I’m sorry. I’m done. I know you haven’t posted back, @lovemysweeties, and I don’t know if you were even planning to reply. But that’s the point. I have no desire to make enemies here, or to hurt anyone to begin with. We all have differing opinions, but there’s no need for a unisex name debate to get out of hand, again. It’s ridiculous how bad it gets, and what it does to all of us. I never meant to be vitriolic or combatant, and so I’m done. Hopefully we can all put aside self-righteous opinions and respect each other for the good we see, both in each other, and the names we discuss. They’re just names. I’ve seen a lot worse than [name_u]Logan[/name_u] on a girl, and they are doing just fine. I’m not a hippy but I do wish we could all just get along and put aside our differences.
Too much hurt and anger and injustices exist already in the world; I have no desire to make it worse. All the best to everyone.
You are right, you are not one of the posters that anger me, and I apologize to you. I have heard the same posters yelping over and over about how awful boy names on girls are and how awful surnames are on anyone. Several of the same posters have surnames and “boys names on girls” on their favorite lists and have no clue. These posters do not need to post in the threads asking about “boys names on girls” or when someone is asking about a surname. Or they can be respectful. I have read lots of bashing posts here and there (not necessarily in this thread, but lots of bashing in the names that make me cringe thread, for example). No one should ever bash anyone’s choice or the names they like.
I also keep seeing people post that they hate creative names, yet they say kre8tive. If they hate creative names then why do they consistently type creative, kre8tive? That makes me “cringe”.
I guess I just grew tired of hearing the negativism. I believe there are much better ways in giving opinions. Now that being said, this is definitely a much more positive and helpful forum then any other I have been on.
I love soft names on boys, I love unisex names on both, I love certain boy names on girls. There are plenty of names I really dislike but I would never bash them and tell the posters how awful they are. I can give my opinion with respect.
I agree with everything you said. I just posted an apology. You did not deserve it. And I should just look the other way when I see the bashing and rudeness done by others. There are far more positive people on this board then the negative people.
@lovemysweeties - ha! I think [name_m]Cohen[/name_m] and unisex names bring out the worst in us.
I don’t mind the delay in response–I tried to walk away, and I was halfway through my personal Bible study for the day and had to come back to post the apology, I felt too bad about it, haha. I think people write “kre8tiv” instead of “creative” as an overexaggerated show of the creative measures people take in names. Like: Ayshelieghy is to [name_u]Ashley[/name_u] as kre8tiv is to creative. Make sense? I don’t have the patience to think up creative ways of writing creative, hahaha.
I appreciate (okay, even love!) some unisex names on girls ([name_f]Jocelyn[/name_f] especially, but also [name_u]Addison[/name_u], [name_u]Harper[/name_u], and [name_u]Hadley[/name_u]! och, how I still mourn [name_f]Jocelyn[/name_f]!), but I would never use them. I’ve had a negative enough experience with my own unisex name that I would never put that on a future daughter without her being able to pick whether she wants it or not. If she hates being a girl THAT much, then I’ll help her come up with a unisex/tomboyish alternative. [name_u]Issy[/name_u] as opposed to [name_f]Bella[/name_f] for [name_f]Isabelle[/name_f], etc. Or even a unisex “name” that she can go by, without changing her name (she could be [name_u]Rowan[/name_u], or [name_u]Hadley[/name_u], or [name_u]Joss[/name_u], or whatever she wants, I suppose). But until my girls say so, they’ll be given a girls’ name. Maybe this comes from me being the girly girl of the family, and I’m ironically stuck with the unisex name while my two sisters have the girly [name_f]Rebecca[/name_f] and [name_f]Natalie[/name_f] (which they both love, despite their feminine nature).
But I don’t expect what works for me to work for everyone else.
BTW, had you considered [name_f]Lilia[/name_f] [name_f]Anneliese[/name_f]? I’ve been looking at your signature and it’s been striking me how beautiful that combo would be. I’m still searching for a [name_f]Lilia[/name_f] combo, but I am leaning more toward other options myself ([name_f]Lilia[/name_f] [name_f]Amelie[/name_f] or [name_f]Lilia[/name_f] [name_f]Georgiana[/name_f], atm…).
I see [name_u]Logan[/name_u] as unisex because it’s a fairly modern name. To me, it’s in the same grouping as [name_u]Bailey[/name_u] and [name_u]Riley[/name_u]. However, these are names I dislike, so I’d rather see them on nobody.
Actually, [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] was used on boys about a hundred years ago. Not very commonly, but certainly more often than it’s used on boys now (which is never).
[name_f]Lilia[/name_f] [name_f]Anneliese[/name_f] is gorgeous. The only issue of that would be if I had two girls and wanted to use both [name_u]Story[/name_u] and [name_f]Lilia[/name_f]. I chose [name_f]Anneliese[/name_f] with [name_u]Story[/name_u] because then it honors both my late grandma and my late sister. [name_f]Lilia[/name_f] does not honor anyone, I just love “lily” names, [name_u]Wren[/name_u] honors my late grandma. [name_f]Lilia[/name_f] [name_u]Wren[/name_u] is not my best combo, probably the combo I like the least. [name_f]Lilia[/name_f] is such a hard name to find a middle name for…as you are quite aware. [name_u]Story[/name_u] was hard also. I love [name_f]Lilia[/name_f] [name_f]Amelie[/name_f]. That is beautiful yet fun and sweet. I think that is my favorite for you now.
Sorry I don’t like it its more masculine then [name_f]Kendyl[/name_f]/[name_u]Kendall[/name_u]. It is a boys name also don’t use the spelling [name_m]Logyn[/name_m] I hate adding randym y’s to things.
[name_u]Logan[/name_u] is a family last name for me going back to the late 1700s, early 1800s, so to me its all boy. But I see the appeal in a way, primarily because of the nickname Lo. I also associate it with the characters on [name_m]Gilmore[/name_m] Girls and [name_f]Veronica[/name_f] [name_m]Mars[/name_m] so it feels very masculine But you like it and that’s all that matters!
I can see how it could be cute but I guess I see the problems of the [name_u]Robin[/name_u]'s and [name_u]Kelly[/name_u]'s that grew up with a name that was becoming unisex. None of the people who I knew with these names (boys or girls) liked having a gender neutral name. So, I would pass on it. Maybe use as a middle? Or what about [name_u]London[/name_u]?
It seems to fit your style, so whatever. If you like it, use it.
Anymore these “[insert boy name] on a girl??” threads seem less and less curious and more seeking attention/trying to cause an argument.
My honest opinion? My sister is considering the name [name_u]Logan[/name_u] for her 3rd daughter right now and i cannot express enough how much i hate the idea of it. It feels trendy and pointless, without any shine to it. Her older two daughters have beautiful, timeless, feminine names and it just seems wrong to name the next one anything less, and to me, [name_u]Logan[/name_u] feels entirely less.
[name_u]Story[/name_u] was hard also. I love [name_f]Lilia[/name_f] [name_f]Amelie[/name_f]. That is beautiful yet fun and sweet. I think that is my favorite for you now.