Thanks for the thoughtful suggestions. I really like [name]Piper[/name] and [name]Clover[/name], but don’t seem to work with our crazy last name. I also toyed with [name]Cleo[/name] for a bit, since it is so similar to [name]Chloe[/name] but more unique. I will think these over-thanks!
I think it’s too late…unless maybe you do [name]June[/name], [name]Juno[/name], [name]Cleo[/name], [name]Clio[/name], [name]Claudette[/name], [name]Claudie[/name] ect…something really close to what she’s used to. Obviously I think naming/names are important (I mean I am obsessed with this forum) but I think that a child’s life/identity/feelings of self worth are [name]WAY[/name] more important!
I mean what if you find the ‘perfect’ name & next year that’s the name of the biggest celeb baby or some horrible criminal or next years deadly hurricane? At some point her name is just her and imo that happens once she turns her head when you call it out.
I am going to send you a PM…I think you should follow your heart.
I personally felt bad changing my dog’s name from what the pound called her…so this topic has been disturbing me. We changed her name from [name]Crystal[/name] to Pistol and for a transition period we called her Istol!
I just think that this should be about [name]Chloe[/name] and her feelings not you & yours.
[name]Cleo[/name] / [name]Clio[/name] is cute, but it’s not that unique & what if it surges in popularity? [name]Will[/name] you dislike it in that case? Is this name thing about your image? Is this discontent really not about names at all? [name]Do[/name] you have a lot of stuff going on that is outside of your control so you’re focusing on something that you can change?
It sounds like you & your partner didn’t communicate very well in the hospital when you were picking a name. Maybe these feelings of discontent go back to that?
I think you need to reevaluate whether this is about the name or if it goes deeper.
Also take some time to think about how it might feel to be called something new suddenly & be told your old name is gone now. Does [name]Chloe[/name] [name]June[/name] ever hear you talk about how great [name]Finley[/name]'s name is and how cringe-worthy her name is to you?
I think that this could make [name]Chloe[/name] feel that life isn’t stable & her identity isn’t her own and that she is like an item that you can change & switch up according to your moods or the current trends.
Your older daughter could pick up on this too.
Another potential idea could be that you live with the name for like 5 more years & if you really can’t stand it [name]Chloe[/name] can help pick a new name…at least it could be fun for her. Though [name]Finley[/name] would probably want to do the same!
I think [name]Chloe[/name] is wonderful. [name]Harper[/name] is nms and neither is [name]Sunday[/name]. Mind you she is your baby, but I don’t understand what you don’t like about [name]Chloe[/name]? It is cute, full of character, and will stand the test of time. I do think [name]Harper[/name] is very trendy and [name]Sunday[/name] is just kind of meh.
I do feel it is rather late. But I also feel it’s not too late to ‘tweak’ her name with a nickname.
Many people have come up with the same idea I was thinking of [name]Cleo[/name].
Your decscription sounds like a [name]Cleo[/name] to me. I think start using it as a nn and her full name will gradually fade in use.
Alternatives: [name]Clover[/name], [name]Clio[/name] and [name]Clea[/name].
I personally love [name]Chloe[/name] [name]June[/name], but if you truly don’t like [name]Chloe[/name] then I would recommend changing it, and make sure you do it fast! After the age of 2 children become extremely attached to their name. But if you haven’t been calling her [name]Chloe[/name] then she is probably not attached to that part any way. I personally like [name]Harper[/name] [name]June[/name], as [name]Harper[/name] is one of my favorite names. The other name that was already mentioned that I like is [name]Ellery[/name], [name]Ellery[/name] [name]June[/name] sounds beautiful and goes well with [name]Finley[/name]. Good luck!
I really like the suggestion of calling her [name]Clover[/name]! It is close enough to [name]Chloe[/name] that it would be an easy transition, and it offers some spunkiness and uniqueness and character. I think [name]Finley[/name] and [name]Clover[/name] are a cute combo, too! It also reminds me of Harper, which you love. It’s too bad it isn’t ideal with your last name, but maybe you’ll have to compromise.
[name]Chloe[/name] [name]June[/name] is a beautiful combo. I, like others have already mentioned, think it’s way too late to change her name. Not only that but from what you said, your husband doesn’t seem thrilled about the prospect of a name change. It seems like he’s just trying to shut you up by telling you “ok”. I think you really need to consider him in this as well as your baby girl. She is really the only person that should matter in this decision, in the end though. I would be completely understanding if you named her something like Toiletta, but [name]Chloe[/name] [name]June[/name] is a pretty name. It’s not like she would be discriminated against because of her name. I think if anything you should have her go by a nn, [name]Cleo[/name] is my personal fav out of the ones I’ve seen. To me it seems totally selfish of you to want to change her name.
This is harsh …but I am saying the honest brutal truth: don’t be selfish…this would harm your daughters mental health and emotional well being. Its too late to change her name…get over it and name your next kids [name]Harper[/name] and [name]Sunday[/name]… its a very cute name
Personally, I don’t think it’s too late to change her name (though it seems to get a lot of flack from certain members on here, hundreds of adopted kids have their names changed every year, and it doesn’t seem to negatively affect the majority of them, and they adjust just fine). If it bothers you so much that you’re cringing whenever you say the name, I would change it. I would rather know my mom gave me a new name she REALLY loved rather than grow up seeing my mom hated my name so much. I mean, I’m still not a huge fan of my name, 100%, but the one thing that keeps me seeing the appeal behind [name]Ashley[/name] is that my mom literally adores it so much.
I don’t really have any new suggestions (although I think [name]Harper[/name] and [name]Sunday[/name] are cute!), unisex names aren’t my thing. But maybe you could do something like [name]Avery[/name], [name]Sloane[/name], [name]Madigan[/name], [name]Rory[/name], etc.? If you decide to keep her name, maybe you could be a bit inventive with a nn. I think CJ, JJ, JC ([name]Jacey[/name]), [name]Lola[/name], [name]Clover[/name], [name]Cleo[/name], Cici/Cece/Ceci, [name]Coco[/name], Juju (or even [name]Julie[/name]/[name]Julia[/name]), etc., could be nns, even though some are a bit of a stretch. I think Junebug/[name]Junie[/name] is just adorable, though, too. My personal favorite of the nns would be [name]Lola[/name]. 
Good luck!
[name]Way[/name] too late to change her name - for her and everyone else (think about what message this sends to your eldest daughter).
I think at this point, [name]Chloe[/name] is too old for a name change. Call her [name]Clover[/name] or [name]June[/name] as a nn, but allow the child to retain her identity. I mean, the fact that you said in your original post that you fear your daughter is going to have an identity crisis should answer your question right there. It’s her name that this point, and she’s old enough to know her name. It’s her identity. Taking that away from her at a formative period in her life seems more problematic than you learning to live with the name she has.
And what about the other people in her life? Does her dad call her Chloe? Her grandparents? Does her sister know that her name is Chloe? It might be confusing for Finley if her sister’s name suddenly changes.
I don’t think that it’s too late to change her name, especially if you’re not calling her by her given name anyway. It is not psychologically damaging to her at this age and with the aforementioned circumstances. Lots of people have naming regret and change their children’s names. Adopted children often have their names changed–with or without their consent and at various ages. A friend’s sister-in-law adopted two girls and loves one of their names but very much disliked the other girl’s name. The girl was about 8 and named [name]Jasmine[/name], called [name]Jazz[/name] or [name]Jazzy[/name]. So the adoptive mom changed the girl’s name to Jazzlyn, which she liked considerably better. No harm, no identity crisis. I don’t have any name suggestions but just to be very open with your husband about it and get him involved as much as possible. You [name]WILL[/name] find something you both love and that suits your daughter.
I agree with this 100%. When it comes to finding the perfect name before a child is born I say go for what YOU love and for what YOU want. But after the child is here and has lived with a perfectly good name for over a year, you need to consider the child first. She very well may love [name]Chloe[/name] and hate whatever name you choose instead. Let her make the decision for herself when she’s old enough to, but also try and make sure you don’t sway her decision. [name]Don[/name]'t let your derision toward her name cloud her judgement. And here’s one more thing to consider. A person’s numerology is based off of the name that is originally on their birth certificate. So even if you change her name now or she changes it later on, her personality will always be based on [name]Chloe[/name] [name]June[/name] and that in and of itself may make you love the name a little more. Type her full name, as it is on her birth certificate, in here http://www.paulsadowski.com/Numbers.asp and you’ll see what I mean.
I am going to be brutally honest: I think it would be very selfish to change her name now. You say that you don’t call her [name]Chloe[/name] anyway, because you don’t like it, but presumably everyone else in her life does.
I think you should let this go.
People clearly have different beliefs about naming. I never understood people choosing a name before the kid is even out of the womb. To me, you are choosing their identity and expecting them conform to the image you have of that name. Isn’t that selfish?
In some cultures it is bad luck to name a child before it’s born. In others you give the child a “milk name” or “birth name” before or shortly after birth and then the child gets their real name weeks or months later. Are these children emotionally scarred forever?
In an ideal world, I’d wait to get to know my child before choosing a name. I’d see their personality, their looks, their likes/dilikes- if it takes weeks, months, or a year then so be it. I do not agree with the pressure to name a child before birth or before you leave the hospital. In the US, it’s not about the child’s mental health, it’s about the insurance companies
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Personally, I think it’s too late to change her name now. According to this: When babies understand words and commands | BabyCenter she was already recognizing her name around 4 to 7 months. Would it be psychologically or developmentally harmful to change her name now? I don’t know, there might be studies out there on this and those would be worthwhile reading, might actually be a good question for a pediatrician or another kind of doctor that specializes in development. I don’t know if its really worth the risk to change her name though to satisfy your own ego…
(which that sounds harsher than i intend, but it just doesn’t seem like there is a real reason to change her name other than you just don’t like it anymore).
Have you thought about using [name]Juniper[/name]? My daughter’s name is [name]June[/name] and we call [name]Juniper[/name]. It fits her spunky little attitude! [name]Juniper[/name] [name]Chloe[/name] could be cute, then you would still have her current names in there. I don’t think [name]Finley[/name] and [name]Juniper[/name] go badly either. [name]Juno[/name] is another thought.
I also agree with what someone else said “I suggest to keep [name]Chloe[/name] [name]June[/name] as MNs and add another FN.”
If in the end you do completely change her name I am sure she will adapt. Especially if it is true that you call her [name]June[/name] Bug a lot already.