_u]Rory[/name_u] is The Name, then go for it.
I personally wouldn’t use the same name, Maybe for a girl [name_f]Lorelei[/name_f] or [name_f]Aurora[/name_f], you can use it as a nick name, boy [name_m]Ronan[/name_m] or [name_m]Rourke[/name_m], and use [name_u]Rory[/name_u]. If you think you can be happy with the name knowing an ex has used it, that’s fine, but if you think about it every time you hear the name [name_u]Rory[/name_u], then I wouldn’t. I also suggest telling your SO