Feminine names, masculine names and names used for both.
I tried typing this out using general descriptions, but it got too confusing so Ill use hypothetical situations to make the questions more clear.
If [name]Quinn[/name] (g) is first should the future siblings also have a unisex name like [name]Morgan[/name], [name]Taylor[/name] or [name]Harper[/name]? then no one will be able to tell on paper who are the boys and who are the girls
If [name]Quinn/name is first should the future siblings have more gender distinct names like [name]Isabelle[/name] and [name]Oliver[/name]? But then that leaves [name]Quinn[/name] up for assumption and misplacement.
Flipside:
if [name]Isla[/name], [name]Wyatt[/name] are first then it leaves [name]Rowan[/name] up for assumption.
Now for me, my girls are [name]Tess[/name] and [name]Kaia[/name]. My dh and I love several unisex names and would have no problem using them. Some have advised to shy away from unisex names for me because [name]Rory[/name] or [name]Quinn[/name] would look like [name]Tess[/name] and [name]Kaia[/name]'s brother not sister.
So if you dont use unisex first, is it out altogether? Or if you use unisex first are you confined to follow a unisex pattern?
Is it ok to have them together in a sibset?
Here is my take on unisex names. You can only use them for one gender within a sibset.
[name]Quinn[/name] (b) would then have sisters with super girly names like [name]Emily[/name] and [name]Catherine[/name]
[name]Quinn[/name] (g) would have brothers with very masculine names like [name]John[/name] and [name]George[/name]
[name]Quinn[/name] (b) and [name]Sawyer[/name] (b) and [name]Isabella[/name]
[name]Quinn[/name] (g) and [name]Sawyer[/name] (g) and [name]William[/name]
I think poptart’s guidelines are pretty good. If you have kids of both genders, it’s best to make sure that the gender that doesn’t get the unisex names is very apparent. Since you and your husband only have girls though (and with very feminine names), I don’t think using a unisex name would be a problem. If you introduce three girls as [name]Tess[/name], [name]Kaia[/name] and [name]Quinn[/name], no one is going to assume that [name]Quinn[/name] is a boy. And if you have one boy, it’ll be obvious by the names which one is the boy. I think the only time unisex names cause a problem if is you have a sister and brother who both have unisex names and people aren’t sure which one is [name]Quinn[/name] and which one is [name]Taylor[/name] when you introduce them (especially if you give a boy a more feminine unisex name like [name]Ashley[/name] or a girl a more masculine unisex name like [name]Riley[/name]).