Wesley...for a girl?

DH is kind of stuck on [name]Wesley[/name] for a girl. I like the idea of it but it’s such a “boy” name that I can’t fully get into it. DH thinks that’s odd as I like names like [name]Mason[/name] or [name]Haven[/name] for a girl…but those are much more unisex then [name]Wesley[/name]! If I had never known it was traditionally a boys name then I’d easily see how it could be a girl name but unfortunately it’s just more used for a boy…but then [name]Ashley[/name] was once the same way.

I’m mostly just curious of everyone’s thoughts.

Currently we have a [name]Logan[/name] (poor kid got the super popular name…wasn’t thinking about it at the time I guess), then [name]Ransom[/name] (not popular, [name]Christian[/name] meaning to it), and [name]Everly[/name] (unpopular)…all are old english surnames although that was totally unintentional and it’s not like I’m aiming to continue the trend…but it seems like that might be the best place to find a name for #4… [name]Do[/name] you think [name]Wesley[/name] (again for a girl!) would fit our sibset ok… I mean poor [name]Logan[/name] doesn’t fully fit in the set I don’t think… I can see [name]Wesley[/name] fitting in but only if it was more normal for a girl name… I just wonder if it would seem odd to have these obvious gender names (granted [name]Logan[/name] is becoming more unisex by the day and I’ve heard of a [name]Ransom[/name] and [name]Everly[/name] of the opposite genders too…but those are much more rare) and then a [name]Wesley[/name] who was a girl??? [name]Do[/name] you think she’d wonder why she got stuck with a “boy” name? Or do you think it won’t matter?

Like I said, I’m not really set on it at all…more so just trying to see if I can even allow it on the list for DH’s sake. :slight_smile: I"m totally open for suggestions on names though! (unpopular as in not top 500 at least names)

Heres my 2 cents…
You have a boy [name]Logan[/name] ( which like you mentioned is unisex, but in my opinion more feminine than [name]Wesley[/name] ( which to me is almost exclusively masculine.)
You have a boy [name]Ransom[/name] which again is VERY masculine (good).
You have a girl [name]Everly[/name] ( quite masculine but because it is similar to the girly [name]Ever[/name] and [name]Beverly[/name], is doable for a girl ( yay).

I think naming a girl [name]Wesley[/name] when you have a boy named [name]Logan[/name] is in my opinion a little cruel. The boy will feel he has a girl ier name than your daughter and she is going to wonder why she wasn’t worth a more feminine name.

I like your idea of [name]Haven[/name] or how about [name]Jordan[/name] or [name]Taylor[/name], you could even get away with [name]Reese[/name] or [name]Cameron[/name].
I wouldn’t do [name]Mason[/name] though as it is all boy.

Whats wrong with girl names anyway?

[name]How[/name] about [name]Piper[/name] or [name]Harper[/name] or [name]Quinn[/name]?
All 3 are frequently used on girls.

I think it’s best to leave [name]Wesley[/name] to the boys. All the [name]Wesley[/name]'s I have known have been men, and masculine at that. Its just hard for me to imagine. I would say find a more “feminine” unisex name if that makes any sense. Because I actually like unisex names but not every name falls into that category. I wish you the best of luck!

To be honest when I read [name]Logan[/name] and [name]Everly[/name] I had no idea if they were boys or girls, so to me it doesn’t matter if you had a [name]Wesley[/name] too. And don’t get me wrong, I think all your names were nice names, I just don’t see why worry about [name]Wesley[/name]. ”

Ooh I love it! (But I am one of the few nameberries who love unisex names)! Mine is [name]Jo[/name] (ella is my neice and screen name) so I just get annoyed when people harp on about girls hating boys names when they grow up… I love it and would hate a girly girl name

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[name]Wesley[/name] means “western meadow” ([name]Ashley[/name] means “ash tree meadow”) so technically it’s unisex but it’s pretty much exclusively used for boys. I just can’t see it on a girl but I can see
Webley nn Webbie
[name]Windsor[/name] nn [name]Winnie[/name]
[name]Wallis[/name]- one of my faves but maybe too masculine (although it is a legit girl name)
Wynslet/Wenslet/[name]Winslet[/name]- I knew a Wenslet when I was little (she should be about 30 now), long before [name]Kate[/name] [name]Winslet[/name] was known

All of your children have strong but softer-sounding, gender neutral names. But [name]Logan[/name] & [name]Ransom[/name] lean to the masculine side and [name]Everly[/name] to the feminine. I would continue this with #4. [name]Wesley[/name] is too masculine and I don’t like that both girls’ end in “lee”. I also feel [name]Mason[/name] is too masculine and too popular. [name]Haven[/name] works really well. It’s strong and soft, it’s unisex but leans to the feminine


I think you have other names that are more gender ambiguous whereas I’ve never heard of a girl named [name]Wesley[/name]. I think it would be really confusing with the other names in the sibset. I think if you listed the four names and said you had two girls and two boys that the vast majority would assume one of the boys was [name]Wesley[/name]. I think you should look for another name that you both really like.

My friend has a Wesleigh …

I can see [name]Wesley[/name] gaining for girls in the years to come, due to similarity with [name]Leslie[/name], and because of its fading use for boys. That said, I think a) people will think she is a [name]Leslie[/name] and b) [name]Everly[/name] and [name]Wesley[/name] are sort of singsongy together, so that would be enough for me to have it not be a top contendor, gender issues aside. All that said, do it if you like, it won’t be horribly out of place with the sibset and even if people are startled by [name]Wesley[/name] on a girl I think they’ll quickly enough adjust once they know her, but, I think there are better names out there.

Here are some that come to mind:
[name]Addison[/name] (more popular to go with [name]Logan[/name])
[name]Afton[/name] (goes well with [name]Everly[/name])
[name]Bellamy[/name] (goes with the [name]Bella[/name] trend to give her some popularity like [name]Logan[/name], but still rarer, more uni. A little rhymey with [name]Everly[/name]).
Bethlehem (Biblical like [name]Ransom[/name], easy nickname [name]Beth[/name])
[name]Cecily[/name] (rare but traditional name, sound overlap with [name]Wesley[/name] - still singsony with [name]Everly[/name] a bit)
[name]Cicely[/name] (rare but traditional name, sound overlap with [name]Wesley[/name] - still singsongy with [name]Everly[/name] a bit)
[name]Jericho[/name] (Biblical like [name]Ransom[/name])
[name]Jessamy[/name] (rare but more familiar [name]Jess[/name] available, has some sound overlap with [name]Wesley[/name])
[name]Madison[/name] (more popular to go with [name]Logan[/name], works much better on a girl than [name]Mason[/name])
[name]Michal[/name] (Biblical, masculine sound, but traditionally feminine, rare but familiar)
[name]Noa[/name] (Biblical, masculine sound, but traditionally feminine, rare on a girl at least)
[name]Thessaly[/name] (sound overlap with [name]Wesley[/name], rare, has Biblical connections, Thessalonians)
[name]Winslet[/name] (shares several sounds with [name]Wesley[/name] and is a surname but feminine due to association with the actress, more distinct in sound from [name]Everly[/name])

Good luck!


I think [name]Wesley[/name] would be adorable in the middle. I would even do [name]Mary[/name] [name]Wesley[/name] & call her [name]Wesley[/name]…that way she would have an obvious gender on paperwork and such.

I could see the feminine ‘look’ to the name…like [name]Maisie[/name] or [name]Everly[/name], but it’s so boyish to me & I immediately think of [name]Wesley[/name] Snipes.

[name]Presley[/name] has a girlier feel to it. Or [name]Jessa[/name] or [name]Tessa[/name] or Tesla.

A lot of names have a similar sound that could be better fn options.

I cannot stand the idea of boys names on girls, [name]Wesley[/name] included. [name]Mason[/name] is not more unisex to me than [name]Wesley[/name], [name]Wesley[/name]'s more unisex imo.

[name]Just[/name] because [name]Ashley[/name] was a boys name that turned into a girls name doesn’t mean that other boys name should follow suit.

At any rate, you already have an [name]Everly[/name], having a [name]Wesley[/name]'s not hat big of a deal.

Jesba - I think you summed up everything I was thinking already. Thanks for the name suggestions (not that I"m not grateful for everyone else’s btw) you just seemed to hit a lot of the ones I’ve toyed with. [name]Afton[/name] was on my list (DH vetoed.) and I toyed with [name]Bellamy[/name] (DH vetoed) [name]Jericho[/name] is a name that my ODS suggested which I could see on a boy but not a girl…

I don’t know why this baby is being so hard to name! I really don’t seem to like anything. [name]Verity[/name] is the only thing on my list and I’m not really 100% on that even!

Maybe [name]Vesper[/name] if you like [name]Verity[/name]? Or [name]Amity[/name]?

We know a Weslie, and she is VERY girly. And I think the ie ending is a dead giveaway that she is female, so I’d encourage that spelling.

I know too many boys named [name]Wesley[/name] for it every to be a girls names. Maybe something like [name]Harper[/name], [name]Avery[/name], [name]Darcy[/name] or [name]Delaney[/name] would be a good alternative. Unisex, with a lee ending, like [name]Everley[/name].

I think [name]Wesley[/name] is cute for a girl! And I [name]LOVE[/name] the suggestion of [name]Winslet[/name]. I also like [name]Mason[/name], [name]Eliot[/name], [name]Charley[/name], [name]Monroe[/name], [name]Lennox[/name], and [name]Chandler[/name] for girls.

[name]Wesley[/name] is #156 in popularity -for boys, according to NB & babynames.com. Since it’s so popular for boys right now, it doesn’t seem to be the right time to give it as a name for a little girl.

These may have been suggested already, because I haven’t read the lists of names of pp, but what about:
Raylene or Raylyn
[name]Leitha[/name] (name of river in Germany)
[name]Winslet[/name] -very cute name as suggested by pp, but will everyone ask if you are a fan of [name]Kate[/name] [name]Winslet[/name]'s -the actress?

I hope you can find a name you love! Or, you could make a list and do what my friend’s mother did… she went through the list and watched her baby’s face. When she got to [name]Genevieve[/name], baby smiled, so that’s what she was named. :slight_smile:

[name]How[/name] about [name]Willoughby[/name], [name]Wyndham[/name] (nn [name]Winnie[/name]) or [name]Whitney[/name]? All are last names that have become first names, and all would work well for a girl.

Other non-W alternatives that fit into the same vein as [name]Wesley[/name]: [name]Avery[/name], [name]Aubrey[/name], [name]Darcy[/name], [name]Delaney[/name], [name]Finley[/name], [name]Flannery[/name], [name]Hilary[/name], [name]Kelsey[/name], [name]Keeley[/name], [name]Kerry[/name], [name]Lindsay[/name], [name]Marley[/name], [name]Peyton[/name], [name]Presley[/name], [name]Perry[/name], [name]Quincy[/name], [name]Raleigh[/name], [name]Selby[/name], [name]Shelby[/name], [name]Sydney[/name], [name]Zooey[/name]. Good luck!