I see middle names’ purpose solely as honoring the family (or perhaps a significant event/place). I have to admit, I’m surprised how many people just seem to use something out of thin air. This may be influenced by the fact that my two brothers both have family middle names, and mine is random. My mom has expressed disappointment in herself for not giving me a family name as well, and I agree with her.
I guess I see them as placeholders, so you may as well make someone happy by honoring them. But I’m curious to hear from the other side, too – were you just going for aesthetically pleasing sound? Meaning? What’s the story behind your kiddos’ middle names?
That said, my first children is [name]Ronan[/name] Edgar___. We broke naming tradition for him; according to my husband’s family, he should have been [name]William[/name] [name]Edgar[/name]. (My husband adamantly did not want to continue this tradition.) [name]Edgar[/name] is also DH’s middle name – it is DH’s great-grandmother’s maiden name ([name]Susan[/name] [name]Edgar[/name]).
My daughter is [name]Beatrix[/name] [name]Carol[/name] ___, after my mother. She was either going to have my middle name or my mom’s. While I’m not crazy about the flow of the name (or the name [name]Carol[/name] itself, for that matter), it was very important to me to honor my mom.