I am 37 weeks pregnant with baby #2 - a girl! My husband and I cannot seem to agree on a name. He has a name he wants and I have about 8 (and they are in constant flux). I was thinking about giving him the first name because he’s been consistent and determined that this should be her name and then giving her two middles of my choosing and call her by one of those.
What’s your opinion about calling someone by their middle name? I think two middles is cool because it gives them more options. Has anyone experienced having [name_m]MAJOR[/name_m] differences in naming styles from their partner? All advice welcome!
I know a lot of people (at least three from elementary, three from middle school, and an uncountable number from high school) that go by their middle name. It works so well that many people express shock that it isn’t their first, and with a number, I only found out after years of knowing them casually.
For me, unless the first name were an honour name- especially one that had to be top spot - I’d avoid using the middle as first. It’s intriguing for a bit, but then mostly unnecessary.
Perhaps if you post his preference and a few of yours, we might be able to come up with some that might appeal to both?
I go by my middle name, and yes sometimes it can be annoying (for example when I’m in a dentist or a job interview and people call me by my first name and for a second I get confused (ikr…)), but for the most part it doesn’t affect my life at all. When I was little it was cool that I go by my mn
So, I would say go ahead, call her by her mn, it’s not THAT troublesome. But that’s just my opinion
I’m really not a fan of naming someone with the intention of using their middle name. I think that choice should go to the person beholding the name. I understand its common in some places but it’s not something I would do myself. Aside from that I think in your situation it’s a bit unnecessary. Assuming your husband is going to refer to daughter has her given first name (the name he chose) it seems a bit counterproductive to have another parent call her another name entirely.
Thank you for all the comments. It helps to get people’s perspectives. I will probably make another post with names when I’ve narrowed my list down a bit. Thanks again!
