I wrote a bit about [name]Doris[/name] in particular a while ago when I first started posting. I understand where you’re coming from - to me, it has sort of an ideal sound. Unlike you, I do hear how a name sounds and see how it looks and associate it positively or negatively on that basis. If I can be swayed by an image or a person of that name, so much the better, but I don’t like names just because I love people in my family. Secretly, I like some names better but I’m not crazy about the person, let’s just say her “name” starts with M and ends with M. I love her but jeez, not enough to blatantly honor her, maybe TMI, but I don’t think she deserves it.
Anyway, I am in my late 30s now so it could be all but too late to discuss this any way but academically. There are a lot of names I think should stay in the attic and would never endorse them that go about here. I’m not an “I like this kind of name” namer - I have eclectic tastes, and I just like the sound that [name]Doris[/name] has and turn it over and over and wonder why among so many “offbeat,” clunky suggestions that I just can’t figure out, why this doesn’t sound like a nice name to just about everyone.
I agree mostly with [name]Jill[/name] that some names just get put in the vault for the time being and gradually come out as people seek an alternative that just sounds better or less common than a name that’s already on the playground or in the children of the family. When [name]Jennifer[/name] got really tired and poor [name]Jessica[/name] tried and failed to keep the torch lit, people still liked those names. Enter [name]Emily[/name]: she gives permission to all to dare to scour the attic and the family tree. While you like [name]Dorothy[/name], I don’t really so much, and you don’t like [name]Beatrice[/name], but I think that one’s ok. [name]Genevieve[/name] takes up where [name]Jennifer[/name] left off, and then people take that -vieve to mind, and say, what about [name]Vivian[/name] now? I don’t understand the name [name]Sophia[/name]'s popularity, but I can definitely feel the vibe for [name]Olivia[/name] - that one just seems like, where’s it been all my life? It seems to emerge from the cocoon of [name]Alicia[/name]. [name]Just[/name] a day or so ago, someone proposed [name]Eartha[/name] and initially, I thought YUCK, but deliberated to discover how interestingly it sparks off [name]Ella[/name], [name]Emma[/name], [name]Ava[/name], and [name]Etta[/name]… I don’t think we’re all the way to [name]Irma[/name] yet. [name]Edna[/name], I can totally see, despite its honorary place in title to the list of names that will never ever be cool again. If people can like [name]Eugenia[/name] and [name]Edith[/name], I do think [name]Edna[/name] will occur to someone as cool sooner or later. It won’t be me, but I can picture the day.
I don’t tend to agree with the so-called 100-year rule about names. It may be because I am older and 100 years before my time is earlier than most young moms who post for advice and chatter here. I will mostly tend to listen to a name from any period of time, most often well under 100 years, and primarily associate the coolness of a name, or rather the niceness, on primarily how it sounds and fits a young girl. I still like my name and note that it is still in the top 200 despite peaking at 3rd in 1965. I think there are a handful of names over time that feel “just right” like my name has always felt to me, and [name]Doris[/name] is one of them.
I keep saying most of the coolest people I’ve met have a name that’s only about 20-30 years out of date, not cool enough for a mass revival, and as such, uncommon, which is a quality people seek in names. I think we may be changing schemes much faster since this has become more of a concern.
There are still some names that despite sounding almost perfect do not feel young enough (to me) for me to think that a child will appreciate much having it. I think people will like their name if it sounds nice and not think too hard that they ought to be featured in a poly-dent ad or driving their kid off to college in the reliable minivan.
Some names I like that not everyone likes or knows I like (some I have mentioned before), some of which I like despite aforementioned reasons I wouldn’t like them but do anyway:
Some names I will never understand (well I understand them a little):
*I used to understand [name]Hazel[/name] and now I don’t.
**[name]Daisy[/name] will always have to be my dog’s name and not a real name. I don’t now give my animals people names because.
***For some reason, people seem to avoid [name]Beverly[/name] in droves. I understand [name]Beverly[/name]. [name]Waverly[/name] happens to be the model name of my handbag, which is the only time I’ve ever felt true love for a handbag, and I think we will be mates for life.
As you can see, this is just a jumble from all over. I like a name or don’t like it, don’t care when it was popular, or if it’s just too popular now, as long as I think it’s a decent tag to go through life with. I’m not even trying to outhip the hipsters! I couldn’t care less. As long as I feel that a name is decent, it will hopefully serve well.
I think I’m an odd one here for not liking or thinking to suggest a lot of usable names, or names people would consider usable, actually is what I mean. I sometimes have a burst of inspiration, but mostly I take names already out there and figure out how I feel about them, and for the most part, there’s no harm in choosing a name I think might be awful. I think that’s the most interesting thing is that people have their own families and histories and experiences and preferences to combine with another parent, which is what names are useful for - calling one person something different than another person. Simple. It’s one of the most interesting things to me that your choice is different from my choice, infinitely more interesting than if we all thought the same name was cool or had the same reasons for picking from the same well-liked list of suggestions.
In the interest of balance, my favorite boy names tend to be dull like [name]Daniel[/name], [name]John[/name], [name]Timothy[/name], [name]Charles[/name]. [name]May[/name] go so far exotic as [name]Donovan[/name] or [name]Griffin[/name] or [name]Ethan[/name], not very exciting, old-fashioned, new-fashioned or ethnic. I might like something really rad once in a while, but I haven’t given it a lot of thought.