Not sure if this has been done before, but… what is the WORST name you have ever heard?
The worst name entirely would be [name_f]Dejah[/name_f], pronounced [name_u]Day[/name_u]-shaw. It just seems to have come out of nowhere, and it’s like it was pulled from a hat.
The worst spelling was Lynnzee for [name_u]Lindsay[/name_u]/[name_u]Lindsey[/name_u].
Wow, those are even worse than Nikishi…
I don’t agree with these kinda threads. No one wants to see a name they love completely torn to shreds by another user. What may seem horrible to me is lovely to someone else.
I respect your opinion.
Not everyone is going to like every single name, but I respect your opinion.
No, you’re right, they won’t. But what is there to gain from people discussing the ‘worst’ names and people who like said names just seeing them being bashed? I understand people don’t all like the same names, but threads like these can hurt.
Second this. Admittedly, there are a lot of names that I dislike, although I hold my tongue because taste is super subjective and I don’t want to make anyone feel as though they’ve chosen a “bad” name. They only names I’m comfortable criticizing are the ones that are obscene or hateful, such as naming your child after a prominent Nazi or with a cuss word. When asked for feedback from expecting parents on a specific name or a list of names, I’m honest if something doesn’t appeal, but once a child has been given a name I can almost always find something positive about it.
But see, that is what I am referring to specifically. When I say “worst names”, I mean the kind of names that people will bully the child over, although I didn’t specify that in the original post.
[QUOTE=jonquils;4557453]I agree that these types of threads aren’t necessary. Obviously we all have encountered names that aren’t to our specific tastes, but parents spend so long picking the perfect name for their child, whatever the perfect name means to them. Why be so negative about what should be a beautiful thing, unless the name is offensive? I wouldn’t name my child [name_f]Tiara[/name_f], but I don’t think that it would be right for me to bash that name, because whomever names their child [name_f]Tiara[/name_f] probably put a lot of time and effort into coming up with that name, and I want to respect that.[/QUOTE.
I’m saying this as respectfully as I possibly can…
I respect your opinion, but I disagree with it. If you think “These types of threads aren’t necessary”, then you shouldn’t have clicked on this thread and commented on it.
I’m saying this as respectfully as I possibly can…
I respect your opinion, but I disagree with it. If you think “These types of threads aren’t necessary”, then you shouldn’t have clicked on this thread and commented on it. Why did you need to make a comment if you don’t like it? [name_m]Just[/name_m] ignore it and move on. Sorry, but I’m not closing this thread just because you think it isn’t necessary.
I’m going to respectfully disagree with the above. I think expressing concern was an okay thing to do, as the impact of threads like these can be negative on the NB community. If someone is simply perusing and happens upon this thread, and their name or the name of their child is on it, that’s painful. [name_m]IRL[/name_m], people get made fun of and criticized for their names or the names of their children, which is a terrible experience, and the same goes for seeing someone bash your name/your child’s online. It’s just not constructive and invalidating.
Honestly, I agree that sometimes people are made fun of their name and it’s hurtful, but I don’t see why discussing names you don’t like is “a negative impact on the NB community”. Obviously, we should always be respectful with the things we say, but not discussing the names we dislike is not gonna make the person with such name not made fun of, everyone is made fun of their names at least once in their lives. I personally have a pretty basic name (quite common where I live) and people always make stupid jokes about it, but I don’t get hurt anymore, because what’s the point of me feeling like that? I know I have to be tough because there are worse things that could happen to me and honestly, I sometimes roll with the joke because I’ve learned to loosen up, I respect myself and non of those things will hurt me enough to break me.
We all have things we like and dislike, that’s how the world works, we can agree on some things and disagree on others, it doesn’t mean that if you disagree with me on something I’m wrong or you are wrong (depending on what it is obviously). We can all have different opinions and it’s interesting to see what people think of some names.
Now, on the “parents taking the time to choose a name for their kids” situation isn’t always true. Sometimes some parents couldn’t care less about their kids names. I’ve known of people who let others choose their kid’s names or they choose random names that they don’t care about or they make up names that are quite bad (spelling, sound, meaning, associations, easy for people to make fun of, etc.), tbh. And you can notice right away that they didn’t have a single thought on their names. It’s even more hurtful for a parent to call their kids some names that could potentially be very difficult to deal with throughout their kids’ lives than someone making a dumb joke, because the parent made that possible, they gave people the outlet for that to happen.
I just don’t think blaming parents for their child getting teased for their name is the answer. Sure, like I said in a previous post, it’s fair to criticize an obscene/offensive name, but I don’t think it’s fair to put the onus on a parent for other people’s bad behavior. I have a super unusual name, and get made fun of for it all the time. Luckily, I have developed a thick skin, but the onus wasn’t on me to do that, it was on other people to be respectful and not discount it and not make assumptions. And that’s the thing: I don’t think this discussion was created or posed in a respectful manner at all. It doesn’t seem to promote any nuanced thinking or respect for the names you don’t like. Also, for people who have been hurt badly and are down on their self-esteem, why add insult to injury by potentially mocking their name on a generally supportive community? Sure, some parents don’t put a ton of thought into their kids’ names, but the vast majority do, and the assumption that someone didn’t just can’t be made. Also, it’s not the child’s fault that their name was decided on in a thoughtless manner, so why provide additional teasing or negative comments? Ultimately, I think there’s a way to discuss names we dislike in a respectfully framed way, it’s just that “worst names ever” is awfully harsh. It isn’t that discussing names you don’t like is hurtful to the NB community, it’s how it’s being done.
I knew about a couple who wanted to name their daughter after a part of the female anatomy ( possible nn would rhyme with “lit”) because they thought it meant “feminine “. Thankfully, they were talked out of it.
There are plenty of similar threads already.