I love the name [name_f]Vera[/name_f]. It’s my grandmother’s middle name, I’ve been planning to use it since I was, like, ten years old. A few months ago my sister even let me call dibs on it. 
I have all sorts of fancypants middle names lined up, but just the other day, I started saying it with my last name sans any middles and I don’t like it at all. The last name is two sylables, emphasis on the first, ends in er. (I need to be extra cautious about online confidentiality so it wouldn’t be safe for me to say what it is or give more clues.) I feel like the r’s are fighting each other? I pronounce [name_f]Vera[/name_f] VEE-ra. Am I overthinking?
Without knowing your name I think that it’ll be fine! They’re rarely said together relatively speaking and it does add to the overall sound of the name. If it is an issue for you then don’t use it but seeing as you love [name_f]Vera[/name_f] then I wouldn’t let it stop you. Go for it!X
For arguments sake, let’s say it’s [name_f]Vera[/name_f] [name_m]Miller[/name_m]. Since you’re pronouncing the fn as “VEE-ra” , you may be overthinking!
I think, going with something like [name_m]Miller[/name_m], it will sound lovely. And also, you might not even have your own surname forever (depending on how old you are - sorry if you are already married!); you may choose to take your husband’s name, leaving you with a name you have loved since you were ten, and no reason not to use it. Good luck!
Thanks for replies, ladies! I’m really glad you think I’m overthinking. I’m 32, and looking into becoming a single mom, but I guess there is a chance I’ll get married bf my uterus falls out? Altho, I love my last name and might not change it. I was married once before and didn’t.
I think part of my love of [name_f]Vera[/name_f] is that most of the other names I like are pretty extravagant and have been vetoed as too silly by my sister (who is my only irl baby name consultant, and who’s taste I do trust). [name_f]Vera[/name_f] is a nice middle ground of fancy but not crazy. I would mebbe use an elaboration ([name_f]Verity[/name_f] or something?) to avoid the er mashup, if other people thought it was bad, but I don’t like any of them nearly as much as I like [name_f]Vera[/name_f].
Also, I like the idea of a family name. Most of the names I’m drawn to viscerally come from cultures with which I have no connection, whereas a name from my family tree feels like it belongs to me, y’know?
[name_f]Vera[/name_f] seems very special to you so I would encourage you to brush aside your misgivings and go for it! It’s wonderful to continue a family tradition and I’m sure your daughter would appreciate the meaning behind your choice.
Thanks, mischa. I feel like I should disclose that I’m not actually pregnant, just very very sick with baby fever.
Are there elaborations of [name_f]Vera[/name_f] that you like? [name_m]Just[/name_m] for further overthinking’s sake.