My dad and my brother are my world. They are both named [name_u]James[/name_u].
When my first DS was born I would have liked to honor them, but [name_m]Joel[/name_m] [name_u]James[/name_u] didn’t flow, and I didn’t want a “JJ.”"
This baby will either be [name_m]Cillian[/name_m] or [name_u]Rory[/name_u], but I don’t want anyone to call him CJ or RJ.
And honestly I don’t like J as a middle initial for any first name because I don’t want an AJ, PJ, BJ, etc.
Can I pull off [name_u]James[/name_u] as a middle name without people wanting to call him CJ or RJ?
I feel like nn are usually started by the parents. If you don’t want him called _J, don’t start calling him that. Most people outside of immediate family won’t know his middle name anyway. Call him what you want his name to be and that’s what everyone will follow.
I agree with the others–if you don’t introduce him as RJ or CJ, he probably won’t get it! I’ve noticed that people generally follow the parents’ choice. At least in my circle, anyway! Of my three siblings and me, only the ones my parents have given a nn ([name_m]Johnny[/name_m] and [name_f]Becca[/name_f]) have gotten them, while my sister and I are 99% of the time [name_u]Ashley[/name_u] and [name_f]Natalie[/name_f]. I get [name_u]Ash[/name_u] quite a lot at work now, because they don’t know my parents. But the people I grew up with and who know my parents before they know me–I’m always [name_u]Ashley[/name_u]. My brother has called me [name_u]Ash[/name_u] once, but otherwise, I can’t think of an exception to the rule. Same for a lot of the kids I know. I know a little [name_f]Alaina[/name_f] who is almost always [name_f]Alaina[/name_f], never [name_f]Lainey[/name_f], or [name_f]Laina[/name_f], or [name_f]Ally[/name_f]. Same with my sister [name_f]Natalie[/name_f]–people only call her [name_u]Tallie[/name_u] after I’ve done it in front of them (my parents haven’t nicknamed her, but I did), or they saw her nametag at work saying [name_u]Tallie[/name_u]. If you want [name_u]Rory[/name_u] [name_u]James[/name_u] or [name_m]Cillian[/name_m] [name_u]James[/name_u], use it! I don’t think that automatically means he’ll end up RJ or CJ. (I love [name_m]Joel[/name_m], for what it’s worth, and I think [name_m]Joel[/name_m] and [name_u]Rory[/name_u] or [name_m]Joel[/name_m] and [name_m]Cillian[/name_m] are adorable together!)
I have a [name_u]Dillon[/name_u] [name_u]James[/name_u] and no one calls him DJ. I was actually open to that possibility because my brother is TJ ([name_u]Tyler[/name_u] [name_u]James[/name_u]). It’s all in how you introduce them, in my opinion.
Absolutely!! It is usually the parents that set the precedence with a using a middle name all of the time and if someone says it, correct them early:). You can really make the argument for any name being turned into an initialed name.