What to do with girl names I love but can’t use/shouldn’t be on my list?

Some of my favourite names don’t work in my language or I can’t use them because of other things so I feel like I should take them off my list :pensive: but I’m kind of unsure about what I should do with these, should I look for alternatives or just give up on them or use them for other purposes (characters etc.)?

girl names I probably can’t use and the reasons why I can’t use them

[name_f]Aurora[/name_f] (a very close friend of mine has this as her MN - I love the name but don’t want to feel like I’m stealing her name)
[name_f]Daphne[/name_f] (doesn’t work in Finnish, don’t like any variants either)
[name_f]Faye[/name_f] (doesn’t work in Finnish)
[name_f]Fleur[/name_f] (doesn’t work in Finnish)
[name_f]Flora[/name_f] (might feel too tied to a person I like but wouldn’t want to honor)

All of these are my faves but I especially love [name_f]Aurora[/name_f], [name_f]Daphne[/name_f] and [name_f]Flora[/name_f]!

I would like to hear some thoughts / advice on this situation and feel free to ask anything if you need to!

[name_f]Aurora[/name_f]
Could you talk to your friend about it, to see how would she feel if you used it? Is it vaguely popular where you are, so it might look less like ‘stealing’? Would you mind it looking like it an honour for her?
It is a lovely name - [name_f]Astoria[/name_f], [name_f]Aurelia[/name_f], [name_f]Elora[/name_f], [name_f]Astraea[/name_f] feel similar?

[name_f]Daphne[/name_f]
A lovely name, strong but sweet, clunky but cute. Still, if you don’t love the variants and it doesn’t work in Finnish, I’d say keep it on your list, either for future characters or just to make combos for fun! Not sure how it would work, but could you use it as a middle, where it wouldn’t be said so often?

[name_f]Faye[/name_f]
[name_f]Pretty[/name_f] much the same as above, keep it on the list, for characters or just to play about with?
[name_f]Fia[/name_f], Seija, [name_f]Fredrika[/name_f] ‘Fae’, Teija give me slightly similar vibes?

[name_f]Fleur[/name_f]
Same as above - keep on the list, consider for a middle (if allowed)

[name_f]Flora[/name_f]
That’s a tough one - is the person likely to be in your life forever? Would everyone around you associate it with that person? Is it their exact name and would they think they were being honoured?

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I don’t think you should completely abandon them, but maybe repurpose them like you said. The reasons you listed make sense for if you’re naming a child but don’t seem like a big enough deal that you shouldn’t use them for anything. I’d suggest saving them for characters like you mentioned, or maybe pets if you think you’d ever keep any.

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Maybe you can just keep two lists? One with realistic names and one with all names you love!

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I keep lists for family members or as recommendations to friends of the family, etc (if it’s a beautiful name and I can’t use it I still like to see it used for someone else’s child and I can’t use them all anyways!). [name_u]Or[/name_u] if I can’t use names that are very close to me for any reason I mentally store them for possible future use (grandchildren maybe?)

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[name_f]Aurora[/name_f] sounds perfectly usuable for you. I suspect if you spoke to your friend, she would feel honoured. I doubt she’d think you were ‘stealing’ it.

[name_f]Daphne[/name_f] and [name_f]Faye[/name_f] might work as middle names.
[name_f]Aurora[/name_f] [name_f]Daphne[/name_f] [name_f]Faye[/name_f] has a lovely ring to it. [name_f]Flora[/name_f] could also be a middle name option, though if you are worried it would be considered an honour name, use it for a character or a recommendation for someone else.